we read here all the time and i just dont get it. i love my...,but... mistake...cheated. these three words in one sentense just dont go together it digusts me that people even consider anyone taking them seriously. how can cheating be a mistake? its not like they didnt know what they were doing!
2007-08-02 06:24:18 · 29 answers · asked by not this way 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, i am not experienced enough when it comes to making that kind of mistake. i am actually 36 and so far lived a good life without being unfaithful.
2007-08-02 06:37:56 · update #1
no its doesnt match. I believe if you are thinking of cheating then that means you should be with the person your with. I would never dream of cheating on my bf. I do understand what u say it doesnt make sense but sometimes love blinds you and u dont see the truth. Plus some people can talk there way into anything if your gulliable to believe it. I know a few friends that let there guys just cheat and they say he didnt mean to and so on.... i tried talkign to them but i gave up. Ii just hate seeing them cry and then happy then cry its like dont u see what he does but they say he loves me ect.... some people i think also get so attached to teh other they dont think they can move on so they let them treat them like ****..
2007-08-02 06:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by davidslilprincess 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Thank you BabeHeart for the definition of a mistake...yes I agree that with that in mind most people who cheat are in fact making a "mistake". I think the way they handle it is what counts most...do they own up to it?? Do they admit yes I made a mistake...I'm sorry...and do what it takes to correct the problem?? Or do they lie about it even after it's out? I think most people who have been cheated on would agree that what happens after is so very important.
2007-08-02 13:40:41 · answer #2 · answered by happyladyj3 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Love is blind. And everyone hopes to love and be loved. Love is a process which happens naturally. Everyone is spoiled for choices... Cheating is just a process when the one u love fell in love with someone else. Then, ask urself.. "Can s/he provide the best for ur partner?"
Cheating is a mistake but not being truthful to each other. But imagine what happens if ur partner tells u about it? Who wants to create more problems for themselves?
Sit down and talk openly about it. Give them time to decide for themselves. U cant possibly expect them to choose someone which they know they wont be happy with.
Everyone wants to "live happily ever after" with their partners. U need to play a part in maintaining a healthy relationship too. We are not perfect for everyone.. But anyone who comes into our lives are there to let us learn something..
If ur partner decides to be with another, give him ur blessing and let him go. Pointing fingers at them would only waste ur time in finding ur own happiness.
Love is not about possession.. Everyone wants to find their own happiness. If u feel u can make this work, then find the problem and solve them. Why shud ur partner find someone else if u think u are the best for him? Are u not having what he expects from his partner?
Its up to u to change, improve or do nothing about it. Its how much u want this relationship to last and how far u want it to go. If he doesnt think the same way as u do, then search for ur own happiness who want to realise ur dreams together with u. Im sure there will be one person who would think the same way as u do.
2007-08-02 13:39:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Cheating's no accident and it's also no mistake. Don't you despise it when people say: "I cheated but it was an accident"?
Did you ever see The Last Boyscout with Bruce Willis? He finds out that his wife's been cheating on him with a friend of his and the guy gives Willis that line to which Willis replies. "An accident. . . so you just tripped and your d**k just landed in my wife?" Vulgar, but it makes sense.
Cheating is never an accident or mistake. The only correct term I can give is "a really bad choice". And when you really love someone and they're really good to you, there is NO excuse for infidelity. None except for the fact that you got hot and couldn't keep your underwear on.
2007-08-02 13:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by Raingirl 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
A mistake is done without any knowledge of wrong doing, now how you handle the situation after the mistake is what will show/tell were your heart truly lies. I hear what you're saying. But we have to label it (cheating the first time anyway) that way as we are only human, & are not prefect.
2007-08-02 13:42:14 · answer #5 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
And you know what, it is fine for you to feel that way, but it doesnt mean that everyone does. Nor does it mean that you have any right to make others feel bad because their opinion doesnt match yours. I doubt many of the people who did these things are proud, and if they are they have more problems than just cheating. I also doubt that even if they believe in what they did and their right to do it, that they would try to tell you that you SHOULD do it. So why is it ok for you to look down on them?
2007-08-02 13:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by Bite me 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it isnt a mistake in term of oops i slipped and fell into her. it is a mistake in judgement. it is losing sight of your relationship and how you feel and surrendering to your lusts. it is many things. mistake doesnt always mean an oops, it can also mean making a bad choice. yes, i cheated. yes, i loved my wife. yes, it was the biggest mistake of my life.
don't judge these people until you are there. my wife always swore she would leave if i did this, but it isnt so easy when you have kids, a home, a life of years together. sometimes people do change, even low-life cheaters like me.
2007-08-02 13:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by ohiojeff 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can love someone and still screw them over. A cheater makes a choice to put their lust in front of their love for at least long enough to have sex. Once they get caught and start dealing with the reprocussions it dawns on them what kind of mistake they've made.
I'm not the type to accept 'I made a mistake'. My answer to that is 'Yes you did and it is too bad for both of us'.
2007-08-02 13:51:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Never say never until you've walked a mile in someone else's shoes.
I do not support cheating, but it has happened and it is possible to love two people at the same time (mostly because neither of them fully fullfill you).
Sometimes a "mistake" makes you realize what you have and sometimes what you need.
2007-08-02 13:45:13 · answer #9 · answered by wonder222 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It's a mistake because they got caught. Cheating on a loved one, or anyone for that matter is wrong. I've had it happen twice and it really, really hurts. To the point I've turned off any kind of need for closeness to anyone. I just don't want to feel that kind of hurt any more.
2007-08-02 13:33:17 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly773 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The definition of mistake is "an error in action, calculation, opinion, or judgment caused by poor reasoning, carelessness, insufficient knowledge, etc"
By that definintion, I think cheating would qualify as a mistake for a fair % of people who do it.
That doesn't justify it...but for some (a drunken night out for example) it's true.
2007-08-02 13:27:13 · answer #11 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋