Ever get in a bad mood and your're just bitchy for no reason that you can figure out? Well that's the way I'm feeling today, and my husband says that I take out my moods on him and that if work is annoying me so much - then I should just lash out at the people here that are annoying me.
It's not the people, or the work - I just don't want to be in work at all lately - just so lazy. And that's not why I'm in a mood...I don't know why I'm in a mood...I just am not happy today. And I feel like I'm going to snap every time someone asks me to do something for them.
Why can't he understand that sometimes I dont' know why I'm in a bad mood? And leave it at that and stop digging for reasons?
2007-08-02 06:11:46 · 21 answers · asked by starryeyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks to all who responded. I will take your advice! I realize that he is only trying to help and that I should be happy I have a man who cares why I am upset.
Thanks again. =)
2007-08-02 06:29:49 · update #1
Because most men don't get those emotions. Most men that I know have trouble emphasizing with things that they have not experienced personally. All you can do is try to make him understand that it isn't him, and apologize if you snap at him, because he doesn't deserve it, but that sometimes your emotions are hard to control.
2007-08-02 06:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand where you're coming from. However, instead of sitting around feeling sorry for yourself, you need to do something positive and constructive. Take a walk, go swimming, do something where you are not around your husband. Take up a new hobby like photography or writing. Asl long as you're in a bad mood, then other people will be in a bad mood as well. If your work is bothering you, then maybe you need to take some time off or find another job/career.
Also, you may need to get a physical. Maybe it's your hormones that make you feel cranky all the time.
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2007-08-02 13:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by sunny 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think he does have a point. Why is it that when one gets in such a mood they lash out at those who are closest to them? Sure, it may seem safe, but if he is experiencing some distress over this he has a legitimate right to bring it up with you. Start with a doctor. This could be a PMS kind of thing, it may be something else....or may not be. Once the medical is checked then the emotional...go to a counselor and find out appropriate ways to express your mood with out taking it out.
I hope you feel better soon.
2007-08-02 13:20:57 · answer #3 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to figure out why you are so B***** for no reason....there is always a reason. If you keep acting like this and do not try to stop this behavior, he will get tired of it and you might just be losing out on a husband who cares enough to ask and make sure his woman is OK. Sounds like depressed about job, life, marriage, etc........When we are annoyed, it is usually other things that are really getting to us. Could it be hormonal? What is really bothering you????
2007-08-02 13:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by kymmy_kins 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Could be the first stage of menopause there are three stages we go through.Have you notice you sweat more then usually like putting on your make-up or any sudden movement you start to get a hot flash then it goes away as fast as it came.Mood swings are the worse because you could be calm and happy then one little word can set you off and there is no stopping once you start.
2007-08-02 13:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard for men to understand that sometimes women are moody for reasons we can't put our finger on because they have a need to "fix" all problems. Especially when his woman is unhappy...he sounds like he really loves you and truly wants to help. Try your best not to snap at him...I know it can be hard but realize that snapping at him will probably only start a fight and that will just add to your irritability. Would it help to have a good cry?? That helps me...it relieves tension and I can think more clearly after wards. Men don't understand that either. Try to let him know you appreciate his wanting to help, let him know you love him and if you have snapped at him for no reason...apologize.
2007-08-02 13:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by happyladyj3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl I feel the same way right now I'm going to go crazy maybe its really bad PMS that's the only thing i can think of. Or you finally have had enough of a few thing and you aren't going to take it any more so instead of being a push over your standing up for yourself. I'm sure it will go away hop fully soon for the both of us. good luck
2007-08-02 13:26:29 · answer #7 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depending on your age, it could be a variety of things. If you're in your 30's or 40's then it could be the girlie things going on. I'd check with the doc.
LOL, just FYI...i'm in the same boat. In fact, going to the doc today, and taking all the filled up "body bags" I have been saving up, so he'll see I mean what I say..
As for your ? about your hubby.... he just loves you and wants you to be happy, and hasn't gotten the "right" way down pat yet as to how to offer his help.
2007-08-02 13:23:18 · answer #8 · answered by sunflowergal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men like to solve problems. We are creatures of logic. While women are creatures of hormones. You can hate me all ya want but it is true. Hopefully he will realize this someday and just go with the flow...(You really shouldnt take out your bad days on the husband though, he might decide that you dont want him anymore.)
2007-08-02 13:25:03 · answer #9 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No I never get in a rotten mood for no reason and expect my husband to "understand" or deal with it. If you can't find a reason to be miserable, then stop it. That's the way immature little children behave--they act like babies for no reason and want everyone to placate them
You're a mature grown adult married woman- start counting your blessings if you can't find a reason to be a btich
2007-08-02 13:20:50 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋