2007-08-02 03:54:51 · 21 answers · asked by freekeswar 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
An open mind and open heart.
Trust. ( in all aspects of life )
Mutual Admiration! ( I'm his cat's meow and he's my lion)
Respect. ( enough said)
The ability to release control to another when the situation warrants ( to give up the remote control lol.... just to be able to have enough faith in your partner that they can make rational and good decisions.. in other words to let "my guy" be the king of his castle)
Faithfulness ( to know I'm his and he's mine for forever and a day)
Unconditional Love ( for when we make mistakes)
Spontaneity ( to spice things up when we've been there and done that)
Sense of Humor ( for when he leaves the toilet seat up and I fall in lol!)
A sense of self ( individuality It's good to have separate interests.... who wants to be with someone identical to them.... it's like looking in a mirror all the time.)
Strength, Courage & Endurance ( to hold each other up through the bad times and stand strong together through the good)
The ability to know life is a roller coaster and there will be good and bad...... but also to know that even thought the twists and turns may be some of the most trying things you have ever been through they too were also some of the best !
2007-08-02 04:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine's Pic Is on 360 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an absolutely awesome book that I have found that kind of answers this. It is called Project Everlasting . It is about two bachelors who travel the U.S. in search of couples who have been married for 40 or more years. They interview them and ask the very question you are asking. It is so neat to read about other peoples stories and find out what they feel are important aspects for keeping a marriage alive. They call the couples Marriage Masters. It is an absolutely wonderful book. Good luck to you!!
2007-08-02 04:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by IvyDale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband would say earplugs LOL
good communication, trust, intimacy (not just sex but all intimacy like deep discussions cuddling etc.) respect and a commitment to work it out no matter what. If you go into marriage thinking if he/she does this I'm outta here then it tends to end rather quickly. Everything I ever said I would leave my husband over he has done, luckily I was all talk. He no longer does any of those things. He is a wonderful devoted husband and father and I am so thrilled we stuck it out during the rough times.
2007-08-02 04:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's important not to lose who you are and what your interests are. Even though you and your spouse are one, it's important that you both do things separately to have your own sense of individually. You both won't like everything the other does, so you need to respect that. (as long as it isn't hurting the relationship). Be sure to trust, trust, trust. Nothing kills a relationship like a jealous spouse. Always give respect and no matter how angry you are with him/her, walk away and come back and state your position when you are calmed down.
2007-08-02 04:03:34 · answer #4 · answered by Hannah's Mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Truly, after assisting many couples, everything boils down to the base element: communication.
Emotions will override a lack of proper communication for only so long, but eventually, it goes back to the foundational and fundamental necessity of learning how to communicate properly with your spouse. Everything on top of that is either a band-aid or symptom-aid.
How do you know what "little things" to do for her that will make her feel loved? Starts with communication.
How do you know what he/she likes, what hurts them, what meets their individual needs, etc? Starts with communication.
Without working hard to talk, listen and communicate properly, it can be a "hit and miss" in meeting each other's needs.
Of course, this is just my opinion. =)
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2007-08-02 04:20:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust, Love, Respect, Devotion, Loyalty, Passion, Communication, Honesty, Faithfulness, Patience, Intimacy(not just intercourse), Team work, Keeping time for yourself ect..
Hope i helped:)
2007-08-02 04:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What Steve J said is very true. If only most of the people that are married would've answered this beforehand, it'd be sooo much easier, and less stressful!!!
2007-08-02 04:08:45 · answer #7 · answered by Floridarock 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with all of your responses. Including lilly l's. I have talked to so many people and they said the same thing. Happy couples are usually best friends. My sister and her husband are best friend. I asked her husband and he said it hands down. Unfortunately, I wish I was in my husband's "best friend" category.
2007-08-02 06:11:44 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love. Communication, date night, trust, respect, loyalty, honesty.
2007-08-02 04:07:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication, trust, respect, love, understanding, friendship, compassion, humor
2007-08-02 04:08:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋