I asked him why he cant say it anymore and he said he wants to wait for a special time to say it again, and not use it everyday...he has also the way he kisses and makes love to me should be a good enough answer and that should say it all about how he feels about me, he also cooks us dinner and kisses me everyday before and after he goes to work and comes home. He holds my hand in public and has kissed me in public too, so I dont think he is hiding anything...he is also 37 and I am 27. So is it possible he does love me or is he just too scared??? help?
2007-08-02 04:35:19 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I kind of understand what he is trying to say, sometimes I feel the same way. My husband, at times, will say I love you numerous time in a short amount of time, and after awhile I feel that it loses its meaning. Maybe he wants to say it only when he truly feels that it is appropriate and truly meaningful,
2007-08-02 04:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by miss_vixen_1985 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not scared, and just because he doesn't say it all the time it doesn't mean he doesn't love you (in the same way that it doesn't mean someone really loves you when they say "I love you" all the time). It sounds to me like he's a "do-er", not a "say-er". He feels that actions speak louder than words. He probably simply doesn't appreciate the fact that some people need verbal reassurance *in addition* to the actions. Perhaps in time he will get more attuned to your needs, and might start saying it more just because YOU need it, even if it doesn't mean much to him. Or maybe you will become more secure in the relationship, and you won't need it as much. My husband and I rarely, if ever, say "I love you"; we both feel that it is the way we act towards each other, not what we say, that matters. We've been together for almost 3 years, and I have no doubt that he loves me; all the verbal stuff is really unnecessary. Perhaps I don't put much stock in "saying" it because the person I had been married to in the past used to say it all the time, and showered me with compliments and attention - however, one day he simply walked out without prior warning to be with someone else. Don't get too hung up on words; bet on the actions, and see how it goes. Good luck.
2007-08-02 11:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He Loves you. If he doesn't say it, he probably is making sure that the relationship is going to work. Just keep going with what you guys have. It may be difficult for him to open up and express his feelings in words. Some guys feel that words are not enough and that they have to SHOW the person they Love how they feel through physical doings.
Here's what you need to do: Tell him that he doesn't have to DO things to show that he Loves you. Tell him that you would much rather hear the words from his mouth. If he becomes upset with you and says things like "Why do I have to tell you when I do so much for you?" or "My actions should be enough." then something might be wrong. Ask him about this. If he says again that he is waiting for a special time to say it and that he does not want to over use it, then trust in him. If you truly Love this man then you will understand that he truly Loves you and that some day he will get down on one knee with a tiny blue box in hand, tell you he Loves you and that you are the only one for him, and ask your hand in marriage.
Trust in and have faith in your man.
Best of luck
2007-08-02 11:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by tranquilpsycho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through that before. Something I learned was that you really can't ask a guy, "Why don't you say this, why don't you do that anymore?" I think a guy likes to be spontaneous and when they are put on the spot it makes them uncomfortable.
Also he probably expresses that he loves you more in what he does, some guys are doers not talkers.
And I would say that he does love you and being with you, he just has his own way of expressing it.
Something you could try is instead of waiting for him to say it, tell him you love him and see if he responds to that.
2007-08-02 11:42:39 · answer #4 · answered by Soda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem unbearably needy. To me a seven month relationship is not long enough to determine whether or not you are in love. Think back to the one time he did say those magically misleading words: what the heck were the two of you doing? Since most mature people know that love is expressed most tangibly by what the people do for each other and how they treat one another, those three little words are just that, words.
2007-08-02 11:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by Zene P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah he could love you. Or perhaps he doesn't know if he really loves you or not. Yeah he obviously likes you he cooks, does nice things for you. He's 37, he shuld know what love is or the feeling of it. Perhaps he;s waiting for the time when he can say it seriously and not just say it. Take your time with it it's only been 7 months. It will come in time. DOn't be hurt, or offended, but it (I know it's hard) just give him time. Or ask how he feels about you DON'T ask "why don't you say you love me?" or "Do you love me?" ask how he feels. see what kind of answer you get and get back to us.
2007-08-02 11:40:20 · answer #6 · answered by Sean C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people grow up in households where you never hear those words uttered. I never did in my house. Maybe he just isn't used to hearing it or saying it. He definitely sounds like he loves you. So be patient. And tell him "I Love You" as many times as you want. Maybe it will make him more comfortable if he hears the words coming from you and experiences how good it makes someone feel.
2007-08-02 11:44:25 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or maybe he just doesn't love you the way you love him. He wants to wait to say " I love you" for a special time? What is up with that? Special time as in when he may ask you to marry him? If that is when he plans on saying "I love you" what a jerk! He can sleep with you before that "special day" but can't say "I love you"? That is nonsense.
2007-08-02 11:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweet Pea me and my husband is the same ages as you and your bf. I think he loves you sometimes men are not very verbal when it comes to things like that. Don't be scarred he is a little older and he might not be as open as you are. Good luck, give him time his actions show he is a really good person!
2007-08-02 11:45:45 · answer #9 · answered by b n real 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship is quite young in terms of time.. Although, you guys live together maybe he just doesn't want to "over do" I love you.. If he's showing his affections in other ways than it should be ok.. How does he act around yours/his friend's that's the true indicator.. If he doesn't introduce you or treat you as his gf.... Good luck.
2007-08-02 11:40:33 · answer #10 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋