I love my new family and I do love the girls aged 6 and 9 very much. but I'd like children of my own Im 26 and cant imagine never having children. My boyfriend is 32 and divorced from their mother but has custody of both of the children. He did say that he doesnt want anymore kids so we broke-up in December afew months later he asked me to come back and we did talk about both our needs I told him I could give up not ever getting married but not on having children he agreed but now we bearly have sex he only seems to want sex when Im on my period and cant get pregnant and when he has a bit too much to drink he says he's going to get the snip because he doesnt want children. I dont want to have children with someone who feels they have to , to keep me but at the same time I cant go through life knowing I would never have my own children. What should I do,I have fertillity issues aswell but I'd like to try and get pregnant .
2007-08-02 03:51:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you need to leave because you have the need to have kids and he does not want to . You two have very different needs . I think maybe you should cut ties with the kids too cause they will not be around you much after you leave . sorry but there is not an easy way to do this . good luck .
2007-08-02 03:57:16 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious having your own children is very important to you and it seems he is very much uninterested in having any more of his own. Unless he agrees to have more children with you, it looks as if this relationship will not work. Be fair to yourself and to his little girls. You will eventually start resenting him for not giving you what you want and by that time you most likely will be married and also may be too late for you to have children. You need to give him an ultimatum. Either agree to having a child with you (when you are married) or the relationship is over. You will save yourself a lot heartache in the end.
2007-08-02 04:00:01 · answer #2 · answered by Hannah's Mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you want to have your own chilrden and if hes not going to support that get out before your 35 and still in the same situation. even with the fertillity issues you could adopt and get back the first 6 yrs of parenting you have already missed with his children. And for him it's not like he has 5 kids there is room for a few more if he really wants to make you happy
2007-08-02 03:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
How can you say you want children but dont care to get married. Doesn't any child deserve the benefit of a family with Mom and Dad in the home? Your boyfriend is showing his colors that he only considers you good enough as nanny to his daughters and a body in bed. It seems he doesn't consider you worthy to be his wife or "mother" of his children, regardless who gives birth to them.
Find a man who wants you and who wants to be the father (in every sense) to your children.
2007-08-02 04:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a horrible situation; you need to get out of it. You need to leave and find someone who is younger and willing to have children with you. Imagine being stuck in that relationship, never having children of your own for the rest of your life. The clock is ticking, so hurry up and break up. Do what is best for yourself and don't let anything get in your way.
2007-08-02 03:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by JPK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do in general each little thing by ability of myself. i've got long previous to the strip club by ability of myself, a good number of circumstances. I never somewhat pass to club golf equipment... extra like bars, college events, etc. i'm a guy. And it somewhat is o.k., that stuff gets uninteresting after awhile, except you meet an excellent woman that night.
2016-10-01 06:17:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the reason why you get to know the person before you move in and start playing house together now the kids get hurt as well .
2007-08-02 04:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your choice to make. If you want your own children, then you need to make the right choice to achieve that.
I think the bigger relationship issue is that he lied to you and manipulates you. That says he's a jerk! Leave now.
2007-08-02 03:56:29 · answer #8 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 37 and have fertility issues. If I were in your position, I would leave him NOW and start looking for someone else who wants children. Don't wait like I did and just think that "it'll happen someday" because "someday" has never come for me and now it could be too late. Do NOT wait!!!
Good luck. :)
2007-08-02 03:56:13 · answer #9 · answered by searching_please 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you want children you should start over with a guy that does want a family.
2007-08-02 04:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by the_wayward1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋