If a husband/wife says "i love you" numerous times a day is that a bad thing?

Answer 1

My husband and I tell each other I love you all the time. Every phone call. When one of us goes upstairs or leaves the room. when one of us catches the other one looking at them. We have been together for three years and have always done this

Answer 2

*Honestly, I think the answer could go either way...I mean sometimes when someone says or does something numerous times...it can indicate something is wrong or it can arouse some type of suspicion(s) as well.
Meaning that when someone is overly nice or goes out of their way to do things for you, sometimes that is an indication that they have a guilty feeling..because they know they did something wrong...and they figure if they're overly nice to you, that you will be so consumed by their "thoughfulness" that you will totally miss the their whole intention.

.On the flip side, maybe that person just "loves" you a lot and they want to express that. Therefore they have to tell you everyday and numerous times a day...believe it or not there are those select few men/women who do actually have feelings and love the person they're with, and although it may seem suspicious that they do it so often...it may just be innocent and truthful.


*In any case, I would not fret about it too much and over analyze it. However if the idea is really racking your mind everyday, and your curiousities seem to be getting the best of you. Then I see no reason for you not to "investigate" it further and do some discreet digging around and see what you can come up with. Or you can just go the direct route and just confront him/her and in a mature adult manner sit them down and just let them know (nicely) that you are a little concerned that they keep saying "I love you" so much everyday and so many times during the day. Especially if your partner doesn't usually say that they love you everyday, then they just start doing it out of nowhere...well that is some reasonable ground to be suspicious.

.Again, the comment can be totally innocent...and I don't recommend jumping to conclusions, and over analyzing the situation and possibly making a big hype over nothing. If you do decide to do the confrontation, be calm, mature, and rational about it...and make sure you THINK before you speak and that you don't make him/her feel like you are in fact accusing them of something and that you're attacking them either.

.Hope something I said helps.

Answer 3

It is not a bad thing for a husband/wife to say they love you numerous times a day. Some people express themselves through action and others through words. This person is obviously the latter. They just want you to know that they love and care about you deeply.

Answer 4

My husband and I say it in the morning when he leaves for work, on the phone after a conversation, when we are both home at night, and before sleep. Unless of course we say it just because at any other time :) It's a wonderful thing! We've been together for 8 1/2 years and still truly feel the love.
The way we think of it is what if it's the last time you see each other and you didn't say I love you...

Answer 5

After being married 30 years my husband and I would just say good bye when he'd go to work, then we had problems in our relationship and recommitted to each other and decided that we were not going to take each other for granted. Shortly thereafter my mother passed and hit us both like a ton of rocks and realized that you never know when your last day is going to be not wanting any regrets we never part without telling each other "I love you" not knowing if it would be the last time I tell him as he travels to work and I do mean it when I say it. And there are other times when we stop each other in the house and look into each others eyes and say those words and tell each other that we really mean it! I do love and tell him every day and he tells me and we never tire of hearing it.

Answer 6

Why would you even ask if it is bad to say "I love you" to your spouse? Me and my husband say it to each other many times throughout the day and I feel it helps to keep our marriage together. Never know if the time you see your love one if it will be the last. If you always tell the one you love that you love them then at least if they unexpectedly die you feel have the comfort of knowing they knew that you loved them.

Answer 7

It depends. If they say it just to say it, without really feeling it in their heart, then I think it's a waste of breath. But if they say it because that's what they're feeling at that moment, then it's perfectly okay.

My significant other and I say "I love you" to one another numerous times a day. He even sends me text messages telling me he's thinking about me and that he loves me! And we've been together for over 5 years!

It all depends on the couple, and how comfortable they are with expressing their feelings to one another.

Answer 8

I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing, but I think it kind of takes away the true meaning of the word after while. Depending on how they use it. Like when you hang up and they say I love you, it's almost like routine. But if they're saying it like "honey, I love you so much", and adding more than just the word "love". I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

Answer 9

Its not bad. I've been with my fiance for 8 years and we tell eachother every time we say goodbye at home, on the phone... in the morning... And I truly mean it. He does too.

I think you would need to worry if your partner does it for a long period of time, then all of a sudden stops, then you have trouble there.

There's an episode on King of Queens like this... They try to STOP saying I love you all the time, but then they both get frustrated trying not to say it, because they want to, and forget about trying not to :)

Answer 10

Now, why would you think it's bad that the person your took vows with, in front of everyone and God, would tell you that he loves you several times a day? My husband of 38 years tells me that all the time, and vice-versa. If he didn't then I would feel very bad.
You're a very blessed lady to have him tell you he loves you, over and over.