Marriage & Divorce - 23 July 2007

My son and I went on vacation visiting my family for two weeks this month, my husband had to stay home because he couldnt get time off of work, and while I was there my husband was acting really funny, always calling and checking up on me, making accusations. I dont usually do this, but when I came back home, the night i got back, I looked through his phone. They say the one that accuses, is the one cheating... well anyway... There was a girls number in there that was not there before I went on vacation. The next night, I looked again to get the rest of the number( i only remembered the first 3 digits) and it was gone. deleted. He doesnt work with ANY females, and all of his friends, are my friends... what would you think?? Im waiting for the new phone bill to come out so I can check for number, if it is on there, how should I confront him? I know he would lie through his teeth.

2007-07-23 05:02:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

He would be living with his mom, out of state.My dilema is his school. I want him 6 months out of the year and six months would interfere with his school.

2007-07-23 05:00:07 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

What do you do? What about the moral issues? Or one should be man enough to control his natural desires and wait for that next special person after all the divorce mess is cleared. This is the time when vulnerability is high. Am i right?

ps. some people have told me to satisfy my natural needs. But it looks cheap to me. Suggestions and advice please...

(male 28)

2007-07-23 04:44:28 · 11 answers · asked by reflection 2

I’ve been dating this guy for a few weeks & I wanted to know what would u do or think if a young lady told u that u guys might have to stop seeing each other because she is starting to have feelings for u. For now he does everything right. He has shared very intimate things with me, from his family to his talent of being a singer & song writer. He is very attentive, affectionate, he holds me, he talks to me, he listens to me, he looks out for me & makes sure my needs & wants are met in almost every way. He has on a few occasions given me the last bite of his food if it was something I really enjoyed eating & I’ve heard that’s suppose to be something big. The thing is we have never really talked about where we wanted things to go & instead of assuming he wants a relationship I’d rather back off then scare him away. Does this make sense? Guys you know women can jump into something very fast & I don't want to do that. Also, after a few weeks he may not want to talk about a relationship.

2007-07-23 04:41:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have a rough 2 weeks out of every month. She is 44 and has severe pmdd symtoms. What are the best things I can do to eleviate the the symtoms. Seems like I do more for her, but its never enough. The other 2 weeks she's an angel.

2007-07-23 04:36:53 · 9 answers · asked by Terry 1

(Males Only Plz!) How do you know when your marriage/relationship is over? He says he loves me but i don't really feel it. I am very attractive and everyone says we are complete opposites. He is a little bit less than your average Joe. He also tends to disrespect me and look at other girls in front of me..why does he do that? Doesn't he appreciate what he has?

2007-07-23 04:33:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I feel hopeless, sad, and question my worthiness over the last 14 years. He said that something was always missing between us and I deserve to find someone who will love me. I remember all the good times and can't believe that he was never in love with me; however, that is what he said. We did mostly get married because I was pregnant, but I really thought that we had love between us. How do you move on from here? It's so sad and painful and I cant figure out how I can focus on work and my life while being so miserable.

2007-07-23 04:27:28 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is very controlling, to the point where I am not allowed to talk to people, or wear clothes that aren't big as a tent, or allowed to go see my sister.... How would you go about making change in this situation?

2007-07-23 04:26:38 · 23 answers · asked by passionofchaos 1

I have had ongoing problems for years with my husband and control, seeking dominance over me and our children, but I think I have come out of the dark the past couple of years as to what he is doing and how to get around it to maintain my independence and self respect while I figure out how to end this relationship safely and financially for my childrens sake. Right now, I see his grasping at financial control more than ever to maintain his sense of dominance...its all he has left basically. He is refusing to pay his childrens dental bills, health insurance, provide money for school clothes. He will come across occasionally with $100 or so for gas and some groceries (there are 5 children involved). He says that unless his demands are met on how he is treated in this family, he will not pay nothing. Then, he says he is the man of the house and he will pay everything that needs to be bought and provided in his own way..whatever that means. Mean ing if he sees fit. Opionions please....

2007-07-23 04:24:52 · 12 answers · asked by Bree 2

I have always thought that if you are in a relationship, and get cheated on, that it is not the other man/woman's fault. It was your partner's fault. However, is it different if the person is a total stranger to your family? What if the person knows you and your family? Shouldn't that person have to suffer some kind of consequence? Why should they have nothing happen to them when your life is now in shambles? Would it be fair to stand outside their apartment complex and yell loud enough for the neighbors to hear that she's a homewrecking *****? Or maybe dedicating your MySpace page to her homewrecking *** for a while. Tell me what you all think.

2007-07-23 04:22:40 · 45 answers · asked by redpeach_mi 7

it seems to me that everytime things get going good my husband gets in a bad mood. we never talk any more because he says we have already talk about everything what should i do

2007-07-23 04:21:28 · 9 answers · asked by Rosie E 1

People say that they "don't want to take sides" because they only hear "one side of the story. "

Is there another side to having an affair with a married woman?

Even assuming the wife was the devil. Why not get a divorce first?

Maybe I am missing something. Please enlighten me. Thanks for your answers?

2007-07-23 04:19:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

What do you wish you would've splurged less or more on?

2007-07-23 04:18:01 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-23 04:10:50 · 31 answers · asked by Izzi 2

Divorced/w.o. money (Clifton Ct., s. of New Haven) female w. 2 daughters: Ex hubby RICH TURK-advice needed

Details:
Female friend/impoverished in Connecticut-divorced a millionaire Turk who hides his assets.... she from NY originally.
He copied daughter's keys late nite 4 his ex-wife's apartment & when mother at work in a menial job, stole lots of her jewelry, belongings. One daughter says mom's things are in dad's rich home now with his new GF

His new GF also entered friends' apartment and stole bankbook w. inheritance of tens of thousands, forged her name and closed bankbook/took out all $.

Last thing: he bounced child support, leave for Turkey for 5 weeks, My f. friend went to bank where they tried to arrest her for trying to cash a bad check, the one he had bounced on her.

This woman is so stuck, cannot afford legal rep to charge him with felonies change divorced terms to move back to New York where her few friends and family live. She is SO stuck.

Are there legal options

2007-07-23 03:50:38 · 6 answers · asked by Legandivori 7

My wife and I have been married for 11 months now and we are fight a lot. We are finding it very difficult to continue to live together. We fight over many things and argue a lot. My wife falsely accuses me that I am doing things on purpose to break this marraige and get a divorce. But I am not! When we fought
before, I would try to get advice from my mom on what to do. She called me immature that I can't handle the situation myself. About 4 months ago we came to know that she has PCOS, and that she might need fertility treatment in case we decide to have kids. I wanted to get family advice on what to do about this. I even suggested that she could talk to her own mom about this. She refused to involve other in our marriage. I have stopped trying to get advice from others now. She made me promise that neither of us should involve others, even if we decide to get a divorce, it should be decided between us. Which I totally agree. She has always been very illogical and unreasonable.

2007-07-23 03:34:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Been married for almost 14 yrs, 3 kids. We were only married one yr when baby Number 1 came along. We are just completely different people, in our wants, our values, our long term goals. We do not agree on anything, from discipline to money, to what our retirement holds. Our future goals are completely opposite. He is not wrong, but I am not wrong either. He is a good person, and I am a good person. We are just two people who probably shouldnt have never gotten married. We live like roommates. He helps with the kids. Once the last kid is in bed, we go our separate ways. He goes to his tv to watch his "shows". I usually end up bed, watching the news or something until I fall asleep. The only time he comes to bed with me is to have sex. Its hard to have sex when you are not emotionally connected to somebody.
I really just dont want to be married. I dont want to be married to anybody else, I dont want to date, or a boyfriend. I just want to live alone with my kids.Y is this wrong???

2007-07-23 03:24:48 · 18 answers · asked by Jackie 2

What are the major causes of divoice ?

2007-07-23 03:21:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

i would like to say my own vows when i get married next year but im not sure how to put them...im not religouse but i am spiritul and i am deeply in love with the most wonderfull guy who makes every day special...so can anyone out there create something romantic in the contentext of vows just to get me started id be greatfull...

2007-07-23 03:16:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok, for 3 yrs i have been friends with this guy and he was cool....like till i asked him to move in..then he admitted having a kid 7 yrs ago with a girl who doesn't let him see the kid, he doesn't know if it's his. he refuses to deal with that. he promises to do better, like do his part, helping pay bills, rent, a real job. he expects me to do for him and be about him and take care of him! it's unfair! he is sleeping with me, we use condoms but wants a kid with me. hello? he has no money saved, he gets weird when i spend time with my girlfriend {WE LIVE A POLY/GF/BF LIFESTYLE} he spouts to me good things but never comes through. promises. i just feel dissapointed, and he just is a good friend but he really has no intrest in maintaining a relationship and now i am just irritated and upset after taking his word. i took his commitment to this relationship seriously and now i feel let down. what do i do? we have talked and nothing changes, he even got up in my face several times too. help

2007-07-23 03:15:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

We had my son when we were in high school i was 16 and he was 17 at the time. I'm now 25 and married so i'm totally over him of course, but i don't know if he invited me because it was the thing to do or because he really wants me to be there. My husband said that we should go since our son is in the wedding, but i know for a fact that my sons father's fiance' doesn't like me to much (I think it's because me and him are still close and don't have no baby mama drama). I do know for a fact that he wants us there...but i don't wanna upset the bride on her day...what should i do

2007-07-23 03:10:46 · 18 answers · asked by D N 3

I just got married two months ago to a man I’ve been with for about five years. We have a child. He has an explosive personality, but for the most part, he's a good guy who works hard, is faithful and is a great dad BUT...he has a temper that he can't seem to control. I don't know if his abusive father has anything to do with it since he's the oldest, but he gets so flustered over every little thing and spazzes out when it's not called for. He's started arguing with me at the top of his lungs in front of our child (or when she's sleeping) which has made me extremely concerned.

I know nobody's perfect and everyone has their own quirks but is this something that I have to learn how to deal with? Is there a way to help him with his anger issues or am I kidding myself. Should I consider an annulment?

I love him and my daughter loves him but his outbursts are wearing on my nerves.

Please no sarcastic or rude comments. It would really help to have mature opinions. Thanks.

2007-07-23 02:45:55 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

My friend is a christian from a Pentecostal Church. She has been dating a single man who is really nice and treats her like a princess. They are both deeply in love but she has been married before and was divorced. (Her ex husband was the one in the wrong - and had an affair, although he won't admit it).

The problem is that her new man is a devout Catholic, and believes that he cannot marry a divorced woman as it would be adultry. Is this right? Is there anything (preferably from the Catholic Bible) that would show him that they can marry?
I care about my friend and want her to be happy.

2007-07-23 02:45:01 · 36 answers · asked by nettyone2003 6

All relationships have ups and downs. I am not talking about physical abuse or drug abuse that stops you from functioning. What have we lost in this generation that makes it so easy to destroy a family and move on?

2007-07-23 02:33:55 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-23 02:23:57 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Has anybody ever felt as though they're making a huge mistake, by continuing to be married just for the kids sake really? That's how i'm beginning to feel lately, when he's home at the weekends, we seem to pi$$ each other off, and usually end up rowing, usually over something really stupid. This weekend was horrendous, now i'm beginning to think is it fair on anyone. We have discussed separating, but the house is in joint names, and wer'e both refusing to budge, so the viciuos circle just goes on and on..........

2007-07-23 02:23:12 · 52 answers · asked by kelly 3

I have a 2 year old and she does not belong to my husband biologically. He cheated on me and moved out for about 6 months, I had a sexual ralationship with another man and got pregnant. My husband has known the whole time. I found out I was pregnant before he moved back in and he still wanted to get back together. He treats her just like our other daughter. He doesn't seem bothered by the fact. I have not hidden anything from him. Recently I got a call from the man who is her biological father. He wants to know her and be in her life. He is not worth a dime. He is in and out of jail lately and on drugs. He is married now too and I have heard that he hits his wife. She has children from a previous relationship the I have heard he is really hard on. I told my husband and he wants to leave things as they are. He does not want this other man involved in our lives at all. I don't either really. She is not missing anything. She is well taken care of. What would you do? What are our rights?

2007-07-23 02:22:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-23 02:21:06 · 17 answers · asked by LOLIT 1

she goes to bed pretty early, I hate going to bed early and I don't need that much sleep.

2007-07-23 02:10:48 · 18 answers · asked by goldenboy1227 2

2007-07-23 02:03:58 · 6 answers · asked by Tina 1