All relationships have ups and downs. I am not talking about physical abuse or drug abuse that stops you from functioning. What have we lost in this generation that makes it so easy to destroy a family and move on?
2007-07-23 02:33:55 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO, it's that marriage is that easy and people do not understand what it entails
2007-07-23 02:38:20 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It isn't in this generation alone. Divorce has been going on since Marriage was invented. Why does it happen? For all kinds of reasons. No one should have to put up with being mentally/verbally/emotionally abused. Some people get married because their families expect it of them only to learn that they really don't WANT marriage in the first place. Life itself is not just black and white so marriage/divorce will never be black and white.
2007-07-23 09:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is theory that i often have though about. I have asked myself what is the difference from today then it was 40 years ago and here is the answer I have come up with. 40 years ago there could of been as many people divorcing as there are today but there is one big key element that there is today. Women are more independent today then they were 40 years ago. 40 years ago most women would be considered house wives there primary job was to take care of the family so a lot of women stayed married to there husbands no matter what the situation was because they relied on there husbands finaically. I think that our morals have also changed and there are a lot more temptations this day in age, big being Internet.
2007-07-23 02:45:30 · answer #3 · answered by ryan7212005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's NEVER easy, so that's not the issue. It's too easy to get married with the assumption that if it doesn't work there is a way out. The answer is more about not rushing into marriage till you are ready and have the same goals and expectations of marriage, family, finances etc. Those are some of the big issues that lots of people find out later that they don't agree on. If people don't work it out in advance, there are some topics that you could end up so far apart on that it is impossible to resolve.
2007-07-23 02:39:42 · answer #4 · answered by Linda K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is an OPTION and for some it doesnt mean wait for years in a love less marriage before you get one. People are a lot less tolerant for BULLSHIT others put on them. I got married in 1998 and 3 months later found out he was cheating and the marriage was OVER!! There was nothing to work on..HE broke trust and respect and there was no way I was going to try to work on that issue. More women are independent and can take care of themselves and refuse to be "trapped". I applaud anyone who realizes that trust & respect goes a lot further than trying to salvage a life with someone who disrespects you and or your relationship and think saying I'm sorry or counseling is the answer.
Life is tooo short to be played with honey.
2007-07-23 02:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems we have become a throw away nation. Back in the 20's & 30's people cared about what they had. They kept their cloths and used them threw years. Today they throw out what they don't use. Including relationships just throw it away and start another one . Easy. They think. It has a domino effect in life as did the saving and taking care of what one had, back in the day ! The stick to your ribs kind of person, is a rarity and a pleasure. Characteristically and politically correct ! You find that in people today you find stick with types and you find also a treasure a true find.
2007-07-23 02:56:21 · answer #6 · answered by margo322 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating is another reason...and of course the Biblical reason for divorce...I blame computers partly for some of the infidelity these days...you can't make it as a family if you are cybering or flirting online with someone else besides your spouse! Divorce courts should make it illegal to have an affair, and if you do, you should get no alimony if you have an affair...and no child support as well! The other parent should automatically get custody! We need stricter laws...and if someone wants to divorce because "they think they don't love the spouse anymore"...they need counseling...! Feelings come and go...it's the commitment that makes it work! What have we lost? Morals, standards, principles, values...I could go on, lol!
2007-07-23 02:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We have lost trust. The man I married was not what he said he was. He lied from his age all the way through to his parents. Once the I figured out all the lies, that's when all the mind games began.
I'm thankful for my 2 beautiful children and the lessons that I learned. But now I have a hard time trusting any man that wants to come into my life.
2007-07-23 03:22:47 · answer #8 · answered by irisheyeslas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They forget that marriage is a union that GOD has brought together NOT MAN! And that without GOD involved in the marriage it just won't work. You don't have to be a religious person to pray. And I believe that is something many couples forget when there are trials and tribulations in their marriage.
People aren't willing to work HARD to make their marriage work. Others just get married for ALL the wrong reasons. Still others just get married for the sake of saying they are married.
And yes I think that society does make it way too easy for people to get divorced. If it was harder then maybe just maybe people would actually think twice before just throwing in the towel and actually work on making something of their marriage.
2007-07-23 02:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the family aspects are now all gone and the total relationship doesnt count anymore and abuse isnt anygood in a good relationship that is why divorce becomes involved any more tina a divorce can really hurta person real bad
2007-07-23 02:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect, loyalty, communication....I wanted out because we couldn't agree on 3 things: He wouldn't stop DATING when we got married, he believes children are to be SEEN and not heard, he listened and understood everyone who wasn't his family.
Yeah, I'd say those are pretty good points for divorce, no amount of counseling, retreats, or tears would change his mind and I tried for nearly a decade and a half, I think I've paid my dues.
It wasn't easy at all.
2007-07-23 02:59:02 · answer #11 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋