I’ve been dating this guy for a few weeks & I wanted to know what would u do or think if a young lady told u that u guys might have to stop seeing each other because she is starting to have feelings for u. For now he does everything right. He has shared very intimate things with me, from his family to his talent of being a singer & song writer. He is very attentive, affectionate, he holds me, he talks to me, he listens to me, he looks out for me & makes sure my needs & wants are met in almost every way. He has on a few occasions given me the last bite of his food if it was something I really enjoyed eating & I’ve heard that’s suppose to be something big. The thing is we have never really talked about where we wanted things to go & instead of assuming he wants a relationship I’d rather back off then scare him away. Does this make sense? Guys you know women can jump into something very fast & I don't want to do that. Also, after a few weeks he may not want to talk about a relationship.
2007-07-23 04:41:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He sounds like a wonderful man. I know a lot of people who would be happy to have just a portion of the attention you are getting.
I can understand your fear of pushing him away, but why not just talk to him??
Let him know how special you feel when he is with you and that you really enjoy his company. Tell him how much that means to you. Let the conversation go from there.
You may want to hold back on saying that you love him just yet, but don't throw away a good thing just because you're scared. It could be he is feeling the same way!
Good luck!
2007-07-23 04:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go slow but dont be afraid to share feelings. Just dont push for special intimacy to quick. He will probably want to hint about it first. I dont like the feeling that I am being pressured into something I dont want to do. I really am better in a relationship when I can learn what she wants and then act on it independently. I know this is risky for the girl though as some guys just take advantage. I would just communicate often and try to figure out if we have a mutual understanding of our commitment to one another.
2007-07-23 04:46:30 · answer #2 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that talking about a relationship right now would be premature. Let things evolve on their own. You 2 are in the get to know you period and taking things too seriously or too fast is sure to lead to a quick burn out. Enjoy him for who he is, spend time together try not to put so much emphasis on what everything means and what intentions may or may not be there.
2007-07-23 04:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to him first about his feelings before you decide what's best for him. How do you know he doesn't have the same feelings you do? Ask him what he wants, go with the flow so to speak. When I met my husband neither of us wanted a relationship and we ended up getting married.
2007-07-23 04:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush in, because that scares a lot of guys but you could drop a hint now and then that you really like him or enjoy being with him. Let it happen naturally.
2007-07-23 04:46:13 · answer #5 · answered by the_wayward1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I really understand your question.
Don't we date others in order to develop feeling for each other? Why would you quit dating someone becasue you like them?
That said, you don't really need to define your relationship at this point and probably shouldn't, unless you are sleeping together. Then you need to make sure he believes in exclusivity and tests.
2007-07-23 04:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by chattygirlchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm... after what u said i think he loves u if u r to nervous tell him how u feel then tell him that cause u should not be afraid to tell him things if u r going out with him that is part of a relationship
2007-07-23 04:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by xEmo_puppetX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you already have a relationship. Talk to him about it. Don't run away from it! that's rediculous! Tell him how you feel...
2007-07-23 04:46:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few weeks????????
Doesn't anybody have any patience anymore????
Back off, and give the relationship some TIME.
2007-07-23 04:50:00 · answer #9 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax and enjoy your guy. He sounds like a "keeper"! Just don't rush it too much....
2007-07-23 04:45:35 · answer #10 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋