My son and I went on vacation visiting my family for two weeks this month, my husband had to stay home because he couldnt get time off of work, and while I was there my husband was acting really funny, always calling and checking up on me, making accusations. I dont usually do this, but when I came back home, the night i got back, I looked through his phone. They say the one that accuses, is the one cheating... well anyway... There was a girls number in there that was not there before I went on vacation. The next night, I looked again to get the rest of the number( i only remembered the first 3 digits) and it was gone. deleted. He doesnt work with ANY females, and all of his friends, are my friends... what would you think?? Im waiting for the new phone bill to come out so I can check for number, if it is on there, how should I confront him? I know he would lie through his teeth.
2007-07-23 05:02:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know it was a girls number because the name and number was programmed into his phone contact list.
2007-07-23 05:11:57 · update #1
He DEFINITELY has a history of being insecure and jealous. Ive had numberous arguments about it with him. I dont give him any reason to doubt me, but he still does.
2007-07-23 05:13:30 · update #2
how do you know it was a girl's number? I get calls about once or twice a month on my cell phone that I have no clue who it is calling and I don't answer it, but the number still shows up? You need actual evidence to confront your husband. Why not simply go on his behavior for now? I have heard that the one accusing is normally doing something up to no good, but does your husband have a history of being insecure and jealous? Could be normal behavior for him, especially if you've not been separated for that long before, his insecurities could have gotten the better of him. Only you know the full story...
2007-07-23 05:09:31 · answer #1 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, ask your husband. Tell him that its just making you feel a little insecure that he is keeping something from you. Don't get mad or accuse him of anything. Don't jump to conclusions, it could be nothing. First, write down the number and keep it hidden. If your husband doesn't give you a good answer or won't tell you what its about. Call the person. Tell them that you found this number on your home phone and you were selling stuff of craigslist and thought that the person might be someone who wanted to buy something. Make sure you tell this person what your husbands name is as well. Maybe she will give you some insight, if she tries to lie and say she doesn't know who he is, then you will need to start following him, because something is going on. You may get caught, but if you went through the trouble to ask your husband and he wouldn't give you a good answer, you are justified.
2016-05-21 01:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by deena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but right now the only person in the wrong is you. It is an invasion of his privacy to go through his phone. It betrays the trust and honesty that should be in a marriage. Even if he did have a girls number in his phone that doesn't mean anything. He might have saved it for a friend--which I have done countless times---he might have gotten a number then decided not to call it. But since you found out by snooping and being underhanded, it is kind of hard to find out now!
And by the way, if you "know he would lie through his teeth" it is probably time to either seek marriage counseling or split. This is not the way people in a committed, loving and honest relationship are supposed to feel about each other!
Shame on him, but shame on you more!
2007-07-23 05:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of times when your spouse continually accuses you - they are the ones that are doing something wrong. I would definitely keep my eyes open. The fact that he was "grilling" you while you were away and that deleted phone number would really make me suspicious. Get proof before you start anything. With proof - he can't argue the fact.
2007-07-23 05:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't sound like a very trusting relationship. Personally I would call the number and ask the girl to lunch. Don't accuse her of anything, and be as understanding of her point of view as you can.... she may not have known he was married. get all the facts you can before you start accusing him of anything.
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2007-07-23 05:11:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you get the phone bill, go up to him and ask him. don't act nervous or mad about it and act very casual about it. ask him who they are and if you're starting to think the worst, make him swear to tell the truth and two things can happen after that: you can either have a small fight or drop it.
i don't know if this will work, but it sounds like it will.
Good luck!!
2007-07-23 05:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure...ask about it when the bill comes...in the mean time...don't sleep w/ him...all right? if you sleep with him he will think everything is ok, so, sleep away from him...=)! don't forget to follow through on this...also, ask about the number...on the phone...and if you can remember the digits...ask him about those...ok? Ask him now...see if he lies...then, when the bill comes...show him proof...! Call the number if you have to =).
2007-07-23 05:09:23 · answer #7 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The eternal problem from women.....jealousy and distrust.A married man have the legitimate right to have women friends;they are only friends;friendship is a right for everyone.
you can have male friends too if you want,no problem but don't sleep with them!!!
Forget those telephone numbers;life is so short.
2007-07-23 05:13:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would go on line and get a detailed billing and see how long they talked.
2007-07-23 09:46:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go online and look at the numbers called or text if you have a reg ph.
2007-07-23 05:15:03 · answer #10 · answered by keithleyjustin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋