Marriage & Divorce - 23 July 2007

2007-07-23 17:19:40 · 7 answers · asked by Wildflower 6

I'm just curious...I've heard and experienced that men don't like to talk about their feelings much and they seem to get irritated with women talking about theirs. Why is that? Do you men have any tips for us women on how we can talk to you when we need to? It's hard for a woman to be "shut down" when she's trying to explain something that is hurting her...so we need you to listen. But, I also understand that men can't handle all that (don't know why) - so I want to be more sensative to my man but I also have some needs myself (mostly to express myself). I'm learning to do some of it with my lady friends - but sometimes I want HIM in particular to listen. He does. He's sweet about it. But, I can tell it's hard for him. Help! Tips? Advice? (Please be nice, no need to bash me or call me names...I'm seeking CONSTRUCTIVE criticism or advice). THANKS! :)

2007-07-23 17:17:05 · 15 answers · asked by Jazmin 2

The Supreme Court on Monday held that states must take steps to register all marriages in all communities. The order can annoy those among Muslims who insist that such legal requirements infringe their right to be governed by their personal laws in matters of marriage, divorce and inheritance.
Reiterating its February 14, 2006, order, the court said, "We are of the view that marriages of all Indian citizens, irrespective of their religion, shall be compulsorily registered in the state within whose territorial jurisdiction it was solemnised." Your comments.

2007-07-23 17:10:34 · 15 answers · asked by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7

But I thought women needed to test drive shoes and try on cars?

How are women supposed to do this wihout the help of serial monogamy?

2007-07-23 17:07:58 · 8 answers · asked by ? 3

Why?

And why is serial monogamy a better method to sleep around than swinging or open marriage?

Thanks,

Flavio

2007-07-23 16:58:33 · 12 answers · asked by ? 3

I've tried to tell him how I would like him to treat me and I've even gotten him a book that we read together. He still does not compliment or say I love you, without being prompted and it hurts. What do I do?

2007-07-23 16:49:01 · 34 answers · asked by kc 3

My husband is a retired city of chicago employee, he went into rehab 2 yrs ago and had his pension check sent to a new bank account leaving me without support. I had to leave our home and move to Louisiana my home. all attempts to serve him with a subpoena have met with failure. He is still my husband of over 25 years, I was recently injured in a fall and cannot work full time. The pension board refuses to tell me of his location. I don't know what to do , I will have to apply for food stamps and assistance from the government. I cannot even pay my insurance deductible. I am 56 years old and cannot look forward to a new career, during my marriage he was my sole support. I cannot afford a lawyer, or a private detective to find him, what recourse do I have. Can I sue the pension board for money that I deserve since I am still his wife? I did obtain legal aid to file a divorce but was unable to locate him. What should I do?

2007-07-23 16:48:43 · 9 answers · asked by beignet 2

my husband works for full 24 hrs. and rests for 24 hours. in short, he works every other day. and on his off days he is with me. i only get to sleep with him every other night. how can i make him look forward to his day off? we're newly weds...

2007-07-23 16:46:01 · 8 answers · asked by ching 1

This decision could be the greatest and most important you would ever make in your entire life? The right decision would result in celebrating silver and golden wedding anniversaries which are treasured? Intense and serious feedback appreciated from both married and non-married persons.

2007-07-23 16:45:07 · 10 answers · asked by Dolphin-Bird Lover8-88 7

This was a around a month ago he moved out but they have had a relationship for a few months now. I cheated on him earlier on in our marriage (12 years ago) and he forgave me and basically wanted to try again, even though I filed for divorce then. So I stopped the paperwork. I asked him today if he was happy. I really just want him to be happy. Just as I want to be happy. He said he doesn't know if he will ever be happy. (He is around midlife crisis age and had a near death experience earlier this summer.)
I have been working out more, eating better and such. My body is getting into shape and I have lost 10 of the 15-20 pounds I needed to lose. I caught him checking me out a few times recently.
We had an interesting conversation today where he expressed concern for me and how I am handling things.
Now, he wants to have sex with me. He talked about getting "excited" while we were talking. Talked about how we weren't divorced yet. Could he stop by this week and *ahem* with me.

WWYD

2007-07-23 16:41:09 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and i have been happily married 16 yrs and about 5 months ago he said he wanted to start giving me oral which he has never done before but it never bothered me since he satisfies me when we make love although thru the yrs i have often wondered what it was like.Well been 5 months since he told me this but he hasnt done it yet and for a few months after and after making love i would ask him why he didnt do it and he would either say "i will" or "next time" or "im going to"..When he first brought the subject up he said he had been thinking about it and waiting to do it for awhile but didnt know how i would feel about plus he said he thought i would be something i would like..Although i never ask for it i am a little disappointed and i feel let down that he hasnt done it..Over the weekend after about a month or so of not mentioning it to him i ask him when he was gonna do it and he said "i will" but that night we made love and of course he didnt do it..

2007-07-23 16:40:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-23 16:33:24 · 14 answers · asked by anglecakesalfred 2

I believe my husband is mentally and emotionally abusive to me. He does so many things to mess with my mind and self esteem that I am no longer myself anymore. I am very withdrawn. In a typical argument..he will say things to really get me going..and in the heat of things..he will just stop and say in the calmest voice.."Why are you yelling?", "listen to yourself" "are you crazy?" ..when he had been screaming at me just seconds before!? He does this often. He always wants me to feel stupid and belittle me. Once he even got in my face with his finger directly on the tip of my nose, when I reached with force and pushed his hand away..he grabbed my arm and said I deserved it because I grabbed him first. He is always trying to push me over the edge and out of nowhere make me feel stupid or crazy! He has me questioning my own sanity here! I KNOW I am not crazy..and I just believe he may be. He has me going nuts with this Jackal Hyde personality!

2007-07-23 16:33:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

There was a time I would have done or overlooked or to be honest not only agreed but I would have enjoyed the other side of the woman I was married to, but now I don't think I would answer the phone to save the marriage. You kick a dog enough times and he leaves...

2007-07-23 16:28:26 · 11 answers · asked by AzNative89 2

Is it ever okay for a man of those ages to date and marry a 16 year old?

2007-07-23 16:25:55 · 31 answers · asked by anglecakesalfred 2

My mother is a Saint. My Grandmothers are Saints. How come I can't find no woman here that could continue the line of good women in my family.

They were nice girls, waited for marriage. They tell their granddaughters sleeping round is a sin- they didn't do it.

And they can cook old world style. My mother makes the best pasta, period! It seems all the women I meet live on take out chinese or McDonalds or more of that unhealthy stuff.

And the women in my family, they demand respect and gets it. I have not met any woman that demands it, quite on the contrary. They seem to do whatever they can to tarnish their reputations.

What do you think?

2007-07-23 16:23:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

please help

2007-07-23 16:22:15 · 34 answers · asked by danieloholic 6

2007-07-23 16:15:16 · 34 answers · asked by anglecakesalfred 2

Have you ever been in love with somone even though you knew that it was impossible to be with that person? If so, why could you not be together and what did you do?

2007-07-23 15:58:41 · 6 answers · asked by ncgirl 3

How can it work if we don't agree on how to use our finances?

2007-07-23 15:52:20 · 5 answers · asked by googlebugg 4

I have been with my husband for 5 years, and married 2 months. Since we have gotten married, he has done a 360. He humiliates me infront of his family, and he even drew back to hit me once. He does not care about me or my family, and he even acts like he hates us sometimes. I am currently staying with my parents until I figure out what to do.
To top it all off....I just saw my first love yesterday, and it made me sick to my stomach. I am still very much in love with him, and I know he would treat me soooooo much better than my husband does. But the thing is, we have both moved on, and he is now married. From what I hear, they are having problems too. I want to call him so bad, and just see how he is doing but I am sooooo afraid to have my heart broken. I don't think I could take it again.
My question is, should I try to work things out with my husband for the 100th time, or should I just leave now? And what should I do about my first love...should I call him or not? HELP!

2007-07-23 15:52:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I were trying to file child support against his birth mom. She has to pay for her other two kids that the state took. When we tried to get some child support they said that she didn't make enough to pay to his son. Why dose the state get child support from her ,but not her son who lives with us? We live in the state of Wisconsin.

2007-07-23 15:48:03 · 8 answers · asked by anglecakesalfred 2

Here is the thing, me and my ex are good friends but he's married..we talk all the time, email and text almost everyday, but we don't ever hang out we ran into eachother at a party one night ( he wasn't w/the wife) and he told me if he had his way we would be together, also bring up the times and places that we've had sex, not just that but tells me that i'm at the top of his list what do you think?

2007-07-23 15:44:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-23 15:21:10 · 29 answers · asked by Kenneth C 2

2007-07-23 15:21:00 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-23 15:20:05 · 20 answers · asked by cave man 6

My ex husband and I had been seperated since 1997. We married in 1992 and were very young ( first love ). It had been a rather abusive relationship and I never filed for divorce simply because I did not want him to find out where I was. I was afraid that he would find me. I just found out today that he passed away last week after an illness. As we were never divorced, am I his widow? He had a new "wife" ( common law) partner and I would never disrespect her and her grieving. I am simply wondering for when I need to file income tax reports or other legal forms.
Anyone have any idea ? ( I live in Canada and would fall under Canadian law)

2007-07-23 15:14:25 · 10 answers · asked by Tammy K 2

2007-07-23 15:01:59 · 72 answers · asked by sarah k 1

Friend got engaged to guy overseas, calls it off for reasons. Gets back together bec of feelings, goes to home country n marries him. Comes back to US, applies for Immigration papers. She learns he is into nude sexual webcam chatting 6 mths into marriage. She files for divorce 11 mths into the marriage. He signs the divorce papers he gets from US court on wedding anniversary date. He started looking for someone to marry (arranged) couple days after signing the papers. He is saying to prospect females he was married only 4 mths and that the wife and he separated mutually (what a lie).
1. Who is at fault? Wife for getting back together. Her bond was soo weak, marriage failed.
2. Should she have saved marriage?
3. What did he try to convey by signing divorce papers on anniversary?
4. He now telling just 4 mths marriage, separated mutually.
Do guys do that? Hide matter so big?
Thanks for answering...

2007-07-23 14:50:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Seems like a stupid question and probably is but why not I'm curious!

2007-07-23 14:49:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous