2007-07-23 15:01:59 · 72 answers · asked by sarah k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
give him fair warning, say "look if you don't want to have sex with me I'll find someone who does'
2007-07-23 15:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
NO, and why would you ask.
You made a promise to love and honor each other and no other. You made a legal promise, signed a contract and if you were married by a minister then you made that promise to God.
Men like sex, heck we love it and it is on our mind over 60% of the time. If you husband doesn't want to have sex with you then this is a serious problem. Yes, men get tired and marriage isn't all it is cracked up to be. But, you should be able to entice him to perform and to engage. Once he was all you thought about and he agreed to have sex with no other woman. So you need to find that old magic.
Role playing games, toys, starting to actually date again or seeking help are all ways that you can try to bring back the fire in your sex life. The first thing you need to do is to find out why your husband doesn’t want to have sex with you or why sex with him no longer satisfies you.
2007-07-23 15:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by Dan S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and try to find out why he won't have sex with you. You can also ask him if he would care if you had a friend. You could ask for an open arrangement. I have read that a lot of couples are staying married for financial reasons as well as the kids but don't stop their spouses from dating as long as it is away from the house. They are living more like brother and sister for insurance purposes. It is cheaper than divorce and seperate households.
Is it okay, no. Does it happen, all of the time. As I said in another answer, this is why there are so many married women on adult websites looking for a friend without changing their marital status. They love their husbands, don't want to leave but want to have their needs satisfied as well.
Should you do it? That one you will have to answer for yourself.
2007-07-23 15:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is probably a reason that he and she, husband and wife are not having sex. Does that mean that it is okay, ABSOLUTELY NOT... Cheating is still cheating... regardless of the reason why. I would try to talk out the problem and if all else fails the marriage is probably over... Thats sad to say but then it would be okay if you filed for a divorce...
2007-07-23 15:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by always wonderin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there's more than just lack of sex that's making you want to cheat. If you cannot work things out and no longer see the possibilty of having that love and intimacy you once had, then get a divorce. Be honest. Honest people do not cheat.
2007-07-23 15:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by TodboT 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay let me go over the rules of marriage with you as well as some of the ten commandments. Thou shalt not commit adultery, which means you are to stay faithful to your husband. When you took your vows you made a promise for better of for worse. So why are you willing break your vows as well as God's commandment so easily. Have you even tried to work things out with your husband? Probably not. It is sad to see that our society is filled with a bunch of uncaring, insensitive people who only care about themselves. Rather than cheat on your husband why not just move on with your life and get a divorce. Lack of communication is perhaps the number one reason for failed marriages. Married couples don't take the time to sit down and have an intelligent adult conversation and attempt to work things out. Everyone wants to throw in the towel. I will keep you in my prayers. Peace and God bless.
2007-07-23 15:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is not the answer to a marriage without sex problem. That just makes the situation worse for everyone.
2007-07-23 15:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by meceil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi..
Why isn't he having sex with you? If its a physical thing.He needs to see a doctor..and if a psychological, he needs to see a therapist..Either way he has to speak to you about what's going on..It's painful for you, to you to have go through this without knowing the reason why..
If he refuses to do any of these things..give him an ultimatum..that he either talks to you about whats going on..and seeks help.or the marriage is in jeopardy..
Even though, I can understand how you feel..you really should try to find out what's going on in your marriage, before doing anything you'll be sorry for..If you still love him and want to keep the marriage going..both of you have some work to do!
Good Luck!
2007-07-23 15:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by howdoilvthee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..........If She Feels She Is Not Happy In A Sexless Marriage Then She Needs To Get Divorced And Then She Can Have All The Guilt Free Sex She Wants...............
2007-07-23 15:06:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not ok. I would talk to my husband about not fullfilling my needs and ask what i could do to help things happen. Worse comes to worse get yourself a toy. Nothing wrong with that and your not cheating but your handling your own needs. Cheating is not good ever, and it will ruin the relationship. But you have to talk to him about it. I hope that helps ~ Sheky
2007-07-23 15:04:49 · answer #10 · answered by sheky r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's never good for a wife to cheat on her husband, that's called adultery.
2007-07-23 15:04:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋