Friend got engaged to guy overseas, calls it off for reasons. Gets back together bec of feelings, goes to home country n marries him. Comes back to US, applies for Immigration papers. She learns he is into nude sexual webcam chatting 6 mths into marriage. She files for divorce 11 mths into the marriage. He signs the divorce papers he gets from US court on wedding anniversary date. He started looking for someone to marry (arranged) couple days after signing the papers. He is saying to prospect females he was married only 4 mths and that the wife and he separated mutually (what a lie).
1. Who is at fault? Wife for getting back together. Her bond was soo weak, marriage failed.
2. Should she have saved marriage?
3. What did he try to convey by signing divorce papers on anniversary?
4. He now telling just 4 mths marriage, separated mutually.
Do guys do that? Hide matter so big?
Thanks for answering...
2007-07-23 14:50:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's an ***, and your friend didn't know him well enough before getting married.
Life moves on. Get over it.
2007-07-23 14:54:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wendy G is right on the money. It's always the man's fault, especially if he's a white man. Now if he's a minority and the same race as the wife, he is at fault. If he's a minority and the wife is white, it's her fault, or better yet, her dads fault.
You have to understand American Law. There's a pecking order that is "unofficially" enforced. Laws were saying the "n" word is actually worse than killing someone.
Divorce law here in the US falls under the same "unofficial" law. A feminist judge will give money, alimony, houses, cars, etc., to a murdering slut even if the husband was Ward Cleaver, because "women are always victims".
So even if the guy posed nude, on the internet, or went to Church everyday and gave to the poor, he is indeed at fault.
2007-07-23 15:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a LOSER with a capital L. Apparently she didn't know him as well as she should. That doesn't make her wrong for trying to get back with him. I commend her for seeking the divorce rather than tolerating his screwy behavior. As for signing the papers on the anniversary, who really cares?! She's far better off without him, even if he had signed the papers on her birthday!! And yes, some men lead secret lives. You see it on the news every day. However, getting back to your friend. She should feel elated that she found out his activities before they were married any longer..and put him out of her life. Now she can seek a man who is deserving of her and hopefully move forward to a better life.
2007-07-23 14:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by lsah1852 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can just chalk this up to a lesson learned and move on with her life.
They're divorced now, right? What he does is no longer any of her concern. Nor is what she does any of his concern. If either one of them wants to have a roman orgy with farm animals, it's nobody's business but their own.
She just needs to forget about him and get on with her life. If he wants to be a liar, let him. There's really nothing she can do to stop him. They have no obligation to each other.
EMT
2007-07-23 14:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by emt_me911 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. he is at fault.
2.hell no
3.not a big deal
4.so what.
5.This guy is a creep and a few other things I can't write here.
2007-07-23 14:57:53 · answer #5 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS.
Its ALWAYS the mans fault and don't let anyone tell you any different.
2007-07-23 14:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer 1 · 1⤊ 6⤋