Marriage & Divorce - 20 July 2007

Maybe it's just here on Answers, but all I see are people asking or talking about cheating on their spouse, or describing an unhappy marriage. Obviously when people get married, they don't expect their lives to turn out like this. For those that aren't married it makes you wonder if you should get married at all. Maybe I'm just being too cynical.

2007-07-20 07:59:29 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

I skip from category to category, and I've been spending the week in Marriage and Divorce. I have seen at least 6 or 7 comments from people that says that sex is not important or not one of the five things that make a marriage work. "JUST FREAKING SHOOT ME!!" Tell me that I'm not the only one that loves "passion"> "romance"> "love making"> and pure throw her down and take it crazy sex sometimes..lol I know love and communication and trust are "very" important....but to say that having a great sex life together is not important is like saying that if you are hungry, eating is just over-rated. Am I just having a testosterone moment here...sheeeeezz. Do you feel that a healthy relationship should always have great communication and passionate sex involved? I know that everytime you will not feel the "Earth Move" but should there be a good amount of fun and sexual play to enjoy. Or am I just being a typical "male."

2007-07-20 07:58:16 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-20 07:51:31 · 19 answers · asked by jija 2

Don't try to say it's love. I love diet pepsi and I don't want to marry one. Don't try to say it's commitment or loyalty. I am commited and loyal to the diet pepsi company and I don't want to marry one. Don't try to say it's communication or trust. I can communicate with the diet pepsi company and I trust them but I don't want to marry a diet pepsi.

Don't try to say it sex or intimacy or children. We all know how hard it is to have children, to have a sexual encounter and to be coveniently intimate.

Don't try to say it's the whole religious issue and/or the vow thing. Non-believer's stay married just as long and/or get divorced just as much.

Love, Commitment, Communication, are not destinations in life, but instead simply feelings along the way. You don't get to Love USA and live there forever.

Honestly, what is the GLUE that binds a marriage?

2007-07-20 07:45:02 · 41 answers · asked by Daniel 6

What would you do? Get a DIVORCE or ATTEMPT TO WORK IT OUT?

Please include your age and gender and whether or not you are married if you don't mind. Again, I'm doing some studies.

2007-07-20 07:33:45 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous

Tell me what you think. And if you don't mind, would you please state your gender and age. Thanks.

P.S. - For those wondering, I'm doing some studies.

2007-07-20 07:14:07 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

i've tried a couple of times.. but i feel my husband is not satisfied.. even if i am just a "beginner" i feel very guilty coz of that.. help me plzz

2007-07-20 07:11:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK this is a little different. I have movie buddies at work. However, neither like a certain genre, so I asked this other man at work who is a little older than me if he'd take that slot for my movie bud and he said prehaps. Later on I asked him and he asked if it would be just us and I said probably since I can't find anyone else who likes those movies. He said since I'm married and he's single that he's a little uncomfy, but would love to, but is afraid of people to start talking since my husband is deployed and this man and I work together. And he's afraid of getting himself into a bad situation with me. Um, it's just a movie partner! He's in the military. I'm not. My husband is fine with it. I just don't understand why he said maybe, but then later on totally did a mind change. What the heck is going on in his head?

2007-07-20 07:07:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you find that you love your children more deeply than your spouse? I find this tendency to be more prevalent in women, who I often hear claim to love their children more than their husband. Please let me know if you do/don't. And if you don't mind, please state your gender and age. I appreciate it.

2007-07-20 07:01:37 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

About 10 years ago my husband and I had a friend over. We were all in the bedroom just hanging out. He was on the computer, she was on the bed reading the newspaper and I was sitting nearby.

I left to go to the store for something for about 25 minutes. When I came back the door was closed and the sheets had been pulled off the bed. Each was still doing what they were doing before. When I asked my husband, he said a drink had spilled on the bed so they pulled the sheets and washed them. I don't remember checking the washer.

Anyway, years later they both deny anything happened and I was just over reacting.. I trust my dear friend and we've all been friends. We are going to her wedding this weekend. But was I wrong to even think that it could easily LOOK LIKE SOMETHING was going on?

2007-07-20 06:50:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

She's run off and taken my kids. I don't know where she's gone. I filed for divorce today. It''s costing me alot of money. My kids are worth it. They are going to know their Daddy loves them. They are certainly not told that by their mother. I'm tired of her brainwashing.
Am I going to have enough strength to get through this. I long for real love and affection. People have told me it gets better. Anybody been through this before?

2007-07-20 06:49:49 · 15 answers · asked by prouddaddy 6

A Bizarre Feature Popular in New Houses
If you're thinking about building a new house, beware the builder may ask you if you want two master bedroom suites--one for the Mr. and one for the Missus. Turns out, this is the latest rage in new homes, with the National Association of Home Builders predicting that 60 percent of custom-built homes will have two master bedroom suites by 2015. Why? It ensures a more harmonious marriage,It wasn't too long ago that separate bedrooms meant the marriage was failing; now it's viewed as a practical necessity that helps individuals get seven to eight hours of uninterrupted sleep especially as both husbands and wives juggle child care and work responsibilities. Stephanie Coontz, an expert on families, told The New York Times that many couples are "confident enough that they have a nice marriage, but they don't particularly like sleeping in the same room." She adds, "I don't think it says anything about their sex lives." So if you're intrigued by the idea, but wonder what your friends and family will say, do what many builders are doing. Call that second bedroom a "flex suite."

2007-07-20 06:27:41 · 29 answers · asked by Nita and Michael 7

Because i did and now my terrible wife is driving me crazy! I almost feel like getting a job to get some time away from her.

2007-07-20 06:27:12 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

why are you unhappy?

2007-07-20 06:23:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok since we got married(5 ys ago) my hubby would always carry some pics of his ex girlfriend...he had one in particullar that was him kissing her. it irritated me...so everytime that we would go to mexico i would ask him to take them ti his moms house and leave them there, he never took them!! i would ask nicely, to take them somewhere that wasnt our home, i would just hate it if my oldest duaghter saw them and get a lil confused. well he still woulnt take them . so one day i just got tired of it, and i thru the damn things away, do you think i did wrong? i mean i know that that happened in his past and was over with but why keep them in MY house!!!

oh and by the way, im not paranoid i just ned to know......
and no his not cheating on me.

2007-07-20 06:10:21 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok men, I need your help on this question.
I was seperated from my husband for 8 months and seriously contemplating a divorce. During the seperation, I had an emotional affair with my husband's ex-boss. There were times when he would tell me I should work it out with my hubby and then there were times when he became jealous if I even mentioned my hubby's name.

Just recently, I told him that my husband and I are going to work things out. Well the ex-boss got very jealous and started talking really bad about my husband and telling me that my marriage isn't going to work out.

Why did he tell me I should work it out with my husband and then when I told him I was; he got so angry?

2007-07-20 05:56:31 · 19 answers · asked by willow 1

This question is for people who didn't have sex till their wedding night(both the man and the woman waited). Was it awkward? If so, why?

2007-07-20 05:51:52 · 9 answers · asked by Jessica 2

Ever been married to someone that does things intentionally to get your attention or to "prove" that you love them. For instance, if your wife keeps leaving and then admits to you that she left because she wants you to come chase her to prove how much you love her. Or they'll say they want a divorce just for the same reasons. Now in line with that when you just say fine I can't put up with all this drama you give them what they supposedly want...a divorce and they get all mad and pissed off. Then you're the bad guy in the divorce! Seems like a sign of immaturity and has no place in a muture marriage. What do you all think? Know anybody like this? Doesn't it seem like all the good ones they are with they end up destroying the relationship by acting like this and play the victim but everybody knows it's them that caused the demise of the marriage or relationship but being their friend you can't say anything. Know any women like this?

2007-07-20 05:47:40 · 13 answers · asked by survivor 1

My husband and I seperated in Nov. This was do to my fault. I met someone online. For the past 4 years (married for 6) my husband as no time for me. He works from 8-4 then since he is a head football coach, he goes to practice from 4 until 8/ 9 at nt. We have never fought, because we never talk and we are never together. Then I found someone who actually talked to me (yes, a mistake i kno) my husband and I went to therapy and he vowed to change and to spend time with our 2 children (3 & 5) and me (and i stopped seeing the other man) We took a 2 day trip, just us 2 in Jan. Since then, its back to the same ways..and back to counseling. Im NOT talking about long weekend getaways. I want to go tenting in our back yard, go to a concert go dancing, go fishing. When we would go to the local races, he would ignore me, even though i would beg him to sit with me. When we got marr., I lost all my friends, he didnt like them. Do I get a divorce and find some1 to share my life with? or stay?

2007-07-20 05:19:27 · 32 answers · asked by Amy B 1

2007-07-20 05:13:10 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-20 04:59:31 · 10 answers · asked by ? 1

I'm 20 yrs old and 6 months pregnant, the babies father and I are no longer together. He's in college, I'm still at home and working, and now that my son is on the way my education is on hold. I worry if I bring him to court or vise versa he'll get custody ONLY because he'll be more financially stable than I am. He lives about 6 hrs from me, and I'm worried he'll be able to just drive up and take him hrs away. Basically I have no idea what to do..

2007-07-20 04:54:38 · 10 answers · asked by Marie 1

we had a fight and i left for the night and talkd to her and she wants to leave the state until we agree on something, can she do that?

2007-07-20 04:49:51 · 13 answers · asked by coolstud669 1

My fiance asked me if he could trade with his cousin my laptop that I bought with my own money before I even met him for a Portable DVD player that goes in the car cause he wants it. Then got mad when I told him no I would not trade it.. I told him he had no right to get mad at me cause I paid for the laptop before we even met. To me he also didn't even have a right to even ask me to trade my laptop for something he wants and I have no use for... He wants it cause he wants to watch movies while driving which I don't think he needs to do cause he needs to pay attention to the road since he won't let me drive cause he does not like my driving..

2007-07-20 04:46:11 · 15 answers · asked by movu101779 3

in five years. You are kind of like roommates. However, you have a child together, the child is 8 years old. You really want to live as you are 40 and know that life does not last forever, however, do you wait until you have found someone else, get a divorce before hand and possibly let the child suffer, or continue to be friends with the person that you have married and just live that way. Just that the possibility of finding someone to love and who loves you back is appealing, too Cinderallish? Just give it up for the sake of the child, or go for life? Is it selfish to get a divorce when there is a child involved? or do you just stay with the person even thought there is NO attraction or desire b/c?
Please no sarcarm.

2007-07-20 04:45:04 · 33 answers · asked by bck2liberty 3

I'm in love. He is married before 4 years and seperated before 3 years not legely. He is trying for a divorce but she is offending! It may take another few years to finish. I'm ready to wait but really tensed?

2007-07-20 04:32:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

We are always held second and even third to my husbands father and brother. Their needs always come before my kids and me. Am I wrong for wanting more???

2007-07-20 04:31:48 · 51 answers · asked by eyeore 4

If you feel the love has gone, but you still care for a person, is it time to get out of the relationship?

2007-07-20 04:18:47 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

Under the custody agreement, I notified my wife that I was taking the kids on vacation starting today. I bought tickets for me, my girlfriend and her daughter and my two kids to go to London for a week. Our plane leaves in two hours. My wife just called to say that she is in Maine and won't make it back until tomorrow.

Is there anything that I can do about this? I need some suggestions.

2007-07-20 04:08:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Without p*ssing them off? (She's been acting differently... distant. Also, used to be self-conscious about her breasts, suddenly got no hangups with revealing tops. Most suspicious was when she called one day saying she was at work but it wasn't her work number... There's other little things that could just be my imagination, but I've got this really nagging suspicion that won't go away ) So what's the best way to ask her, because she's not the type that likes being accused, guilty or not (who is)?

2007-07-20 03:56:21 · 34 answers · asked by Scatter 1