Marriage & Divorce - 20 July 2007

my husband and i had split up do to him cheating well he has moved back in and we have been trying to give it another shot but the thing is he is really trying to make it work and i keep talking to other guys on the phone wont clean up the house,cook or anything i don't understand what has made me act like this i used to be the complete opposite and i feel bad for my husband, because he is trying to make things work and i have lost interest i guess so what do you think about this situation?

2007-07-20 15:09:30 · 14 answers · asked by hcj25 2

My husband's ex-wife says she is gettting remarried. If her new guy wants to adopt my husband's kid, is it legal without his permission? Will my husband still have to pay child support? He doesn't even get to see his kid they live 3,000 miles away on purpose.

2007-07-20 14:46:17 · 21 answers · asked by MaggieMae 4

so i'm having problems with my husband of 3 years. (see other ?s) basically we're 27, he's going out every wkend and i'm staying home with our daughter for the most part. even when we get a sitter, there's no "us" time. i feel like 6 years of being together we are in a routine. wake up, go to work, come home, eat supper, go to bed-do it all over again. we talk-like we're best friends, and laugh. i feel like we've been married for 40 years and there's just no lust, no passion. is this what i'm in store for for years and years to come? should i be happy with this?

2007-07-20 14:36:33 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Reader's/Answerer's Poll:

Long Time Married Men:

Is it possible to have the perfect marriage, know that you love your wife and family intensely, but still fall in love with another woman? Have you gone through this?


Is it always a "mid-life crisis" if a married man falls for a younger woman?


What have you done or what would you do in this circumstance?


Is it best to cut off a relationship like this (if neither party appear psycho, and are content), or is it kosher in modern society to have a private plutonic (or not), very much 'in love' relationship with someone outside of the marriage?


If this has ever happened to you, or is happening to you, were you happy with your choice? Do you think it could have been different?

2007-07-20 14:24:09 · 14 answers · asked by Jules Dixon 1

He works with me. He is very handsome but at least 15 years older than me. he is also married with kids. there is something that happens when we talk. You can really tell there is something going on. Today he kissed me. I just got up and left. He wants us to have an affair.He doesn't want to leave his wife and I don't want to leave my husband. I really like him. I know I love my husband, but I really like this man and would like to go ahead and call him to get together sometime. I feel so guilty when I see my husband. I don't know what to do. Help please!

2007-07-20 14:17:45 · 35 answers · asked by ngbeliever 1

(Disreguard if you are a newly-wed)

In your relationship, what do you think has gotten you through the good and bad times together? Has their ever been a case of unfaithfulness, how did you get past it and have a trusting relationship? Have you ever thought you were close to getting a divorce or doubt the strength of the relationship?


To those of you who may have already gotten a divorce, do you think there were any signs early on that maybe this wasnt the relationship for you?

2007-07-20 13:24:50 · 23 answers · asked by capoeirista 3

Can a spouse devorce in Calif without the other signing? I have a friend who told me his wife devorced him without his knowing until he recieved the papers in the mail. Is that true?

2007-07-20 13:20:40 · 8 answers · asked by bear 1

Was there someone you knew (or know) or encountered that wish you had never turned down for a date or regret not dating? There's a guy who was so interested in me, and I was interested (and still am actually) in him, but I turned him and his flirts away for the reason that I listened to someone else. I'm not married yet but still.

2007-07-20 13:20:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My girlfriend of 8 years does not enjoy sex as often as I would like her to, and she is trying to keep us both happy by telling me she is ok with me having sex with another girl- like establishing a sex partner as long as there are no feelings attached. She condones this, but I feel it is cheating- yet she says cheating is a term used to describe an affair or a secret relationship that ends up hurting the significant other. She says I would not be cheating on her, but I think it is cheating and I do not want to do it and have tried discouraging her from the idea. Do you feel it is cheating?

2007-07-20 13:19:54 · 20 answers · asked by andrew 1

My husband brought me a beautiful ring. Am I suppose to buy him one?

2007-07-20 13:15:04 · 20 answers · asked by Arded 2

Ever since my son was born 2 years ago I have no thoughts or feelings to want to make love , but I love my husband oh so dearly ! He says that I must not love him because I dont give him any attention, not even hug or kiss that much cause it leads to a fight because he starts making moves and I shut him down because Im just so tired. I work full time with a 7 and 2 yr old , and my 2 yr stil wakes at night therefore I havent had a full nights sleep in 2 years , my husband tries to help [once every 2 to 3 weeks maybe] but I still wake up like clock work...and the only thing running through my head is getting through the day so I can get to bed ... Please help .Hes so mad at me and I truly think hes getting ready to leave me , and I dont want that to happen at all , What is wrong with me , why dont I want to make love anymore??????!!! Thanks for at least reading even if you cant answer ...Have a great DAY:}

2007-07-20 13:05:59 · 18 answers · asked by misque77 2

I love her for the way she is she does not want the money but one of her kids say take it and the other one says leave it to the dogs home who is right

2007-07-20 12:40:46 · 42 answers · asked by colin050659 6

A married guy i used to sleep with ( BEFORE he was married!!) has been tring to get in my pants for 6 months. he went so far as to call in the midle of the night and ask me to come to his house he lives @ with his wife becuase she had left town for the night. of course, i said no. he sent me graphic emails nad talked about wanting sex. i wrote him a week ago said i was horny too and wanted him too, and he wrote back saying his manhood was hard. well two days later, he writes an emali about how he just cant go through with it becuase he hates his wife but woudln't do that to his son. is he bluffing playing that whole " hornorable guy " thing but he really wants to get down & dirty and have me pursue him so he doesnt feel guiltly? or does it genuinley sound liek someone like him could be pursuing it that long then change his mind?

2007-07-20 12:39:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

He has info on who may have come or gone in and out of the house, phone calls, etc. What is the most likely ways he is monitoring the bedroom or entrances? Also, can he tap into my cell phone? I'm supposing he is using a key-logging program to monitor my internet usage (probably this question, but I don't care!).

I'm working on the legalities and talking with him about his behavior. Right now, though, I want to know how to find any devices because I don't like living like this.

No, I'm not crazy or paranoid, but it seems he's gone overboard with needing to check up on me. Can you give me any tips on where to look for these items and how to disable them?

Thanks in advance for your responses!!!!

2007-07-20 12:25:55 · 8 answers · asked by Wondering 4

im tired of being single i wanna find a guy that is serious and wants to get marry in the future i just came out of a dead end realtionship of four years

2007-07-20 12:25:08 · 20 answers · asked by can u ♥ moi? 4

2007-07-20 12:04:50 · 27 answers · asked by sara 1

I am 30 she is 29.We have a 3 yr old son and we are both great parents. She stays home with him but she also gets out alot cause she is a singer. we have had a good life and we are well off finacially. I never have told her she can't do anything and she has always been my true love. the biggest problem we have had is communication. Now she tells me the last 3 years she has felt numb. and she don't have feelings for me. She wants to seperate to see if she wants to be with me anymore. I told her we both put alot in to our child and we need to learn to commuicate better and start putting each other first again, I suggested counceling and she tells me she does not want to. I love her more then anything and I don' t want to split up my family. I was not perfect but I was not awful and I am willing to change. any advice would be great.. thanks

2007-07-20 11:49:02 · 30 answers · asked by json 1

2007-07-20 11:38:49 · 28 answers · asked by sakal c 1

Just curious about something my ex-husband is doing.

Now that it appears he's either remarried or seriously dating, why is he trying to put on a pity parade about lack of visitation with his son. He didn't even ask last year for Christmas. Suddenly his mom gets jealous that my kids and I visited my family (for the first time in five years) and suddenly it's important for my son to go to a state where my ex-husband doesn't even live anymore to see HIS family. He sees them every summer and every Christmas that he asks.

He moved several thousand miles from us and is now complaining because the travel is expensive. He works a 47K job for a couple of years, why should he have a problem with expenses.

Why does he pretend that I want a relationship with him? IS it to make her jealous? Is he a drama queen? Any ideas? I'm sick of dealing with him altogether. I love my son dearly but I'm regretting not having an abortion, so I wouldn't be stuck for eight more years dealing with this A*hole

2007-07-20 11:28:25 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I sat next to a guy on the plane and we had an instant connection about so many things. After a month of communicating via email - nothing romantic, he came to the State I am in for his job training for a week. He told me he was married with two kids about 2 hours after we met. I was shocked since he had never mentioned it before and he apologized and said it was coz he knew he would never see me again if he did and he really wanted to. He really
is a decent man. We saw each other as friends for a few days after that but I told him not to communicate with me ever again since it was obvious we were attracted to each other. He wrote
to me after about over a month later and said he had moved out of his house two weeks ago and filed for a divorce and would like to pursue something with me after all is done if
I wanted to or just as friends…I dont want to feel like i broke a home even though i know i didn't...What should I do?

2007-07-20 11:24:53 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

What do you love/admire most about your Spouse? Are they sexy, a good provider, a giving heart, outgoing, misterious? List thier top five redeeming values to you.

2007-07-20 11:20:58 · 16 answers · asked by The Central Scrutinizer 3

I love her more then anything and we have a 3 yr old son. She knows how much it hurts me, I can't function at work or at home. we have a good life, she stays home with our son, and I have never told her she can't do anything. Our biggest problem is we have had trouble comunicating in the past. I am trying to change, and I believe I have. and I want to go to counceling. any help or Ideas would be great. again she is my world.

2007-07-20 11:03:32 · 12 answers · asked by json 1

I have been happily married 16 yrs but 10 yrs ago i cheated on hubby it only happened 1 time never before that and it never happened again and never will..I told hubby the next day he forgave me and since that day we have never talked about it again but sometimes i think about it and feel so bad about what i did cause he is such a great guy and didnt deserve that..I know this is no excuse but back then our sex life wasnt that great and i felt unwanted now its a lot better..I would never cheat again cause i love hubby more then anything and would never hurt him like that again..How do forget this and forgive myself?

2007-07-20 11:02:05 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

well recently I found out that my firstborn son(40 years old) and the foundation for which my marriage was built on was named after my wife's high school ex-boyfriend, He wont allow me to have a blood test done to see if he is really my son, he said he would rather go on not knowing, so I decided that since she took my 40 year old son I will take her 40th anniversary away, I figure that I will just get her a really lame sweater(with a giraffe on it or something) or maybe a gift certificate for like 25 dollars and I wont even put her name on it. Or maybe I will just buy her a bunch of cheap china from the dollar store or something, I don't know, I just need some ideas, something that will make her think that I have a surprise gift but in actuality I wont!!!!! If she makes me question my marriage and the birth of my son I will make her question her marriage and her 40 years with me, its only fair

2007-07-20 10:52:40 · 15 answers · asked by james peters 1

I am a mom of 4 kids..age 2, 18, 24 and 25. My husband stays at work long hours. When he gets home, he takes a shower and goes to bed. I sleep in a recliner frequently because of his snoaring. There has been no intimacy between us in over a year. He has gained a lot of weight so it might be a physical problem. But I still miss the affection. On our wedding anniversary a few weeks ago, I mentioned how much has happened..and looked to the future. He seems to think he will be dead in a few years. He is older that both his brother and father when they died. He is only 45. He says genetics is the most important thing and will not diet. He says he is going to enjoy food with the time he has left. My 18 year old also has a weight problem and I am trying desperately to prepare healthy low fat, and low calorie good foods. I am exhausted from taking care of a 2 year old. My father is elderly and I clean his house weekly. I have lots of friends ...but something is missing. Suggestions??

2007-07-20 10:52:39 · 15 answers · asked by rcpaden 5

we're young, 20, been together for five years, not married. we broke up..found out I was prego, got back together. pregnancy was great. relationship for the most part...he cheated on me when our son was 5 months. kicked him out, took him back. relationship good and bad....I met someone, cheated on him. Stopped very shortly afterward, relized that what I did was wrong, and stopped everything. Since then we've been trying to work on our relationship....but it hasn't really been working...I've tryed to break up with him in the past, but he begged me to take him back which I did. He is a great father! He works away from home on the weekdays and comes back on the weekends. it's been hard on him I know. my son and I went on a day long trip and at the end of it my son was drained. well we went to pick up my boyfriend and he was drunk. my son wanted nothing to do with him, or anybody for that matter. my bf completly changed not wanting anything to do with him for the whole night....calling him

2007-07-20 10:51:47 · 14 answers · asked by U1S2K3O4 2

How did you or do you do it? How do you stay around and try to put things behind you after the most horrible thing to happen to a relationship has ripped your life apart? I am absoluetly sick about this. I don't know what to do. I can't stand to see his face and the thought of him makes me ill. I don't know if I can. My children are very young, but it still kills me that they have to hear me screaming at their father. How do you cope?

2007-07-20 10:41:25 · 26 answers · asked by redpeach_mi 7

2007-07-20 10:40:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, here it is, I have been married for 5long years, and we have three kids together. Sheis always accusing me of cheating on her, shetold me today that she cheated on me, howdo i know??? was she saying it bcuz she is mad?? Howcan i findout? I havenever cheated on her nore have i ever wanted to. ButI'm scared ofdivorce, what aboutmy kids? Whogets them??I want them!! They are mine! What do I do?? desolate_pepsi_101@yahoo.com

2007-07-20 10:31:30 · 10 answers · asked by desolate_pepsi_101 2

We have been together, on and off, for nearly 5 years but have been officially together for these past 2 years. I am ready for a proposal and marriage within the next year or so. But he doesnt seem to want to ask? He kind of takes it as a joke when I mention us getting married. & sort of changes the subject. I'm not sure if this is on purpose or what, but... What does this mean?

2007-07-20 10:24:06 · 20 answers · asked by ashley g 1