We have been together, on and off, for nearly 5 years but have been officially together for these past 2 years. I am ready for a proposal and marriage within the next year or so. But he doesnt seem to want to ask? He kind of takes it as a joke when I mention us getting married. & sort of changes the subject. I'm not sure if this is on purpose or what, but... What does this mean?
2007-07-20 10:24:06 · 20 answers · asked by ashley g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What's the rush???If you intend being together for the rest of your lives then a couple more years not being married won't change that....Don't put him under pressure if he feels he is not ready....Enjoy what you have now before you burden yourselves with all the responsability of getting married,making a home & raising a family...You are still young...
2007-07-20 10:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It IS a joke to marry at 18. Neither of you has a college degree, nor a salable skill. You would be starting at the bottom of the economic ladder......What you like as a teenager may not be what you like at 25.
Here, sweetie are the four little things my mama pounded into my head at beginning at age 13... puberty. I am now 56, financially independent, married two wonderful men, the last one killed in an accident, and because love is toooooo lovely to give only once, am with another lovely man, now into our third year together.... If you had had my mama as your parent, this is what she would have told you.........
1. The most important decision you will ever make is who you marry... choose with your head as well as your heart.
2. Have no children until your bond is strong. Kids can destroy anything. And have no more than you yourself can support.... you may just have to.
3. At what ever cost, finish your education and come away with a salable skill... Qualify for those jobs that pay mega buckos. Kids and your education are forever, husbands, lovers and promises are not.
4. Have a stash of cash no one knows about even if you know you will never need it.... you will, and the more the better.
Sweetie, you can always get married, and you have easily 15 years to begin a family should you want one. Don't make the mistake that is so often posted on this site... "Oh, what do I do. I am 23, I have 3 kids, he's gone all the time, I hate my life, he doesn't love me, we have no money, I can't work, yadadyadyadyadya...... "
Don't make this you. Protect your future... finish school.
2007-07-20 17:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about it he is only 19. He isn't a man yet! Guys mature later than women. You will loose him if you continue to talk marriage to him!
We are in 2007 not many people get married when they are 19. Average age for marriage is almost pushing 30s now.
Just accept the relationship for what it is. Your his Girlfriend Both of you will change so much when you are in your 20s. Wait until you are at least 25 to get married and you will look back and see it was the right decision.
2007-07-20 17:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you think you're ready for a proposal doesn't mean he has to ask you. If he's not ready for marriage he's not going to ask you is he? And you putting pressure on him is just going to make him more uncomfortable.
Most 19 year old guys aren't remotely interested in marriage. They just want to have a fun time with a girl they care about.
Basically, what "it means" is that he's not ready for marriage and he isn't going to ask you any time soon, so unless you want to freak him out and alienate him completely I'd suggest you back off.
2007-07-20 17:28:49 · answer #4 · answered by Spazzcat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is 19 years old and does not see himself as ready to get married yet. He does not want to hurt you, he most likely loves you, but he still needs time to grow and mature!
You both have your lives ahead of you. Get yourselves an education, and a start on a career before you consider marriage. Most marriages that fail do so because of money problems.
Enjoy what you have. If you two are meant to be together, you will be!!
Good luck!
2007-07-20 17:30:43 · answer #5 · answered by fire4511 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It means that he isnt read for marriage. Marriage is not a joke. It is a lot of work! I would think of his behavior as a lack of respect towards you and your commintment to the relationship. I was married when I was 20, and I would not recommend it. You need time to find youself, what your future will look like. Believe me! Your future is designed by the decisions you make know. Make sure they are the right ones.
2007-07-20 17:33:06 · answer #6 · answered by Gitana 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It means he's not ready for it. If you've been on again off again are you sure you want to get married? My finacee and I have been together almost 4 years without breaking up once. To me it seems if the relationship is on again off again, chances are it isn't going to work out.
2007-07-20 18:37:31 · answer #7 · answered by hungryeyes001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are both young! He is not ready even though you are. Or you think you are. Don't you have dreams and goals that you want to achieve before settling down? Marriage is great but wait a while.
2007-07-20 17:31:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that don't mean he doesn't love you i think he is not just really prepared for marriage he still want you both 2 focus on your study that why he seem like he always ignore or change the subject whenever you bring up the top and i think that real do show how much he Love's and care about you and again also want the best for you
2007-07-20 18:18:05 · answer #9 · answered by bola a 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is NOT ready. Don't pressure him. Besides....if you are going to spend a lifetime together...what does it matter if you are dating or married? Just take things in steps and grow in the relationship!!
2007-07-20 17:28:07 · answer #10 · answered by sugarbud 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋