More to my situation.........?

Question

we're young, 20, been together for five years, not married. we broke up..found out I was prego, got back together. pregnancy was great. relationship for the most part...he cheated on me when our son was 5 months. kicked him out, took him back. relationship good and bad....I met someone, cheated on him. Stopped very shortly afterward, relized that what I did was wrong, and stopped everything. Since then we've been trying to work on our relationship....but it hasn't really been working...I've tryed to break up with him in the past, but he begged me to take him back which I did. He is a great father! He works away from home on the weekdays and comes back on the weekends. it's been hard on him I know. my son and I went on a day long trip and at the end of it my son was drained. well we went to pick up my boyfriend and he was drunk. my son wanted nothing to do with him, or anybody for that matter. my bf completly changed not wanting anything to do with him for the whole night....calling him

calling him every name in the book in spanish and some in english too. it just hurts me that he would even hold it agianst our son that he didn't want to see him or play with him. he's only 17 months and doesn't know any better. That is basically the last straw that broke the cammel's back...to make me want to leave him. Should I? or should we work it out???

FYI to wayne, I didn't have sex when I was 15, I was 18 when i got pregnant. I'm not saying that that age is any better, but i was just correcting you.

Answer 1

You certainly have your work cut out for you if you want to work things out. Your boyfriend has brought much of this upon himself. He's going to have to be a more responsible, mature person if he wants to be a father. This would probably be a good time to shop around without getting too involved with anyone because you want to give your bf some time to think about what needs to be done. You may find that another man is better suited to you and your son and leave that other guy to go on being a kid himself with all his bros. Wait! You said he was a good father, so why do you want to break up with him again?

Answer 2

Your relationship is only going to go EXTREMELY downhill from here.

You need to get out, and find a good guy. If you stay with this loser he's gonna end up beating your kid, and become an alcoholic and just **** up your whole life. Don't do it. Date a few different guys over the next year or two until you find a good guy who is willing to date a woman with a child.

You two are never going to have the same trust you had before. You can't just flick a switch and start over. You both will remember the times you cheated on each other, and will most likely remember the bad times over the good. He will always have some kinda of hatred because he will feel like your holding him down, or your kid is, your you'll feel that about him. You relationship will end in some kind of extreme if you stay together sooner or later.

Good luck, and I will pray for you and your child.

Answer 3

You are young, and very young to have started dating five years ago. You have not handled things in a mature manner and it isn't going change. It won't be very pretty in the future no matter what you do. Once you leave, and yes you should not be living with this guy with your son, you will find he denies being the father in the first place. Why would he do that? Same reason he wants to live with and stay with you. He doesn't have to pay child support if he's living with you. Stop being taken advantage of, get your own place, and be with your son alone and take care of him before some moron boyfriend. OK?

Answer 4

Get your son and leave him. He sounds like he only brings you down. As you mentioned you cheated and then realized that you had done the wrong thing. I am not excusing your actions but I bet he brought you down so much that your judgment was effected. You deserve better and if he is going to be cursing out your son then you might want to seek full custody with only supervised visitation. Don't make yourself continue to be brought down or miss treated by someone who you obviously don't get along with. You deserve better and nows your chance to start a new life with your son and perhaps you will find someone who will treat you the way you should be treated. Good luck and I hope that you do find happiness in what ever you do!

Answer 5

That's why you don't have sex when your 15.Your not smart enough or mature enough to handle the consequences.

I hope that all you teeny bopers reading this take note on what this women is going through and use B control. Sex is for grownups and you sure aren't there yet.

Answer 6

He needs to grow up. I would never be with a man that treated my kids that way. Your child's well being should be at the forefront of your mind. Now it's just namecalling, but what will happen when the boyfriend gets really mad? Think about it.

Answer 7

Run it will not get better. To much water under the bridge. Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. Maybe you need counseling before you run to another bad situation.

Answer 8

Bail and run, you guys have come to the end fo the roller coaster ride, and there is no need in dragging yoru son through another turn.

Answer 9

i dont care if he's the father--disrespect for your child should not be tolerated.

you have to think about how it effects your son as well as you. its obvious your relationship is intense and passionate; however, the passion has to make way for responsible and clear cut decisions.

sometimes you cant follow your heart--you're the grown up here, think about your son.

Answer 10

What part of the English language don't you understand?? You both are whacked and are very immature. Leave his sorry *ss and take care of your son.