how can i prove to my fiance that i am not cheating on him or having an affair?

Answer 1

You don't need to prove anything. If he's going to marry you, he should learn to trust you. Relationships are built on trust. Tell him that!

Answer 2

You can't.

Your best option is to just tell him you are not. And that he has to trust you.

The best you might be able to do is ask him, "What can I do to prove to you that I am not cheating on you, cause I'm not."

If he doesn't give you a specific answer or gives you an answer that makes him the most controlling, jealous guy on the planet, then you need to realize this is s "him" problem not a "you" problem.

If he can't learn to trust you then you are wasting your time trying to make this relationship work.

By the time you do prove to him you are not cheating you will be SO miserabel from all teh compromises you have made it really won't be worth it.

So tell him to trust you or dump you. There is no inbetween.

Answer 3

If your fiancee cannot trust you, then I'm not sure there is anything you can do.

Trust is essential to a relationship. If you have had an affair in the past, then I can see why this might be a problem and the only thing that will "prove" it to him is your ongoing faithfulness.

If you have never given him reason to doubt you, then I'd start being concerned about his lack of trust and/or insecurity, and deal with it BEFORE you get married....

Answer 4

As much as you want to reassure him that your not doing anything, there's no way to prove your not cheating to him. Guys do this so they have control over the relationship. Once you try then you will be proving to him from now on. So if your game to prove to him your not then expect to prove it from now on and 4-ever. If he loves you the way his suppose to then he needs to take all the effort he used to convince himself that you are and convince himself your not. I mean what in the world does he think YOU did that made him think this. You better nip this in the bud and tell him his just going to have to trust you and believe in you and if he can't do that then you need to send him packing and find someone that can. You'll be divorced in about 2 years if you allow him to act like this and keep you on the hook.

Answer 5

Well, he obously has a reason for thinking this. You have either done something. OR perhaps he is cheating on you. You should not have to PROVE to him that your not cheating on him, you should be able to tell him this and he should beleive you. If you have done something in the past though then you might need to perhaps not go out with friend for awhile, or let him check the phone bill, etc...for awhile to gain his trust.

Answer 6

you can't. he is insecure and that is something that you cant change. when someone is insecure, whether its about the way they look, the way the speak or about their relationship, it is an internal issue with themselves. think about it, if your friend is insecure about the way she dances is there anything you can say or do to make her change her mind? not really, it boils down to what she thinks anyways, and she is the one who has to get the guts from somewhere to over come that.

the real question here is how long can you deal with his insecurities. probably till he pushes you away or drives you crazy by accusing you of stuff you didn't do. this is his issue not yours. don't let him make you feel like your doing something wrong when you really aren't. stand your ground that you are a respectable girl, have good values, and would never do something that low to your boyfriend. if he cant believe that then he has big issues to deal with.

if you want to take the time to help him you can try to talk to him about his past and where he gets this fear from. it can work if he is a logical person and is willing to admit that he has a problem

Answer 7

Allow him to see for himself if that is what he wants.

Be totally accountable for your time. Let him know if you are going to be late or such.

Drop privacy for the time being and give him access to your phone, voice mails, emails, IM's, whatever. Radical honesty.

Let him know what boundaries you are putting in place to protect your relationship with him and then hold HIM to those boundaries also.

But, are you willing to always tiptoe around on eggshells with this man? Does he have insecurities or self esteem issues?
Has he been betrayed before and has major insecurities?

Maybe he needs to look within himself to see why he worries about this.

Answer 8

Honestly, other than being the kind of spouse you want to be, you can't prove to him anything he doesn't want to believe. The question is, what is it about his low self esteem that he doesn't think he deserves a faithful wife? Another thing to consider is that a person can never trust another person more than they can trust themselves. What is is about his life that is untrustworthy?

Answer 9

If he is thinking that way about you, and has no reason too, that should be your warning sign. You should put some serious thought about staying in the relationship. That is a sign of his insecurities which leads down the road to him controlling you, and end result divorce.

Answer 10

why would u have to prove something your not doing? this may be a way for him to get out of it by accusing u of something your not doing. he may have been hurt by someone in his past and hasn't gotten over it yet, and its coming into the relationship he has with u. i would stand up for myself, because if u allow him to push u around now he will in the future. he may be trying to get out of the wedding hoping that what he is doing will make u angry enough to call off the wedding, just his way of doing it so it won't appear he caused anything. personally i would never marry someone who kept accusing me of a wrong i was not doing.

Answer 11

Once a man gets it in his mind there's something going on it's hard to convince him there isn't. Is a particular person he suspects like a guy who you are just friends with? If so he's just insecure and jealous, and will always be like this. If there's no one in particular he might be cheating himself.