if your spouse starts hitting you during sex a keeps getting worse everytime dose that mean he wants out?

Answer 1

No your spouse is not telling you he wants out, he has some serious violence issues. This is called domestic violence. Domestic Violence does get worse and worse as time goes by.

I have read some of the answers others have answered to your question and many have suggested for you to get out before you end up dead. They are right, you could end up dead. The statistics are higher than most people are aware of.

Please contact your local domestic violence shelter to talk to an advocate or go in to see one. Please attend their groups as you need lots of support. I know it feels embarrassing to admit this information, but I assure you, these advocates have heard a story like yours before and know how to help you. These advocates will not only support you but they can help you with a safety plan, which it sounds like you may need.

To find out the nearest domestic violence shelter to you please call: The National Resource Center of Domestic Violence at: 1-800-537-2238


Please get help right away. You are not at fault and you have not caused his behavior in any way at all. NO ONE has the right to put their hands on you EVER for any reason. You have the right to be treated with dignity and respect, you ARE a special person and deserve to be treated that way.

My prayers are with you. Please take care of you.

Answer 2

If the only time he hits you is during sex, I'd say he doesn't want out he's kinky. If you don't like it tell him to stop. If he doesn't stop then you should leave. If he gets off on rough sex then I imagine that after a while he'll want to do other things to hurt and humiliate you that are alot more hurtful and kinky than this. I'd run for the hills. He needs therapy.

Answer 3

Maybe and then again maybe not. If you don't like the pain during sex I think you should talk to your spouse and tell him to quit hitting you. If you don't, there is a good possibility that he will abuse you later on.

Answer 4

If he's hitting you, at anytime, and you don't like it, then you should want to get out. If it's a sexual thing between the two of you, and its starting to make you feel uncomfortable, then you need to talk to him about whats ok and whats not ok. If he's trying to hurt you, you need to leave, and get some couples and individual counceling.

Answer 5

how long have this been going on? did you talk to him about his sexual behavior? does he hit on you any other time beside the two you having sex? Just ask him what is the hitting is all about during sex.

Answer 6

Sara pain is supposed to be a mutual thing during sex--if it hurts --tell him--if you don't like it --tell him--if he won't stop--leave him. Kink is a 2 person thing--done right it is a pleasure. It is dangerous if he gets violent and you can't get away. Didn't your husband do this before marriage?? He hid this behavior and that is creepy. Go buy a BIG dildo and jam it in his butt hard--see how he likes the pain.

Answer 7

as a man i have to say if your spouse is hittin you at all runn like hell even if it is just durrin sex now it will spill over however your question is a little vage if you are talking about a little spanking thats different that can be a natural reaction to how they are feeling but still be carful

Answer 8

this is something that should be talk about before sex and if it something you don't like let him know up front and if he still does it then most likey he the kind of guy who gets off when beating someone during sex he might be into MS talk before SEX

Answer 9

Sound like a deviate sexual behavior, he might be getting off hitting you and does realize he is hurting you in the process.

Answer 10

That means you better get out. It sounds bad if your talking to us instead of him. If it's escalating that could be very dangerous I know this sound weird but don't ever let him tie you up. Run like the wind. Don't let him now where you move to either.