Is he Bluffing?

Question

A married guy i used to sleep with ( BEFORE he was married!!) has been tring to get in my pants for 6 months. he went so far as to call in the midle of the night and ask me to come to his house he lives @ with his wife becuase she had left town for the night. of course, i said no. he sent me graphic emails nad talked about wanting sex. i wrote him a week ago said i was horny too and wanted him too, and he wrote back saying his manhood was hard. well two days later, he writes an emali about how he just cant go through with it becuase he hates his wife but woudln't do that to his son. is he bluffing playing that whole " hornorable guy " thing but he really wants to get down & dirty and have me pursue him so he doesnt feel guiltly? or does it genuinley sound liek someone like him could be pursuing it that long then change his mind?

Answer 1

He is playing games with you. Some men need their ego's stroked, so he wanted to see how far he could get you to go. He is trouble. Find someone who isn't taken and be with him.

Answer 2

Relax. No matter what the reason, you are both far better off. Find another release method than that of running after a married man. If he emails you again, tell him that even though you do not know his wife, you have more respect for her than to cheat with him. Then stop all contact with this guy as he sounds fickle to me.

Answer 3

He may have realized all that he has to lose and decided that it's not worth it.
Leave him alone. He's married. He has alot to lose, not to mention what it will do to his wife and child.
And you will have nothing to gain from it.

It's a no win situation for you. So take the best way out, the way that's going to make you feel good about yourself.

You deserve someone that will make you their number 1 priority in life.
You will never be # 1 with him :(

Answer 4

Don't be foolish. He's STILL MARRIED! If he wants to get into your pants then he should divorce his wife, but for cryin out loud, do not become a home wrecker and give in to this crap and sleep with him while he's still MARRIED. Just sever the ties with him until then, and afterward make certain he truly is divorced before proceeding.

Answer 5

He liked the idea of getting together with you and the pursuit was a turn on for him, but when you responded positively it became more real and less fantasy and he chickened out once he really thought through the consequences of it. You are better off!

Answer 6

I don't know what it is he wants but isn't it wrong to get involved with a man who is married regardless of the type of relationship you had with him before. Would you want some woman calling your man asking for a little something? I think not. I am not one to judge but don't you feel that what you are thinking of doing is wrong? You decide.

Answer 7

There is nothing in this for you.He is just looking for a bit on the side and you are it.Don't get sucked in here,this guy seems a bit short in the morals department.

Answer 8

Don't pursue him he is married. No good can come of this for anyone. If he leaves his wife for you, he would leave you for someone better also!

Answer 9

Frankly it sounds like he never had any real interest in you other than to use you as a whore while he remained married and it sounds to me as if you were falling for it.

Answer 10

its hard to tell what he wants. but you need to tell him you are not interested in being with a married man. if you were married you wouldnt want some skank to sleep with your husband no matter how bad things were.