Ever been married to someone that does things intentionally to get your attention or to "prove" that you love them. For instance, if your wife keeps leaving and then admits to you that she left because she wants you to come chase her to prove how much you love her. Or they'll say they want a divorce just for the same reasons. Now in line with that when you just say fine I can't put up with all this drama you give them what they supposedly want...a divorce and they get all mad and pissed off. Then you're the bad guy in the divorce! Seems like a sign of immaturity and has no place in a muture marriage. What do you all think? Know anybody like this? Doesn't it seem like all the good ones they are with they end up destroying the relationship by acting like this and play the victim but everybody knows it's them that caused the demise of the marriage or relationship but being their friend you can't say anything. Know any women like this?
2007-07-20 05:47:40 · 13 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think a lot of women do this...including myself...and i think women do it for attention...they dont feel loved as much as they did...and they want you to show them how much you truly love them...i know tho...after years of doing this to my husband and him putting up with it...i just kinda grew up and realized there are a lot more better ways to get him to show he cares then do crazy stuff like that!!!
2007-07-20 05:55:39 · answer #1 · answered by MiZz SaAk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U know it's funny that sometimes im acting like that to my bf. But Im so blessed dat i hav sum1 lyk him hu understood nd holding on. Maybe bcoz we love each other so much. U know no matter what d girl does wether it's immaturity or miscommunication he'll try to keep his patience still if he truly loves d girl. Make ur girl understand y she shouldn't be acting like that. Find to trace d reason y she's doing it. Maybe she's just wanting ur appreciation or enough attention. Try to work it out. there's no problem without a solution.
On the other hand, ask her if she still loves u the same way. Coz maybe ur love to each other were not that as healthy as before. Try to be more open and talk in a nice way. If she's not willing to change or still don't accept ur side, then, give urself both a space...
2007-07-20 06:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by xandra27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't it seem easier to be friends with women who you aren't sexually attracted to? If I wanted to be friends with a woman on a platanic level, it would be easier if I didn't find her physically attractive. I think female friends are good and to have such point of view from. If you are friends with a girl whom you were with, because you planned on having sex with or marrying, then you are setting yourself up for disappointment. If a man is friends with a girl for more than a year, and then gets mad that she would never be with him. Then there'e a good chance he wanted to date her or have a relationship with her, or had feelings for her. Because if he just wanted to bang her, I would think that he would lose interest before a year and just leave the friendship and just bang some other girl. The fact that he has stuck around for such a long time, means that for the most part that he really liked her and wanted to date her.
2016-04-01 03:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your wife loves very much. she probably wouldn't want to be with anyone else but you are aren't paying attention to her like you used to. Her threats aren't because she's crazy, it's because she's trying to tell you she's getting to the point of becoming numb and she wants you to wake up and do something before it really is over. If you do leave her for good, she'll freak out for a while because she really doesn't want it to end, but she'll be ok after a while I bet. Guys always want women to just say what we want. well, she is- prove your love because she can't feel it anymore.
2007-07-20 11:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew someone like that and we are no longer friends. It sounds like she has massive insecurity issues coupled with very immature behavior. I got tired of the drama and as it turned out, she was never really a friend - more of an unintentional user of people. And these people who act like that, well, they need help. I did finally say something to her because it bothered me, and I was very diplomatic. But, you may decide the friendship isn't worth it if they can't see how damaging their behavior is.
2007-07-20 06:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lexi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely a sign of immaturity. I don't know anyone like this however, if I did and we were good friends, I would most certainly let them know that these types of games are very hurtful and will ruin their marriage.
That's what true friends do right? Look out for each other.
2007-07-20 05:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually it's called passive-agressive personality disorder. Google it. It's sick and twisted and very difficult to conquer/manage.
I'm sorry you got caught up with someone who clearly demonstrated the disorder. It's heartbreaking, but hopefully you've learned what to look for and can move on.
2007-07-20 05:56:54 · answer #7 · answered by Courtney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't put up with silly crap like that-- The second time she left I would have said better take all your stuff because you aren't coming back...
2007-07-20 05:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the word Divorce should never be said unless the love is dead..
if you pay attention you wont have problems
2007-07-20 05:51:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT all women are like this. This is a sign of a huge insecurity issue.
2007-07-20 05:54:12 · answer #10 · answered by wild_orchid_tx36 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋