If Your Husband/Wife CHEATED ON YOU...?

Question

What would you do? Get a DIVORCE or ATTEMPT TO WORK IT OUT?

Please include your age and gender and whether or not you are married if you don't mind. Again, I'm doing some studies.

Answer 1

depends on the situation.There is no black and white when it come to cheating. Each persons situation is different and their reasons behind it are different. Divorce is not always the only answer to problems. Divorce should be the final answer. A last resort. This society makes divorce too easy. Ending a marriage should not be as easy as a breakup in high school.
25/female/married/working it out & happy. my family hates him though!

Answer 2

I will be honest. I'm married, and I've had a few complications with my husband, and his ex before we were married.
There were a few times when I thought he could be cheating on me. So I've had time to think long and hard about what I would do if it came out that yes he was cheating on me.

I would try my best to work it out, but only for the simple fact we have a son. If we didn't have a child together I would not work anything out. It would be over and that would be that.

Now if he cheated on me and we did work it out I couldn't completely say I'd be faithful to him anymore.
I'm pretty sure that my heart would wonder because of the betrayal, and that's just the type of person I am. I'm very vindictive when it comes to relationships, and I would probably end up cheating. I would never trust him again, and in the end I would probably destroy the relationship due to the heartache.

It's harsh and what's the point of even trying to work it out. I don't know. It's just me being realistic of what I would really do rather then pretend everything would be fine and dandy.

I'm 23 Female Married
My son is 5 months old

Good luck with your studies :0)

Answer 3

I am 26, male and married. If I found out she cheated I would want to know why and would file for a divorce. I think that such an act can only occur when the relationship no longer has a foundation. Basically, the relationship was already over before the cheating occured.

To work it out is only an option when children are in the situation. There is no need for someone to live with that kind of misstreatment.

Answer 4

Was married 5 years. 3 years into the marriage he had a an affair with a co-worker. He ended it, we went to marital counseling for months and focused on rebuilding and everything was going fabulously. Two years later he filed for divorce and left me with a six month old baby. He left for the same woman he had the affair with previously. He didn't admit he was back with her otherwise I would have filed first.

Everyone likes to think that if it happens to them they'd run out and file for divorce so fast it would make their partners head spin. When it's you and your spouse and it's that close to home... you don't always react the first time around the way you think you will.

Only 1 in 4 marriages where this is an affair ends in divorce. What I've learned however though is once a cheater always a cheater. I would never give someone a second chance if this were to ever happen to me again.

35 - F

Answer 5

Most of you people are nuts! Divorce is not always the answer. If you're going to leave when things get rough or because the other made one big mistake - then why did you take the vows?

Everybody deserves a second chance and usually their are root reasons to cheating unless you just married a dog. I would give my husband a chance and try to work on our marriage if he cheated. If it was a repeat thing then it would be a different story but we have a child and everybody deserves a second chance

female/married/25

Answer 6

Johnny 5000. I am a 51 year old male who is married. If my spouse was to cheat on me I know that our relationship would be ended. Same would go in reverse. I am a firm believer of keeping a relationship together regardless except for the 3 A's which are grounds for divorce. What are the 3 A's you might ask? Abuse, Addiction and Adultery. All relationships grow from turmoil and differences but some things are not capable of overcoming in my opinion. Best of luck with your studies and hope that this answer helped.

Answer 7

I would really have to reevaluate my own life and see where things went wrong on both ends. Often if both partners aren't working on the marriage on a daily basis this can happen. I would hope that we could go to counseling and figure out how to make things better in the future so this would hopefully not happen again.

If my husband cheated I would know for sure I failed in some part of the realtionship on keeping him happy at home.

I am 38 and hubby is 40 and we have been married for over 14 years.

Answer 8

I am a male 32 years old and I am married. I would try to work it out as much as I possibly could before even thinking about divorce. I feel divorce is not the answer. At least not the only one.

Answer 9

I would attempt to work it out. I've been married for 10 years and neither of us has cheated on each other. But, if he did, I would try to work things out. If he kept on and I caught him several times, I think I'd get divorced. I am 31 years old.

Answer 10

Im 34 in my second marriage, My first husband cheated I tried to forgive him and make the mariage work but there was no more trust and I left him a year later. If my husband now cheats on me I wouldn't even give him the curtesy of saying goodbye I would just get a uhaul truck and pack my things and leave.
I don't want aids, HIV,or any other STD from someone I love and trust if I am doing the right thing I don't expect to get a disease for his mistakes.