if you are unhappily married?

Question

why are you unhappy?

Answer 1

I'm unhappily married because my husband and I don't have sex or real intimacy. I believe we have a lot of love between us and we both enjoy family life and being together, but it's more like a close friendship.

He cheated on me for a very long time and we managed to work it out and stay together. I didn't want sex from him for a long time after that and now that I do, he's impotent. I am on the threshold of an affair. I have begged my husband to get help for his lack of sex drive and inability to maintain an erection. He hasn't done so and it's been 5 yrs. since we've had any decent sex.

I'd never leave him just because of the sex, but I am going to have this affair because I need it and I'm important too.

Answer 2

Yes!!! Soon to be divorced, but I have been in an unhappy marriage for a very long time.

He is lazy, unmotivated, financially irresponsible, we have NO communication...etc.... I could on forever. Oh - we haven';t had sex since February and before that it was over a year. He never comes to bed with me, although I have told him he needs to if he wants to work on rebuilding the intimacy. I completely gave up about 8 months ago, and filed for a divorce about a month ago.

I stayed so long because of my children, but I finally realized that I deserve to be happy, even if that means being alone.

Answer 3

Do you even have to ask this? Are you unhappily married?

It should just be...are you married?

By default married and unhappy are the same.

And yup...I'm unhappy because I'm married.

Answer 4

After being married for 28 years, I feel that we have grown apart. There is no real intimacy, yes there is sex, but no real closeness. He has been verbally abuse to me all of those 28 years, and now what i feel is coldness and resentment. For wasting much of my life in an unhappy marriage, for which i am guilty for staying in. For the kids, and money reasons. Really no reason to stay anymore, i just want happiness, peace and quiet.

Answer 5

Because he is unfaithful to me but I have no where else to go I can't stand my sons wife so I can't stay with them. and I do not get along with my sisters and brother, My parents are dead. I can't work because I have bad health problems. He will not allwo me to have money to go to the doctor. When I suggest saving a little money for me to go to the doctoe to see if I can get my disability he comes up with something to spend it on. I left 5 years ago was gone foe 2 weeks I stayed at one of my sisteds house in Virginia he called every night and everyday to talk to me. And we were so miserable he borrowed a bus ticket and brought me back home only for me to finsd out he was screwing my nephews wife ahile I was gone. and my sons wifes oldest sister and 2 other women. I found out he and my daughter in laws sister have been messing around for almost 2 years. That is what my sons wife told me last night anyway. I am going to confront her about it one of these day. But I have to find a time when I don't have my grandchildren with me.Because I am tired of the stories I am hearing.

Answer 6

unhappily married, there was cheating, lies and now long distance because of his deployment. in fact, very unhappy :-(

Answer 7

I was! But life really is too short to be unhappy. So I took responsibility for my own happiness.

Answer 8

My answer is no. Quite the opposite and after 25 years it is getting better every day!. Taking time to make the right choice was important to the both of us.

Answer 9

I'm lonely. She is too. I've tried numerous times to discuss with her my needs. She thinks I don't care for her anymore and am not attracted to her. After 12 years of emotional and physical neglect, I caved in and cheated with some ho who came on strong with me. I felt terrible about it and confessed(all my friends say I totally blew it by trying to be honorable about it).

Just made things go from bad to worse. She has now convinced herself that I don't love her. She has said things and acted upon that conviction so much now that it has finally filled me with resentment and come true. She now has shut me off from her emotionally and especially physically.

After 15 years of marriage we don't want each other anymore. I'm so very tired of being alone and neglected emotionally. She says the same thing.

She layed it on me for the last month and more that I have never made her happy, am a lousy father and husband, and have never tried to make any effort in our marriage.

I tried all month (which seems like three) to work it out with her, but she only continues to treat me with barely veiled disdain. I think I'm done.

Confusingly, once in a great while she seems to want me to continue trying to fix things, but when I try to she only seems to be able to hurt me. Of course she never did anything wrong and all of our problems are my fault.

Meanwhile I think I've finished most of my crying and am now really adjusting to the "reality" of my life without her. I feel like I need to get away from her before I start hating her. But we have three children and I can't just walk as they love me deeply and need me.

All I ever wanted from her was to be my woman. I never hit her, called her names or kept her from pursuing her career or seeking her interests. I was always supportive of her as I helped put her through college. To me, if she loved me, it would've been the easiest thing to do to simply treat me like "her man." Instead, she thought I wanted a subservient woman in the home and never listened to me when I repeatedly told her that I didn't want a maid, but rather a companion. She can't figure out what I want from her and now doesn't care to try anymore.

I'm so, so down and my horizons seem so far away....

Answer 10

I am married but i am not as happy as i should because we are not as close as we should. She wants everything her way or no way. I know i have spoiled her however i am not a slave. He does not treat me as she should and i when i stand up for what is right all she does is *****. I dont know any more.