I skip from category to category, and I've been spending the week in Marriage and Divorce. I have seen at least 6 or 7 comments from people that says that sex is not important or not one of the five things that make a marriage work. "JUST FREAKING SHOOT ME!!" Tell me that I'm not the only one that loves "passion"> "romance"> "love making"> and pure throw her down and take it crazy sex sometimes..lol I know love and communication and trust are "very" important....but to say that having a great sex life together is not important is like saying that if you are hungry, eating is just over-rated. Am I just having a testosterone moment here...sheeeeezz. Do you feel that a healthy relationship should always have great communication and passionate sex involved? I know that everytime you will not feel the "Earth Move" but should there be a good amount of fun and sexual play to enjoy. Or am I just being a typical "male."
2007-07-20 07:58:16 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And no....I'm not married.
2007-07-20 08:15:17 · update #1
I have to be honest, I do hear this from married people often and every time I do I just assume that they are not very happy together. I realize I'm probably not gonna make any friends on this one but that how I feel. I said it before, I believe 75% of married people are not happy and probably 60% of unhappy people don't know or won't admit that they're unhappy. No sex is not everything - you should like your partner's character enough to not need sex, but I love feeling that passion there all day long. To me that is bliss. The only time sex shouldn't matter is if you're not having it at all yet. If you've had it once and don't feel the need to have it as often as possible, then it must not have been great to begin with, and to me no passion = no connection. If sex doesn't mean that much then why is it that people make a big deal about waiting for it until you find the "right" person? This is why many married couples find themselves feeling more like roomates than couples!!!
2007-07-23 04:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does great sex help make a great marriage? Absofukkinlutly. I think when you have a great sex life it seems less important than when you don't have one. It's great and you really don't think about it that much. If you don't have a great sex life it can become an important point of focus for one or both partners. I know if my sex life wasn't great it would be a huge bone of contention for me. I think my husband is in the same boat. I'm thankful that we've been mostly compatible in this area. We've had our peaks and valleys but things always seem to equal out. You are not being a typical male. I'm a female and I totally agree with you.
2007-07-20 08:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel like you are being a typically male. Every relationship needs a good amount of communication and we also want some passionate sex as well. I just think that people are saying it's not the only thing that is important.
2007-07-20 08:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No your not just being a "male" IM A SEX SUPPORTER! :) sometimes my husband and I just can't find the time life gets busy ect. And out of no where we will just start being horrible to each other, mean, snapping, all of that. Then we both realize wow we havent had sex in a while. And once we do BAM tension gone. Even if its not earth moving. I've also seen marriages start to fail because of it. We know some people that have great comunication, understand one another but can't have sex because he works nights and she works day, the time they do get together is with their son as a family, no alone time, let me tell you the sexual tension there is horrible. I think its a must in order to keep a relationship fresh. Anyway thats what i think!
2007-07-20 08:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by Cass 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As a female I will answer this question honestly because most females WON'T. (Notice I said MOST NOT ALL) Sex is an extremely important part of a romantic relationship. Now sex is needed by both partners but for different reasons. Men need sex to perform at their peak and to feel lik they are needed and are still the MEN in their elationships. Men get extreme joy from not just getting off but from pleasuring their woman it is very primal. Women whether they admit it or not need sex to feel attractive and loved. This doesn't mean everytime you think she is beautiful jump her bones but she needs to know her man still thinks she is hott ESPECIALLY after being in a relationship for awhile! I personally think that th vast majority of marriages that end up in divorce becaue of problems in the bedroom that people are too shy to talk about. In summary I don't think sex is THE MOST important aspect of a relationship but I do feel it is an extremely important part.
2007-07-20 08:14:17 · answer #5 · answered by sexyafterdark 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me, I when I say that sex isn't everything, it means that my relationship with my husband isn't based on sex alone. There have been to many times when people lose their relationships when sex does die down.
My husband has been away for 20 months and we have 4 more months to go before he is home. If our relationship was based on sex only, we would not have made it this far. We have a great relationship, he is my best friend and we communicate about everything and laugh often.
Of course when he is home, our intimate relationship is awesome to. I cannot imagine being in an intimate relationship with someone that I didn't have a great deal of emotions for. I would love to be able to be with my husband on a sexual level, but right now I can't even hug him. But I'm not going to cheat on him because he is worth the wait.
2007-07-20 08:05:20 · answer #6 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A great sex life is very important in a relationship! Passion,romance and love making are the best. That is when you are the closest you will ever be with the person you love!
2007-07-20 08:03:51 · answer #7 · answered by Sheree 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. And I am female!
I think that all that other stuff is very important, but the way I look at is this... if he's not getting it from me, will he wish he was getting it from s/where else? Also, that's just another way to bring yourselves closer in your marriage!
I mean the whole no sex after marriage is crap... most of the marrieds I know have sex more since they got married!
And again, yes, sex is a very important part of a married relationship
2007-07-20 08:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by Lindsay G 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men and woman have different agenda's as far as sex goes. The man is generally the meat & potatoes and the woman is about table setting, silverware, napkins, glasses, and candles. Any relationship should envolve both agenda's and its a give and take thing. When the man gets satisfied he should continue with the fourplay to make sure the woman gets what she wants. It generally is common that the man gets satisfied before the woman so make allowances for this and plan on having a 20 minute session instead of a 5 minute session. Once you do that everything comes full circle in the marriage.
2007-07-20 08:09:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Of course it is important! And yes, we women do sometimes want the crazy throw down , etc, etc, etc. I suppose however that some relationships are not built solely on this and have much more ground to stand on as well. I guess this is why in certain situations there are people willing to fore go there carnal needs and stick it out sort of speak for the greater good!
Personally....... I need the earth to move :-)
2007-07-23 08:55:47 · answer #10 · answered by Sunshine's Pic Is on 360 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋