In Your Opinion... WHY IS THE DIVORCE RATE SO HIGH?

Question

Tell me what you think. And if you don't mind, would you please state your gender and age. Thanks.

P.S. - For those wondering, I'm doing some studies.

Answer 1

For starters, I'm a male and 35.

I think the divorce rate is so high (50-60% I suppose) for a couple of reasons......

1) People are not mature enough when they get married. They expect the other person to make them happy and they themsleves are needy. Its OK to need someone, but you must be a balanced person w/ healthy self-esteem to begin with. A good deal of people head into marriage thinking only of the "for better" part. What they don't realize (or lie to themselves about) is that in a lifelong relationship the "for worse" part will eventually show up.

When it does many folks are either ill equiped to deal with it, or just throw their hands up and say, "This is too hard, I don't want to have to work at this...... Its over."

2) It takes two people to make a marriage work, but really only one person to ruin it. The cards are stacked against success just from a statisical standpoint. From a purely mathematical perspective, you have a lifelong "expiriment" in wich two variables (husband and wife) must exist in a symbiotic evironment. However, if either one ops out, then the "expiriment" fails. That means there is a 2 fold likihood of failure over the long haul.

The only confounding variable in the equation that can offset this is the maturity level of the couple and how well they get to know themselves and each other PRIOR to starting the "expiriment" together.

How many people really do this before the head off to the altar ?!?!? Not many I would guess.

Answer 2

N.C. Female 47

I think that the divorce rate is so high because it is so much easier to divorce than it is to work on a marriage.Marriage is hard work, as anyone that has been married for several years can tell you.people cheat on their spouses when they are not happy with the marriage.They should try to improve the marriage instead of cheating.Alot of couples are not mature enough to know how to discuss there problems like adults.They scream and holler instead of talking about the problem.People don't know how to communicate any more.People refuse to look at the other persons point of view.People don't take their marriage vows seriously.Instead of till death us do part they say till I am no longer happy with you.People have to realize that there are going to be good times and BAD times.You just have to hope that there are more good than bad.

Answer 3

a lot of the younger generation get married too soon. they only have known them for 5 or 6 months and think they are ready for marriage. they don't wait to see if the one they are with is the right one for them,so they end up cheating on their wife/husband then end up in divorce and if they have children the children get hurt in the process. but others just can't seem to get along, for some reason the love they once had is gone. maybe they thought they were in love ,when in fact the only thing they were in love with was the sex and not the person.thats whey the divorce rate is so high.

Answer 4

female 40
we have become a throw-away society today. there are so many people in the world today that if one guy/girl doesn't do it for you then there's always someone else. by pitching out the old and getting someone new, i think that all you are doing is showing how immature and unreliable you really are.don't get me wrong, there are decent reasons for divorce, but i don't beleive that good reasons are because you are too selfish and lazy to put a little work into a marriage.

Answer 5

I believe it's for a couple of different reasons:

Number one is how inexpensive and easy a divorce is to obtain.

Number two is family values. Now days we treat relationships like shoes, they don't fit anymore, out of date, a little tattered and we just set them aside and look for a new pair. Since we've been doing this for years, our children think it’s alright to under value a relationship. We have not been taught or are teaching how to keep a marriage together; it’s hard work and we need to set the example

Female - Over 30

Answer 6

Female, 39, married 15 years.

I think many people marry without knowing themselves first and allowing themselves time to mature. Being in love is great but it doesn't cover every aspect of marriage and commitment. If two people are mature and know what they want out of life they can come together to form a union that lifts them both up to be better people. We live in a give it to me now world and marriage just isn't a give it to me now venture. It takes work, thought, patience, sacrifice and compromise. These are gifts that are learned over time and it's easy to call it quits when you're not compatible in these areas.

Answer 7

male over 30 cause no one wants to work at it 24-7 they expect happily ever after and it ain't that way. long time ago it was man worked hard and woman stayed home and catered to his every need. and took care of everything in the house and raising kids too that was her job....now days woman works hard so couples can live and have things but then she gets tired of caring for kids and caring for house and caring for husband that wants every thing done so men have had to step up and do things around the house now and all this work cause lots of fights and arguing and they get tired of working on keep the marriage alive so like i said it takes working on marriage 24-7 and they think that is just too much work. and then there is the cheating when this happens this is just the unforgivable sin in a marriage...and if it is forgiven its never forgotten and is brought up at every opportunity during an argument..so there you go.

Answer 8

I think we are so use to getting what ever we want, when ever we want it.

If our TV is broken, most people just go buy a new one and don't even bother to see how much it would cost to fix it. We live in such a fast pace world that to fix a relationship, means we have to slow down...backup...and sometimes stop. That is hard to do when everyone around you just keeps going without you. It is so much harder to fix a broken relationship, than to just end it and find a new one for most people.

Also most people don't want to admit that some of their actions is causing the breakup...and blame everything on the other person.

Answer 9

from what i have seen i think that it is so high because people are getting married for all the wrong reasons. IE. pregnancy and such. Also a lot of people get married and they really don't know the person they are marrying that well. That is just my opinion and one of the millions reasons why the divorce rate is so high.

Answer 10

I think just like the morals of people have gone down the drain, so this is one of them. They only say "I do...for the moment". It's not a "for as long as I live" or for better or worse, and in sickness in health, till death do you part.

23 single female filipino.

My folks have been married for 31 years this December 2007.