Maybe it's just here on Answers, but all I see are people asking or talking about cheating on their spouse, or describing an unhappy marriage. Obviously when people get married, they don't expect their lives to turn out like this. For those that aren't married it makes you wonder if you should get married at all. Maybe I'm just being too cynical.
2007-07-20 07:59:29 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keep in mind that most who post in this section have problems. Try not to be too cynical and don't give up. If both are willing to work on a marriage and love each other, chances are good that it will work. I'm happily married for 14 years but it's my 2nd marriage and I learned that it IS work sometimes.
2007-07-20 08:04:39 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've know my husband since 3rd grade and we've been married for going on 3 years. We are expecting our first baby, a little girl in just a few weeks and I love him more than ever. We have a wonderful relationship and sometimes when I think about how lucky I am I can't help but cry tears of happiness. We had a rough patch when we first got married but it was just typical first year stuff. I truly believe we are soulmates and I can't imagine my life without him. Several of our friends comment on what a "perfect" couple we are. Don' t get discouraged by other people's negativity. Know that there is someone special out there for you and you will find them! Both my parents are on there third marriage (and still unhappy) and I thought I too would be cursed but I know my husband and I will be together forever. Good luck and when you least expect it, love will find you!
2016-05-18 04:22:52 · answer #2 · answered by joanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am a happily married woman myself, and I don't ask questions on here. I guess if there was s/thing going on that was worrying me I would but there's not, that's probably why you are only seeing the bad or not so good stuff, b/c the happy ones are happy and don't need advice!
My parents have been married for 34 years, my husbands parents for 20 + years and they are all still crazy in love.
I have been married for almost 3 years and been with him for 13, I have never been happier.
So to answer your question in the short version... yes there are truly happy married people out there!
2007-07-20 08:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsay G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, totally. My husband and I have been happily married almost 18 years. Sure we've had our ups and downs, every couple does, but we've worked really hard to keep our marriage great and our relationship wonderful. The love has grown and deepened, and there's still lots of fun and lust!
I wish the categories of Marriage and Divorce were separated - yeah, looking at the questions on here about cheating, etc. can be a real downer...
2007-07-20 09:55:46 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am happily married, and I have been married for 21 years. I like answering questions here, and I have come to realize that it helps if you think of this like a doctor's office. Just as healthy people do not go to the doctor hardly ever, because most are seeking to be cured, so too are most people asking questions here unhappy, because the majority are trying to find answers to their troubles. Don't go to a bar seeking sober people, don't go to a tractor pull seeking intelligent conversation, and don't come to the Y!A Marriage & Divorce category looking for happy marriages. Think about context.
2007-07-20 08:10:15 · answer #5 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been happily married for 38 years. Wouldn't have lived my life any other way. By the way..... you should never expect your marriage to be 100% happy. You have to take the bad with the good and keep loving and respecting each other. Pick your spouse very carefully.
2007-07-20 08:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by Miz D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you're being too cynical.
The people who have crappy marriages make the most noise about it. Afterall, would you want to hear people gush on and on and on about how much they love their spouse? No; drama is far more interesting. People who have good marriages tend to not talk about them at length in day-to-day conversation. Therefore you will disproportionately hear more of the bad than the good.
Also, the chance of having a happy "successful" marriage improves with age and education. Clearly, judging by the language and writing skills of most of the posters involved in cheating/with cheaters, the problems skew towards a specific group of people - the immature and idiotic.
2007-07-20 08:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by Courtney 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me see if you can understand it this way. You're in an airplane. The guy at the door tells you to put on a chute and jump. Before you do that he also tells you that there is a 50% chance you'll die. He further explains that if you are in the 50% that won't die you still have a 50% chance of being hurt very badly and never having full mobility. You also have a 25% chance of being hurt pretty badly but something you'll recover from. You still going to jump?
Sure there are some happy long term marriages out there. Chances of you having one are pretty darned slim.
2007-07-20 08:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am truly happily married to the love of my life. I have been married for 13 years and we dated for 7 before that. We've been together a while... and it seems to only get better. You just have to make sure you find the right one.
2007-07-20 08:04:35 · answer #9 · answered by tan0301 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my sister and I got married, it was great. We had obviously known each other all our lives. It was just a natural progression of what was meant to be. And we are still really happy - with a baby on the way! You never know - the right person might be right in front of you. LOL
2007-07-20 08:10:46 · answer #10 · answered by trayl65 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋