My fiance asked me if he could trade with his cousin my laptop that I bought with my own money before I even met him for a Portable DVD player that goes in the car cause he wants it. Then got mad when I told him no I would not trade it.. I told him he had no right to get mad at me cause I paid for the laptop before we even met. To me he also didn't even have a right to even ask me to trade my laptop for something he wants and I have no use for... He wants it cause he wants to watch movies while driving which I don't think he needs to do cause he needs to pay attention to the road since he won't let me drive cause he does not like my driving..
2007-07-20 04:46:11 · 15 answers · asked by movu101779 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most of his life he got what he wanted and thought of no one but himself. He sometimes thinks of me but most of the time still thinks of himself.
2007-07-20 04:49:27 · update #1
OH and the car that we drive is my car.. My name, still making payments on it. He does not own a car.. So why does he think I would even WANT him to have one of those things in my car so he can wreck my car???
2007-07-20 04:55:03 · update #2
these are problems that you need to work on before you get married. We married really everything you and he has becomes both of yours and then he can make that choice. You should look at other issues of why he shouldn't be driving and watching movie. first you love him and you don't want anything to happen to him. Second, you don't want him to be in jail when he hits someone and kills them because he might miss a part of a movie or show. Third you both now need to learn to make deciosions together. What is best and what is not. Is it best to have this or that. What can we do to better our lives to whats in the monent of what we want. I hope you both can work this out and get on the same page! Good luck and wish you the best!
2007-07-20 04:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by mamato5Boys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How stupid. A laptop costs a decent amount of change, where you can buy a portable DVD player for a couple of hundred bucks!
I have to agree with you on the situation. It was stupid and very selfish...not to mention dangerous. If he has always gotten what he wanted, he'll always expect to get what he wants. Tell him to buy his own car, and own laptop to trade for the dvd player.
2007-07-20 12:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just answered to your question. he became mad because you didn't agree with his choice..
he better off paying attention what;s going on the read while he drives, than watching DVD
2007-07-20 11:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by steven25t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has nothing to do with gender.
Basically, the thing he wants to trade away is not important to him, so he considers it of low to no value.
It simply means that he has problems putting himself in other's shoes (e.g. yours).
THAT is a human condition, not a male condition.
2007-07-20 11:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by Elana 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he not work??? He is a leech. He's like this now that you're engaged, things won't get better when you're married unless you put an end to his dominant ways today.
2007-07-20 12:01:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
And you're actually marrying this guy because.....? Do you really want to live like this for the rest of your life? Honey, you can do a lot better, believe me! Please, for the sake of your unborn children, walk out the door and don't look back!
2007-07-20 11:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by Sage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you marrying a 14 year old?
2007-07-20 11:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He got mad? Very, very selfish. Tell him to grow up. Tell him to save up money to pay for it. He can get one for $100. I have kids, I know. Also tell him that he needs to save up even more money because you'll need it for his funeral if he gets in a bad car accident while watching a DVD, duh!
2007-07-20 11:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has to do with power and control. he forces you to make a decision, and when you dont make the one he wanted you to make he is pissed that he cant control you.
it's a typical escalation that leads to eventual mental/physical abuse. just be aware of it, that this is how abusive relationships normally start. they dont begin as throwing insults/fists.
2007-07-20 11:51:44 · answer #9 · answered by Raychel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
then why on God's green earth are you engaged to the man? You think you are going to make him less selfish?
2007-07-20 11:55:28 · answer #10 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋