ok since we got married(5 ys ago) my hubby would always carry some pics of his ex girlfriend...he had one in particullar that was him kissing her. it irritated me...so everytime that we would go to mexico i would ask him to take them ti his moms house and leave them there, he never took them!! i would ask nicely, to take them somewhere that wasnt our home, i would just hate it if my oldest duaghter saw them and get a lil confused. well he still woulnt take them . so one day i just got tired of it, and i thru the damn things away, do you think i did wrong? i mean i know that that happened in his past and was over with but why keep them in MY house!!!
oh and by the way, im not paranoid i just ned to know......
and no his not cheating on me.
2007-07-20 06:10:21 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why feel guily about it!? You did it - it's done and over with and no longer an issue. I wouldn't feel bad about it if I were you. The only reason I would feel bad is if he were making me feel bad about it and saying that it was wrong. Well No I don't think it was wrong of you andno matter what he says you shouldn't feel bad or guilty! Maybe you do b/c you wish now that you would have not but you are only trying to protect your daughter and your husbands relationship, say if she had found them she'd say he was messin' around on you now and things could really get out of hand it was immature for him to keep them if that women ment so much to him then why aren't they together anyway. your daughter would not understand any of this - you did the right thing!...
2007-07-20 06:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are these pics he carried in his wallet? in photo albums that people actually look at? Or in a box of old hs stuff, packed up somewhere?
Unless it was the latter, which it doesn't sound like it was, I would feel a little irritated, too. However, did you tell him the reasons you didn't want them out and around? Or did you just ask him to take them to your moms? I ask, b/c if he didn't understand how important it was to you, that may be why it didn't seem like a big thing to him. You should always tell him how you feel, and if he just plain doesn't care, then I don't know what to tell you.
My husband prolly has pics packed away somewhere, of him and other girls, but he doesn't just have them out, for all to see.
2007-07-20 06:28:17 · answer #2 · answered by Dj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
New beginning, why keep anything that was part of his past unless he wanted to go back to it one day. A relationship cant move forward if there are factors (better known as baggage) from an old relationship. If you told him how you felt time and time again and he didnt listen than I dont see anything wrong with throwing them away. True that you should respect his privacy, but he should have respected your feelings and gotten rid of them. Either way, people shouldnt allow objects (or feelings) from past relationships to interfear with a new one. Good luck and remember you cant change someones past, but you can help them have a better future and by no means should you allow them to screw up your future. :)
2007-07-20 07:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by Oli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a dumb ***!!! He should know better to burn the damn pictures in the first place if he's with you have you both have a child together. He should've got rid of them himself. WHat is that guy's problem? If he loves you that much, he should've forgotten about his past and destroy the evidence, not leave them around in YOUR home! I say you did the right thing to throw them away, That moron should get the point!
2007-07-20 06:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on where he kept them. If they were in a box or filed away, you had no business throwing them away. It's simply a part of his past. You can't expect someone to erase the past simply because you're in his life now. I have a little box of old momentos from long-ago boyfriends, hope to share them with my kids someday and laugh at how dorky young love can be.
If, however, he kept these pictures in his wallet or framed on display, that's a tad bizarre. You probably should have had a (calm) discussion letting your husband know how and why it made you so uncomfortable. If approached from a point of calm and understanding, your husband may have told you why he holds on to them.
COMMUNICATION PEOPLE! IT WORKS!
2007-07-20 06:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by Courtney 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, me and my hubby went through the same kinda thing, we both had pictures of ex's and we both agreed that me and him are together now, we don't need to look back and so we got rid of all of them, i don't know why your hubby felt the need to hold on to the picture, i mean, your the only one he should be looking at now, i don't think it's wrong, i would of thrown them away also, if he gets mad tell him you'll make sure to give him a sexy picture of you to put in his wallet because that's all he needs to be looking at ....
2007-07-20 06:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he's still carrying pictures of his ex-girlfriend kissing him, that means HE STILL HAS FEELINGS FOR HER & MISSES HER. And for you to allow him to hold on to it when you first found out was the WRONG MOVE. You should have burned them right then & there when you found out! There's this saying that "a man will treat you the way you allow him to."
If he's married to you now, then why the heck does he still need to hold on to pictures of him & his ex-girlfriend?! something is not right here & you need to do something about it. Stop letting yourself get stepped on.
2007-07-20 06:17:43 · answer #7 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you're wrong, no. I also don't know why he would do that, and I'm not going to come up with alot of crazy assumptions you'll most likely get harrassed with here, so hey, I just say a girl's gotta do, what a girl's gotta do.
2007-07-20 06:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being very insensitive to your needs if he has refused to remove them from your home. The fact that you have asked him multiple times to remove the photos and refused, continues to show that insensitivity.
While I would have removed the pictures and hidden them without destroying his property, I do not think you and in the wrong with this one.
2007-07-20 06:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lasted alot longer than I would have. Once my husband and I got engaged the ex's pictures were removed on both our parts. You can not start something new with the old hanging around.
2007-07-20 06:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋