Marriage & Divorce - 11 July 2007

Let me first say that I am no angel. I have done my share of selfish and cruel things in my marriage. But on the whole I really do try to be self-sacrificing to my wife, willing to change and available for her emotional needs whenever she calls. In the return I have received one anxiety after another. She is never satisfied with where we are (oh and there is a history of trying to improve), always anal about everything, I am always the first one to apologize or take blame in a fight before she even contemplates it. She can never just be humble about something without first stating that I am the cause. But she expects me to humble right away and to not be defensive about her behaviors. ....THERE is just so much history of ups and downs..... To me she has been so bi-polar like in our marriage with a lot on the depression side. She blames me for most of what goes on...... Can anyone relate to this?

2007-07-11 10:24:18 · 20 answers · asked by HiketheWild09 3

To leave my husband because I am not happy in the relationship anymore. We have two kids-(one is his bio kid, and oldest has been his since 1 yr. old.) and we have been together for eight years, married for 4. I love him, but am not in love with him-and it has been that way for years. I married him for the kids, and in a way felt like I settled. Recently we've had problems and we are currently on a trial seperation. During this period he has told me the things that he will change etc...and that he's realized a bunch and wants to stay together. He never doubted that he wanted to be with me, he just couldn't handle the kids, our life etc...Reality, basically. Meanwhile, I have realized how unhappy I've been and have another prospect for love which has made me come back to "life". I know I will miss aspects of the life we had, I love him as a person and want to still be close, but I also want to be "in love" again. I feel responsible for him, I'm afraid he won't be o.k without me.

2007-07-11 10:20:46 · 14 answers · asked by MamaB 2

When I went to take care of my mother, the marriage had been rocky prior but I guess this was the last straw. While I was at my Mom's I seen alot of old male friends and a few new ones and how do you know when its ok to give out ur # or pursue new and old friendships?

2007-07-11 10:18:28 · 11 answers · asked by WOW U all make me feel normal! 1

2007-07-11 10:18:19 · 21 answers · asked by latenight1010 2

I know my marriage is over.There's nothing, I'm just buying time because he's crazy.My family is poor and there's no room for me at there houses.When we married he swore to me that if I quit my job he'd always take car of me,(married or seperated)now he's saying I'll just have to starve.We have a 2 yr old child that he won't let me take and he has moved everything into his name and basically told me pack my thing and leave if I don't like it.All I litterally have is a car.The last time I tried to leave I open a baking account that he found out about and Totally chewed my head off.I have like $210 in that account.But that won't get me far.I asked the same question about 6 month ago and all the advice was good but he found out about the e-bay acct and the bank acct.He wont let me work.Just at the business he ownes and he doesn't pay me.I guess I'm just grasping at straws???Any legal advice would be great.Any Advice is great! I live in MSi.(There are no shelter's here.)
Thanks

2007-07-11 10:17:42 · 15 answers · asked by brooke s 4

Do you get up in the morning with your husband? Also do you make him breakfast? My sister and I are having a debate, please help.

2007-07-11 10:11:22 · 23 answers · asked by PharmNerd 4

this person asked this question but it doesnt show up on the forum...can you please help her

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2007-07-11 10:10:57 · 9 answers · asked by Life! 2

ok so my husband is in iraq. i love him more than anything. but everytime he calls home he tells me how unhappy in our marriage he is. he says he loves me and wants to be with me but things need to change. everytime i ask him what i can do to help the situation he says "i don't know" ok so my question is this... even though i love him and want to make this work, should i ask for a divorce to put him out of his misery? he obviously isn't happy. we've been together for 6 years and he hasn't been happy. why postpone this?

2007-07-11 10:09:48 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

i mean, need to know

2007-07-11 10:07:03 · 34 answers · asked by Clubpenguin Maker 1

We have filed for divorce. H then calls and says that he has made a terrrible mistake, he wants his family back, he has dumped the OW he left us for but he knows that I will never forgive him and he couldn't live like that so he is going through with the divorce.

Why bother telling me that when we are already proceeding with the divorce?

2007-07-11 10:02:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-11 10:00:24 · 26 answers · asked by tikkiquanna 2

iam always drinking all day & to fund my drinking i borrrow things from my friends & sell them, they dont know ive borrowed them because i dont tell them.sometimes i feel bad about it but i do buy them beer when ive got the money.can this go on or will i get caught out i dont want to loose my friends because i need to borrow stuff off em?

2007-07-11 09:58:48 · 7 answers · asked by lovebug 3

2007-07-11 09:56:57 · 7 answers · asked by theskyisthelimit02 3

Im living with someone who is graet hes been there and helped me so much expecially with my lil boy. Me and my husband have to much bad history and its impossible to work it out weve tryed alot but it just never works. I Know my ex-husband would still be willing to work it out cause even though im with someone else he claims to still love me the truth is I still miss him too but my life was just so bad with him and now I have so much better I just dont know if I should ignore the fact that i may still love him and try to be happy with my boyfriend or if I should still think there is hope for my marriage. Please help me make the right choice.

2007-07-11 09:54:03 · 16 answers · asked by starlet *red 1

After 19 years of marraige to a women that is emotional and physcally abusive I just want to call it quits. The emotional abbuse has caused me to be on and off anti-depressents. Physcally she has never really hurt me bad but does blow up and hit me but not real hard. I have remained in the marriage so that my kids would have a mom and a dad. We put on a pretty good image in front of them though they do know we fight often. Am i doomed to just suffer the rest of my life or should I finally file for divorcee once the kids head off to college in two years?

2007-07-11 09:53:50 · 17 answers · asked by QCCP 2

my husband checks out other women, but everyone is always hitting on me an saying how hot I am. If I'm so hot why does he do that?????

2007-07-11 09:53:06 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

Iam a freak and my husband is not what should i do to change that. Iam not leaving him because of it because i have never met anyone like him.

2007-07-11 09:33:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Pretty much i messed up smacked my gf she went to a shelter and took my baby with her.After a few days we started talking and she was coming over when she had a temporary restraining order and we acted normal we made up.I thought so anyway.We both agreed to skip court so the order got dropped but she went anyway...she got a restraining order for her and my baby for a yearand full custody for the whole year.Hes only 8 months he doesnt have a voice of his own on this.
I filed a motion to have the final hearing agien but they denied it..what can i do?

2007-07-11 09:32:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

when a man goes to the urinal in a public restroom.. and after he is done pissing..if he shakes it more than twice...is that considered playing with himself?

2007-07-11 09:20:25 · 37 answers · asked by Beep Beep!! 1

George was lying sleeping on the couch yet again tonight when i got in from my 14 hour shift. All i asked was for him to prepare a nice Waldorf salad for my dinner, but he couldn't even be arsed doing that. A row erupted and i accused him of having a bit of "hows yer father" with big Margaret next door. I know this isn't true, but i just blurted it out. Now he's finally shifted off the couch and gone out and i can't get in touch with him. I also said some mean things about his mother, and referred to her as Wilma, when her name is actually Bessie. This upset him and he's turned the cat against me now too. I've just thrown a load of his clothes into the dustbin and the guy upstairs from me said i'm a maniac, but i'm angry at him. He ended up rowing with me also, due to me playing Tiffany at full blast at all hours of the night. I like Tiffany though and think music is important. Things have never been the same since my father in law told me that my vacum cleaner was a fake.

2007-07-11 09:14:25 · 22 answers · asked by . 7

We're in a unique position. My husband works for his father in their family owned business. They fight constantly and most of their issues have nothing to do with work. My problem is my father-in-law's tendency to constantly criticize us. He feels that since he pays my husband he has the right to state his opinion about how we spend our money. He never says anything to my face, but he constantly makes comments to my husband. A few facts: we have no debt, everything we have is paid for, we have a nice stash of money saved, and I have a great paying job. In fact, I make more than my husband. My FIL had it rough growing up and was a single father, but rather being happy for our success, he constantly criticizes us. He tells my husband he doesn't deserve me, my education, our home, our car, our vacations, and the life we have built for ourselves. I don't get in the middle of their work fights, but I'm at the point where I can barely hold my toungue anymore. Any suggestions?

2007-07-11 09:14:02 · 8 answers · asked by Allison 3

What would you think if your husband unexpectedly took you for a ride in a hot air balloon?

2007-07-11 09:05:32 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-11 09:03:05 · 8 answers · asked by ManhattanGirl 5

Is it too much to ask for in a girl to be a virgin?

And, if your a muslim or even christian would it be wrong to marry a girl who had sex with another before entering into another another marriage?

And, what do you think of women having their hymen's restored to trick guys their vagina hadn't been taken by another?

2007-07-11 08:55:31 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-11 08:48:26 · 14 answers · asked by Concerned Mom 1

Im finally getting to the point of realizing that the name calling and outbursts and accusing me of things I have not done are all wrong and are not going to get better, so....Im finally getting ready to leave. My question is why do I attract guys that are drug addicted ( which I find out later and I have never used) or demeaning and want to control me. They come on like bangbuster with the romance and reel me in like Im such a sucker for it. I have been told Im attractive and have a decent job and raised my daughter by myself. I do have good qualities so Im not a loser. Im just confused and feel totally dumb. Am I that insecure Im just blind to it? Please don't anwser me with insults, I just can't take it today. I just need help to know why. Yes by the way Im going to go to some kind of a therapist. I know I can use it.

2007-07-11 08:47:09 · 23 answers · asked by shawnie 3

I have cheated on my husband with another man. My husband is unaware of the infidelity, but he does know that I am unhappy in the marriage. My husband is a very nice person whom I have known for over eight years, and he does not deserve what I have done to him. I want to leave him, but it is so hard when I see how sad he is when I mention it. I haven't been happy for the last few years, because there is little between us besides a friendship. Since I betrayed his trust, I do not feel the friendship will be enough to sustain the crumbling marriage. He does not know about the cheating, and I do not want to hurt him by telling him the truth. I love him dearly, but I am no longer in love with him. I know I should have opened up to him instead of cheating, but its too late to change that. Any advice on what my next move should be?

2007-07-11 08:46:36 · 19 answers · asked by Sandy 1

my wife says if i carry on drinking all day with my mates & sleeping with prostitutes shes going to leave me, ive been married ten years and this has not bothered her in the past, ive told her shes being a bit unreasonable about this but she says shes had enough, i need my freedom and enjoiy what i do so why should i stop?

2007-07-11 08:45:20 · 34 answers · asked by lovebug 3

My boyfriend and I are planning a trip to Vegas. What would happen if we got married before my divorce was final?

2007-07-11 08:44:26 · 15 answers · asked by summergrl8855 1

2007-07-11 08:35:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous