2007-07-11 10:18:19 · 21 answers · asked by latenight1010 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dear Latenight,
You've heard the old saying, "time heals all wounds." In the arena of love, this is especially true. It takes a while for us to learn that what our ex failed to see in us, was usually because of their own failure, not because we are unlovable. Everyone has their own reasons for attraction to the opposite sex. Sometimes, the reasons one is attracted become secondary to the personality they have to deal with. Some personalities are warped (sad but true). There is no dealing with a warped personality. Therefore, love goes. After time, truths begin to open up like flowers and you see what happened from a distance and are able (hopefully) to learn from your mistakes and get on with life and love.
Good luck to you, Late. I hope you heal quickly and find another who is able to make you feel confident in yourself and in her again. :)
2007-07-11 10:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by Peanut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to clear your mind of the negative thoughts about your past relationship. Don't dwell on how hurt you got. Turn all those feeling around to positive ones. Start analyzing your past experience and make note of what you learned. How you are going to do things different next time. Once you have overcome this grief and anger into a more positive and learning experience. You can continue to meeting new people but look out and be more cautious on the people you giving trust and love. Also remember that all the people you meet from now on are not at fault for what your ex partner did. So that is very important and don't compare too that is definitely not good.
Good luck
2007-07-11 10:25:04 · answer #2 · answered by sweetsarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a lot of commitment on your part to try to forget the past and learn to trust/love again. Its hard but you have to make a conscious decision that you have to forget the past. If you can do that and learn to forgive and let it go then you can love and trust that person again. But that person has to make an effort to not repeat the mistake again. If both are willing to let go and learn from the experience then you can be happy.
2007-07-11 10:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by 2legit2quit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to heal ur heart so u can trust and love again . U just need to keep urself busy be with friends go out meet people in time u will learn to trust and love again
2007-07-11 10:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ive experience that b4 and it was hard 4 me to get back on my feet or even to love my friends or family because i waz just terribly hurt but ive learned that not only a guy but even a friend that u put all your trust can walk out on u so best thing i learned of that was to never put all my trust in a person and realize that person can walk away from u one day ,,,so u can go to therapist/counseling if this doesnt help because that one will
2007-07-11 10:25:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that is how my exhusband saw my departure...but there was a lot going on under the surface that he didnt even care to find out about me. After the initial shock wore off of what I did to his heart (about a year later) I would find myself crying for no reason. And that is not to say I made the wrong decision....just showing that there is always something more going on in someone's heart. Time heals all wounds.
2007-07-11 10:23:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It usually takes two to tango. You are only seing your side of the story. If someone walks out on you, theres usually an underlying reason. Try to look for a possible reason, and see it as a learning curve for the next relationship you enter into.
2007-07-11 10:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi..( saw you were from dallas, so was I)
first do not compare a future or potential partner to youre ex partner. Trust is earned. Love happens.
It takes time to mend and start building relationships again.
Don't get anxious... it just sttart as friends with someone and all things will fall in place
2007-07-11 10:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by cristelle R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is different for each of us. For me it took looking at things realistically. I had to figure out what I did right and wrong. I had to decide what I was looking for the next time.
I still have issues but at least I am trying. I think that is all anyone can ask
Good Luck
2007-07-11 10:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by Donna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years 2 months 3 days going and 1 step at a time and I am still trying.
2007-07-11 10:24:03 · answer #10 · answered by Greg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋