Marriage & Divorce - 11 July 2007

I'll give you all a brief... For sometime now this brother and I have
been talking in regards to marriage- we both agree that we want to
marry each other... MashAllah...

He's from Egypt but lived most of his Adult hood here in the US. So
you can say he's a mixed of middle eastern/ american culture. How
american is he? He's a contract soldier in the US army stationed in
Iraq.


Anywho- When we talk by email he comes across very arrogant (example:
Last night we where discussing us and the next step. He said that I
should come first in you life at all times and that he should be
respected all around."

Granted that's the rules in Islam... Your husband is first because now
he's your Imam.

I was like and in the same manner I would like to be respected at all
times too... He went on "Why do you do that? it's always a 1 to 1 with
you." then he went on to say that I have a strong peronality and I am
unpredictable.

Which is true... aka I am a wrong

2007-07-11 03:23:36 · 8 answers · asked by Rabia a 2

my wife left a few months ago. she was abusive. I mean just really abusive when she got angry. it's like she couldn't control her rage once she got angry. every foul thing came out of her mouth, she hit me, threw things at me, yelled terrible things to her kid. After awhile I started yelling back because i just couldn't deal with just turning the other cheek. Now that she's gone, she's telling everyone i was abusive, thinks all her previous fiances (she's had multple) and me her husband, we were all abusive when i've never seen a woman get so angry and abusive. I just want to rip her a new one and shake her and tell her, it's you! You are messed up! How can i just let this go? I feel like my character has been attacked when abusive behavior runs in her family! I've seen it with her mother! I'm not the one who is vindictive like shutting off the water to my house without telling me or cutting my head off in photos and pasting them to my car when i'm out! hello who's nuts here?

2007-07-11 03:17:08 · 17 answers · asked by survivor 1

Our situation is in Family courts for guardianship, access, and custody. Recently we had a trial date adjourned with no resolution and court orders that he has not followed. We are denied further court action until September which is when the trial was rescheduled for. He has used his time with my daughter and disappeared, not answering phonecalls, text, e-mails. What can I do? There is no police clause in our order.

2007-07-11 03:15:28 · 18 answers · asked by Justwishin 2

I am recently divorced and I try to spend as much time as possible with my two young daughters. I have recently met some women that I could have grown to love, but they both resented splitting time with my children. Do any ladies appreciate this rather than resent it?

2007-07-11 03:12:03 · 32 answers · asked by cityboundguy 1

My son and I have most always been estranged his entire adult life. Two years ago we supposadly reconciled and I have had a wonder ful two years with my 5 grandchildren. Recently we had a misunderstanding and he informed me he was pressured into having a relationship with me in the first place by his grandmother, sister and wife but now he just wants nothing else to do with me. I really love my grandchildren ranging in age 7 months to eight years old. The two oldest children he adopted but I love them like my own. My husband and I are on a fixed income so there is really no money for an attorney but I will do what I have to do if there are no other resources.

2007-07-11 03:10:50 · 5 answers · asked by Mamaw 2

hi everyone, i'll try to be brief. I'm going through a separation right now and my children and I are living in a 3bdrm apartment in an awful neighborhood paying $1550 a month. Now that I'll only have my income (55K) that's too much rent and so I wanted to rent a 2 bedroom in a better neighborhood. My dilemma is that I am in the process of fixing my credit to eventually get my kids the home they deserve, I am not even close to the 3% down payment I'll need, it may take 2 years at least. My question is, should I just stay in the 3 bedroom apt. (we saw 4 waterbugs this morning...yuck!) and save the $2000 I have started to save for the downpayment so it can accumulate OR use that $2000 to move to a better area in a downsized 2 bedroom and start all over again saving. Sorry if this sounds silly, I'm just confused and at a breakdown point. Thanks for you advice, I want to do whats best for my kids and buy them a home.

2007-07-11 02:54:47 · 9 answers · asked by Hope 4

I've been with my husband for a total of 10 years, married for 5. Throughout the time we've been married he's has up and left MANY times. Sometimes it would last a week, sometimes a month or more. We've currently been separated for 16 months, he just left one day and has since been living with his different friends. We've been pretty civil to one another for the most part. I was hoping that perhaps things would work out, but I got tired of waiting. I told him that I wanted a divorce and things are really nasty really fast. He's saying that he "wants what he deserves soley because we're married". Shortly before we separated I took out a mortgage on the house I live in with my parents. I took out a loan for 1/2 of the house because it was willed to my mother and my aunt, and I bought out my aunt in hopes of buying out my mom in the near future (he's not on the title, or mortgage or anything). He thinks he's entitled to part of the house "no matter how little he's paid towards it, and it's his word against mine". He actually hasn't paid anything towards it because he really barely works (when he does it's under the table), and since he's been gone I've asked him to pay nothing. He is also driving around in a truck with my name on it (he does manage to pay that at least). He also owes me around $4000 for misc. things he needed money for of course shortly before he left. I'm tired of all of this.... and I really can't afford a lawyer right now. Am I going to screwed even further?

2007-07-11 02:51:24 · 8 answers · asked by honeybaby729 3

Why in this "he's no good for you", "I don't need a man" world must men be more compromising and in some cases submissive in a relationship? How can you be independent in a relationship?

2007-07-11 02:38:28 · 12 answers · asked by DeanPonders 3

I just want some advice on marriage..... I am going to be getting married in September and I just wanted to hear any advice anybody can give me.... about anything... (we r not planning on kids anytime soon however)

2007-07-11 02:32:23 · 28 answers · asked by *~HOOTERZ~* 2

2007-07-11 02:21:38 · 15 answers · asked by audrajean05 2

My x husband owes me $9000 in child support, $4500 from our divorce. If he went to jail and then got out, do you think the guy would be a little pissed off and come after me?

2007-07-11 01:57:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been married for 6 yrs and dont love my husband no more. I'm in love with someone else. But the only I dont leave my husband is because we have 2 beautyful kids together. Please ppl I need please tell me what I should do.

2007-07-11 01:56:48 · 36 answers · asked by mbuden07 1

My husband saw that I was flirting with this guy on the internet. I was just messing around. Really didn't meant anything by it, I even talked about my hubby and kids in the middle of flirting. The hubby has been really mad about it and has even stopped telling me he loves me. We have been married for 12 years and I told him I didn't think he would care he told me he didn't think he could trust me anymore. Then he went off the deep end. He left! We have 3 kids! Well, he's back home now and says he thinks he's just stressed out and he doesn't think he's mad at me, but he still won't kiss me or tell me he loves me. He's going to see a psychiatrist today. What should I do? How can I fix this? I didn't think my harmless flirting would do this much damage. Or maybe there was stuff going on before all this and when the flirting came out it set him off. What do you think? How can I fix this!

2007-07-11 01:42:37 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

me and my bf have been 3 years together,we loved each other but i always gave him problems from my jealousy and i use 2 go out with guys and go clubbing and never cared about his feelings ...now after all that he decided to leave me but i ask him 2 forgive me but he didnt ..i know i was wrong when i treated him like this but deeply i love him and cant leave him ,i dont know what to do i promised him that i will do whatever he wants but he doesnt want me anymore ...i dont know how 2 show him that i want him back so plz help me ..thank u

2007-07-11 01:35:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Are there any advantages or not ? And is it impact on our socity?

2007-07-11 01:22:36 · 29 answers · asked by alkhader_1882 1