I'm married and in love with someone else. What can I do?

Question

I've been married for 6 yrs and dont love my husband no more. I'm in love with someone else. But the only I dont leave my husband is because we have 2 beautyful kids together. Please ppl I need please tell me what I should do.

Answer 1

For starters, you should feel very ashamed of yourself. Who was watching your two beautiful children while you were out finding your "true love"? If you would have been putting more attention to your family, there would not have been time to have this problem. Well, that is all meaningless since this has already happened. The best thing that you could do now is come clean to your husband. When he drops you, don't be surprised.

Answer 2

Wow, hectic situation you find yourself in...

Personally I am 100% against divorce, but you get the situation where people married for the wrong reasons in the first place.

I am in two minds about what to answer you, since i've got no idea what the real situation is.

I think you should weigh it up against a few things (weigh your heart), firstly, why do you feel you dont love your husband anymore - is it something stupid that can actually be fixed (or does it go deeper)?

Secondly why do you love the second person more, for which reasons (superficial perhaps, or does it go deeper)?

Cause at the end of the day, you can find yourself jumping from relationship to relationship.

Answer 3

Wow, I can relate so well. I was married for 5 years and found myself having feelings for another man. I was afraid to leave my husband not because I thought he would hurt me but because I was afraid I would hurt him. Finally I realized that I was hurting him more by staying. I was pulling away from hi. We had no communication or any sort of relationship. I didn't want to be around him because I felt so guilty and bad. I can tell you that I don't feel that staying with him for the sake of the children is the correct thing to do either. Eventually the children will start to sense the stress. I will say this, ultimately you need to take care of your kids first and worry about them and making them happy.

Answer 4

Are you so sure your new love is going to give you everything you want and need? If you marry your new love , will he turn into another you do not love? You may be in a fantasy world right now--I've talked to others who have had affairs---they (affairs) do not last when they end up with each other.

You need to save your marriage to your husband--get everything in open and see if he wants your marriage. If not, both of you move on and you may be sorry later. My husband had an affair with someone in a life before me--he left his long time wife and married the affair--it lasted less then one year, they (affair) had nothing in common.

Answer 5

If you love your children, you'll want to provide a stable environment for them. If you stay in a marriage with a man you don't love anymore, you're only going to grow more and more resentful as time goes by.

As for the new person you are now in love with, does he know how you feel? And does he feel the same way back? These are two questions that should be answered before you pursue anything further with him.

Right now, just take it one step at a time, and deal with the marriage you're in for the time being. Once that is resolved, you will then be ready to get involved with someone new. Remember your kids are going to need to adjust to everything along with you. Be sensitive to their needs as well.

Answer 6

You need to ask yourself weather you are willing to sacrifice your happiness for the next 10-20 years living a lie, and need to be fair to yourself and husband. I realise that your kids are involved and it's hard but life is limited, why live it unhappy.

It will be tuff for 6 months to1 year but isn't it better than being unhappy for 20 years and I certainly think that the kids would want whats best for you, as long as Dad and Mum (although may not be together) are there for them during the emotional ride called life. Good luck

Answer 7

God I cannot believe this!How did this happen?My father was in love with another woman and mom knew that but they didn't get a divorce because of me and my brother!I hate that woman so much and it took me years to forgive my father so I am telling you not to leave your husband,if u do it would be the worst day of your life and your children's life because it will cause them so much pain and watching your children not happy you will be unhappy too!Family comes first!Just trust me,I am 20 and still feel kinda mad at my father.But I don't hate him for 1 and only reason,and the reason is that he decided to stay with us and realized we are more important to him!

Answer 8

Another stupid reason to ruin her children's lives. I'm sure you were married, because you got pregnant, because you were never in love. Disagree all you want. You can't easily fall out of love with your husband and fall in love with some other guy. It didn't happen naturally, you made it happen.

So because you're probably cheating on him now, my suggestion to you is just get a divorce. It's going to happen eventually so just get it over with.

Bad wife, bad mother. Good Job.

Answer 9

Be honest with your husband. Tell him you are in love with someone else, but you don't want to leave him because of the children. Ask him what you should do.

Answer 10

as to my opinoin thats ok. bt if u r in luv with someone else it means that u guys have not had a good communication between you.bt think 4 a moment if ur husband does dis , i mean if he is in luv with another girl, what would u do. you will be first to ask for a devorce case. we are human. we get many feelings. bt we hav to control them. Think wisely you have got 2 children. think about da promise you made when you were going to marry him. i appeal from u (as a male) please dont leave ur husband and da 2 childrens.