To all married couples.....?

Question

I just want some advice on marriage..... I am going to be getting married in September and I just wanted to hear any advice anybody can give me.... about anything... (we r not planning on kids anytime soon however)

Answer 1

remember that marriage is a lifetime commitment, that takes hard work, dedication, honesty, commitment, & communication. you should both research the true meaning of "Marriage".

Answer 2

* Respect each other ALWAYS. Words are like driven nails... Once they are spoken, you cannot take them back... Like a driven nail, no matter if you pull the nail out, a hole will always remain. Be careful what you say out loud - Words can be forgive, but never forgotten.

* Be faithful always. If you feel the need or desire, then talk to your spouse. If you must, get out of the relationship before you ruin it with adultery.

* Be honesty/trustworthy. Of all the people in the world you should be able to talk about ANYTHING it should be your spouse. You should be able to go to them w/ any problem or concern w/out hesitation. Be honest always & be trustworthy. You & your spouses problems are YOUR OWN. Don’t get everyone in the family involved. Try to keep your problems to yourself – It could spare you more problems in the long run.

* Communicate. If you can’t communicate you might as well be married to yourself. Try to understand where your spouse is coming from & always make your thoughts clear.

I recently got married & I am having a hard time with it now. We have both become 2 different people in such a short time. My advise to you is to make sure he is 100% the ‘one’. Don’t marry b/c everyone else around you is, or you feel like your life is passing you by. Do it b/c you love this person more than anything. Let your life be YOUR LIFE. When you get family members (from either sides) involved it tends to get crazy. Keep your personal life & financial life between each other.

Good luck & congrats!!!

Answer 3

If you are under 23, do not do it. People are right about getting married too young. There will be a point when you will wonder what you missed out on. You are too young to handle the pressures that marriage puts on you. You are still growing into an adult. If you are under 20 - no way should you do it! You think you know it all, and think you are ready. But you are not. People change too much from their late teens to mid 20's. Wait.

Answer 4

Keep communication open that is one mistake alot of couples make. Every couple fights once in awhile it is how you resolve it that will make you stronger. Depending on how long you two have been together, things get more open after marriage. I have been with my husband for 8 years, married for 2 and once you get married all their manners go out the window.

Answer 5

Love, respect, trust, loyalty, sacrifice and communication. Treat your spouse like that and you will have a great marriage. You have to do whatever it takes to make him/her happy. Never be selfish.

Always look good. Always jump up from whatever you're doing when he/she comes thru the door, etc. Kiss, hug and tell them you love him. Cook great dinners for each other. Really important, always compliment each other. Saying things like; you're so excellent, I married the best person possible, you look gorgeous, you're turning me on, nobody can beat you, etc. You know what they would love to hear. Never ever put each other down.

You will certainly disagree and argue, that's normal, but never say things you will regret, or never stop talking for days and never try to get even and fix their butt. That will only make something that could be easily solved, become a major problem.

He/she will treat you the way you treat them. Earn the respect and make them so happy that they married you. You will have the best life for the rest of your life. Good Luck

Answer 6

Very important for both of you to: love, trust, laugh, compromise, and respect each others feelings, space & opinions. Be honest, open and loyal. When you get into an argument, do not dwell on things or bring up the past, both should always be willing to back off, make up and apologize. Notice that these require the BOTH of you to make your marriage work. You being only 19 should not keep you from making your marriage a success, as long as you and your future husband are in it to make it work.

Answer 7

When your fiance sees you and thinks about you, he accepts the fact that you are his equal. All decisions of any importance are made jointly and never unilaterally. Ultimate authority does not rest with the husband...you're a team, so the team makes the decisions. Your feelings come first with reagards to anything your husband may consider doing as his will come first with anything you are considering doing.

He should never give you any reason for doubt or suspicion and the same goes for you. Unconditional trust in each other is the only path to a happy and content marriage.

Always speak your mind and never back down. Never allow yourself to feel insecure, less important or intimidated.

Catch my drift? Love your husband but establish rules of conduct.

Answer 8

If I was going to do it "all over again" before the marriage I would work out with my spouse how we were going to work on conflicts and compromise.

Both how to make sure both partners feel like they have had a chance to give their input and feel heard, as well as fairly and (hopefully calmly) find a compromise that both parties feel is fair and they can live with.

Also set it clearly early on what is considered head games and playing unfair and both agree on unacceptable behaviour in an arguement. For example - past mistakes should never count after they have been RESOLVED and are over 7 days old!

Also, set aside "firm" times to go out with each other and do things you both like as well as times when you do things your partner likes and be there happily for them.

I think if the "wheels" of working together and being committed to each other start spinning early it will make the transition a lot smoother.

Answer 9

Congratulations all the best!

But I'm not the best person to ask, I'm afraid i got divorced, but don't let that put you off, we are still the best of friends.
But love sometimes fades. But that doesn't mean its going to fade for you. And if this is the guy then go for it..
But may i just make a suggestion?
I would always suggest that you try to experience a few guys before you commit to one guy and that's not being tarty, that's just giving you the experience to help make good decisions.

May you guys have along happy & fruitful life together...:-))

Answer 10

Hi! We will be married for a year in September. I will let you know what others have told me when I asked this same question a tad over a year ago. This is what others have said..."don't go to bed angry"...was the main response...and this is what I say..."communicate!". Don't go to others first about a problem w/ your husband. Go to your husband first! Also, be faithful in every way. Good Luck and may you spend the rest of your lives together =).

Answer 11

DONT SWEAT THE SMALL THINGS!

All of the little things about him that drive you nuts, just deal with them and try not to make fights over them. It'll just make marriage life worse and harder to deal with.
Being married is just like being in a long-term relationship!! Just take it day my day dont sweat the small things and live it to the fullest! You will have someone that loves you more then anything in the world, be sure to love him back and just have fun!! Congratulations!!!! :D