my wife left a few months ago. she was abusive. I mean just really abusive when she got angry. it's like she couldn't control her rage once she got angry. every foul thing came out of her mouth, she hit me, threw things at me, yelled terrible things to her kid. After awhile I started yelling back because i just couldn't deal with just turning the other cheek. Now that she's gone, she's telling everyone i was abusive, thinks all her previous fiances (she's had multple) and me her husband, we were all abusive when i've never seen a woman get so angry and abusive. I just want to rip her a new one and shake her and tell her, it's you! You are messed up! How can i just let this go? I feel like my character has been attacked when abusive behavior runs in her family! I've seen it with her mother! I'm not the one who is vindictive like shutting off the water to my house without telling me or cutting my head off in photos and pasting them to my car when i'm out! hello who's nuts here?
2007-07-11 03:17:08 · 17 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's the "Nutty FruitCake", you should leave her alone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-11 05:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by Shunsui Kyouraku is 100% MINE!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman and was in the same situation, although I wasn't married, just in a long 16 year relationship. He was/is the same way and tells everyone I was the abusive one, both physically and emotionally. The people who know you and her, will know the truth and know you are not like that. The only thing you can really do, is let it go. It really isn't worth the trouble. She sounds like a VERY mean woman!
2007-07-11 10:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by T T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry she abused you, but you are better off without her, obviously. Right now she is in denial about her behavior and really needs help. It sounds like the abuse is continuing by her slandering you and trying to make everyone believe you are the the guilty one. You need to be the bigger person and try to keep in mind that she is really screwed up, and has been for too long. Everyone who knows you knows that you are the victim here. Good luck!
2007-07-11 10:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by raininonsunday 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds a little off .What did you do for her to change or do you make it a habit to marry crazy woman?.... You surely must see you have a problem . You say here you want to RIP her a new one ...What is that ? If you didn;t have a problem you would not be in confrontation... You r abusive in the way you speak of your wife .Where is your respect and compassionate love .Seems to me if you loved your wife you would treat this as a sickness as you say it is in her family.... I believe you both need some kind of help . You especially for being married when you clearly do not care what happens to your wife.... This is so sad both of you r being denied a happy life ...GOOD LUCK.
2007-07-11 10:33:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what you just stated it is probably obvious to everyone around you that she is the abuser .There is no question that she is abusing many people that she comes in contact with.Look at it this way the people that are important to you will know that she has this problem and the rest of the people can believe what they want .
2007-07-11 11:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by Julius C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi....
it's difficult to deal with people who lie and who are abusive, and i'm sure it has left quite a bad taste in your mouth.
you are going to need time to heal and recover from the experience.
your wife sounds as if she has some anger management issues, depression or even a mental illness, such as bipolar disorder. and she needs to get some help. otherwise she wil continue repeating behaviors and her life will be out of control. it's not your problem, however... SHE has to take action and get help.
you don't need someone like this in your life.
as for your character, don't let other people determine your character and the way you feel about yourself. you don't have to be confused about who the "nut" is in this case.
take care of YOU...
2007-07-11 10:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know a few characters like her. Other people know people like her and see her coming a mile away. They are likely to see through her and know she is full of hate and bitterness. Your reputation is probably not really getting hurt that badly. They know she is off her rocker. Give it some time and she will soon be on to bashing the next man. It is pointless to make her try to see her faults. She is a fruitcake. With the rationality of a fruitcake.
2007-07-11 10:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by I39 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone that knows her well will know that you put up with alot of BS from her...she's not fooling everyone.
She's being very childish and wanting to get a reaction out of you because she loves the chaos and making you angry.
Stop worrying about what she is saying or doing...ignore her and move on with your life. If you keep ignoring her, laugh at her tactics...she will eventually get tired of trying to upset you.
It takes two tango....don't tango.
2007-07-11 11:57:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be the bigger person.If you've seen this type of behavior with her mother and she trashes all of her ex's, believe me, she doesn't have much credibility.
Try not to worry about your character. If the people she's bad-mouthing you to, believe her, they don't know her very well.
Learn from this lesson. Be picky and choosey in your next relationship and don't settle.
2007-07-11 10:23:20 · answer #9 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People probably already know she's crazy. Anyone who knows you won't doubt your character, so don't worry about it. She'll get what's coming to her, life always has a way of working out and 'righting' the wrongs.
2007-07-11 10:34:03 · answer #10 · answered by Neica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is, but don't let her make you nuts too...that's what she wants. Believe me, everyone in her life knows she's nuts, even if they don't tell her so. I knew a woman like that, and behind her back, everyone talked about how psycho she was.
2007-07-11 10:21:39 · answer #11 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋