My gf and baby have a yr restraining order on me how can i try to get the order off my baby?

Question

Pretty much i messed up smacked my gf she went to a shelter and took my baby with her.After a few days we started talking and she was coming over when she had a temporary restraining order and we acted normal we made up.I thought so anyway.We both agreed to skip court so the order got dropped but she went anyway...she got a restraining order for her and my baby for a yearand full custody for the whole year.Hes only 8 months he doesnt have a voice of his own on this.
I filed a motion to have the final hearing agien but they denied it..what can i do?

Answer 1

Leave them alone, if you hit her you deserve everything you get.

Answer 2

You will have to wait the year out most likely. Since you did not show up to present your side they did not feel they needed to hold the hearing again. I would make sure you stay out of trouble during the year. It might be a good idea to talk to your local police department and/or department of human services also. Taking an anger management course would probably be a benefit also. I am not excusing you, you should never hit your partner male or female for any reason, especially if there is a child in the area. But it is in the past and this is my best idea on how to work towards seeing your son again. It may be that they will help you obtain supervised visits that are monitored by human services for awhile.

Answer 3

I'm not bashing you in any way, but I have a restraining order on my sons father as well, except its permanent. They reason they probably denied you, is because its a domestic violence restraining order. The state probably feel like the child's life may be in danger as well as the mother. What they may do however, is allow you supervised visits with the child with a third party present, or allow a responsible third party to transport the child to you from the mother and you have very limited visitation. Or, worst case senario, depending on the severity of the case, they may not allow you visitation at all until the year is up to make sure you have completed any counseling or anger management classes you may have. I don't doubt that you love your child but violence is not the way to handle things. I'm sure you don't want your son going through this and growing up this way. Please seek help so you wont have to go through this anymore. Good luck.

Answer 4

I'm really sorry man there isn't much you can do.

Brings me to an interesting topic. If she smacked you would the baby be kept from her? No.

It's the whole feminist idea that women need to be super protected.

Ask any woman on Yahoo! Answers. Women here, do you need more protection than men? Do you think you are weaker and therefore not liable to the same charges, punishments, vindication and persecution?

You shouldnt have smacked her, but they think you might smack the baby. It is an unpersonalized processs. Factors arent taken in. Man smacks wife=Man threat=No kids.

Women smacks man=Man considered *weak*= No punishment.

Answer 5

that's in simple terms too humorous! I asked a question the former day approximately my daughters tantrums and the thank you to deal because of the fact shockingly at 8 months she bit me! i replaced into so taken aback. She in simple terms did no longer want her diaper replaced- it replaced into playtime she desperate and that replaced into all that replaced into to it. She has 2 tooth and left marks, it truly injury. I firmly instructed her no no longer useful yet nevertheless it replaced right into a marvel. She does the scratching and pulling too whilst battling sleep or sometime she would not want to do. She is such an angel and then this happens-lol it is so troublesome. I so understand and for me humor has been a alleviation because of the fact if i did no longer attempt to discover the humor i do no longer know what else to do! good good fortune with the restraining order.. i ask your self is that what i want too? LOL- thank you for the chortle and making me experience a splash greater standard!

Answer 6

take some anger management classes, get some counciling to help with unresolved issues, then you can get a lawyer and prove that you are trying to be a better person. I do not believe that two people who love and care for each other have any right to beat up on the other for any reason. She did the right thing by leaving you. So many men, women and children suffer for years at the hands of their abuser telling them selves that the person will change or that they somehow brought this upon themselves and then they end up dead or dead inside. Prove you are sorry and are making an effort to change. If she takes you back that would be a miracle and don't screw it up but if she only allows you to visit your child take what you can get and be happy with it.

Answer 7

Prove the restraining order is unnecessary and that you are not a threat to her or your child. Good luck with that. I agree with the court ruling, you don't deserve to see either of them.

I also find it curious that you say "my baby" and not "our baby". This means that either your girlfriend is not the mother or you have even more serious control issues than the story indicates. Either way, I would not trust this child in your care, and any legal decisions must be made in his best interest.


John Kuntz: I would argue the exact same position were the genders and roles reversed.

Answer 8

"Pretty much messed up and smacked her".

Ha! What an understatement. So...you're the type who has no self control let alone you feel more masculine when you strike a woman?
They denied the hearing because they know you're a loser. So...you can't do a damn thing. Try going out and picking a fight with a male. See if that sharpens your "smacking" skills any.

Answer 9

Obviously the protection order is there for good reason.

Answer 10

Learn to not be such a d*ck with the next woman. This one is done with you.