For wives who are home during the day....?

Question

Do you get up in the morning with your husband? Also do you make him breakfast? My sister and I are having a debate, please help.

Answer 1

No and no. However, I am only home on medical leave and will be going back to work next month. I might not count in this debate.

Answer 2

During the school year, we get up about the same time. During the summer, I get up a little later (around 7), but my husband is an early riser, so he doesn't really expect anyone to be up at the same time as him (he gets up early and goes to the gym). I don't usually make him breakfast, but if I'm making something that can be doubled (oatmeal, eggs) I'll offer to make some for him too. He makes the coffee, because he's the first one up. I sometimes make him a lunch to take to work, if he asks. I think what you're getting at is should a wife get up with her husband, or stay in bed until after he leaves for work. I vote for get up. Don't you want to spend a few minutes with him? Being awake can also lead to other things, which is a bonus, but maybe you (or your sister)would rather avoid that.

Answer 3

My husband gets up at 3am to go to work, I get up make the coffee and a fresh lunch for him to take with him. I think it depends on how much he loves you and how much you love him. Some think it old fashion, but I marrieds a man 13 younger than I and we have been together for 13yrs. Our love life and everything else in our relationship is as if we just met last week. Treat the ones you love the way you want to be treated. Some love and need this attentions, others don't. I became very ill and almost lost my life 4yrs ago, and let me tell you, my husband did everything for me. Of course I would do the same for him. Thank God all is well now, and thank God I am able to get up and enjoy his company every morning. What if something happened and he never made it home again? Life is not to be taken for granted, enjoy the one your with. Love them and show them that love to the fullest. Hope this helps

Answer 4

My husband and I are on opposite schedules. So no, I don't think you should get up purely for your husband's sake. Just carve out time to spend together, no matter when you guys get up. I don't make him breakfast either. He rarely eats in the morning. But even if he did, then he'd have to do the dishes. A marriage is give and take. Whatever you and your sister believe in, just make sure you're not the only ones giving. You'll end up resentful and in a lopsided marriage.

Answer 5

My husband doesn't do breakfast, so no. I cook him dinner, though. That's his big meal. I get up with him sometimes, but it's rare/ We have a 4 month old, and I do all the nightly baby duty, so if she'll sleep until 8 in the morning, I'll try to sleep too.

Answer 6

My husband and I both work, but I still get up and fix our breakfast and pack our lunches and snacks for the day. On the weekends I get up early and fix breakfast. Sometimes I'll go in extra early to pick up groceries and some fresh flowers for our breakfast table. He pitches in by helping with dishes and laundry, so we have a pretty good balance.

We don't have children yet, but when we do, we plan on me staying home. I'll still get up and fix our breakfast and see him off to work. I enjoy those moments in the morning. It also gives us both something to look forward to in the evening.

Answer 7

Hiya, Pharm,

Yes, I get up with my husband and usually make him breakfast. However, we both work together - and we work from home, so there are not time crunches to rush out the door by a certain hour. We are very busy with our work and some days it is hard to fit in breakfast, but most days we manage.

It's lovely that you care to do so. :)

Answer 8

No, it's summer and since the kids don't have to be up at 6 a.m. - neither do I.
My husband actually likes the mornings to himself (he's up by 5:30) while he's making his breakfast...it's quiet. Once school starts, we are all up by 6 a.m. and he still makes breakfast for all.

Answer 9

My say-at-home wife cooks me breakfast the night before. She fries and egg and leaves it in tupperware in the fridge and I put it on toast with ham and cheese in the morning. It took marriage counseling to get her to do that. If the councellor hadn't told her to, she wouldn't. She doesn't get out of bed in the morning until the kids won't let her sleep anymore. Then she goes to bed at 2:00 AM after playing cards on the computer all night. Even on the weekends, I never get to sleep late.

Answer 10

Actually, my husband is gone a lot on business. When he is home, he usually cooks because he is much better than I am at it. But, 80% of our meals are eating out to start with. So, the answer for me is whatever he is in the mood for and if he feels like cooking.