I know my marriage is over.There's nothing, I'm just buying time because he's crazy.My family is poor and there's no room for me at there houses.When we married he swore to me that if I quit my job he'd always take car of me,(married or seperated)now he's saying I'll just have to starve.We have a 2 yr old child that he won't let me take and he has moved everything into his name and basically told me pack my thing and leave if I don't like it.All I litterally have is a car.The last time I tried to leave I open a baking account that he found out about and Totally chewed my head off.I have like $210 in that account.But that won't get me far.I asked the same question about 6 month ago and all the advice was good but he found out about the e-bay acct and the bank acct.He wont let me work.Just at the business he ownes and he doesn't pay me.I guess I'm just grasping at straws???Any legal advice would be great.Any Advice is great! I live in MSi.(There are no shelter's here.)
Thanks
2007-07-11 10:17:42 · 15 answers · asked by brooke s 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Mississippi, sorry, that I just kinda hopped in there.
2007-07-11 10:25:30 · update #1
I have a lot of ideas to help you, too many to post here. If you are serious about leaving email me at amgree021@yahoo.com
2007-07-11 10:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by PharmNerd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mention that your husband is 'crazy' if this is in a violent way then you have to be very careful even regarding using the computer. Look in the phone book and see if there is a crisis centre in your area.
In terms of him telling you to pack your things and leave well dependant on your circumstances you may have some entitlements in terms of equity in the house and business that may help to get you established elsewhere. If he isn't paying you then perhaps you are on the books as a partner Etc. You really need to consult a Lawyer and get legal advice.
2007-07-11 10:28:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor Brooke. Is that what you want people to say? It sounds like you've been playing "the victim" for quite a while now. Do you know any other way? If you really wanted to help yourself you would. There are government services for women in your situation that cost little to nothing and are completely confidential. But what will you do when you get out on your own? You must learn to stand up for yourself before you can stand on your own.
2007-07-11 10:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I could, I'd move you up here to get away. I was in that boat with my ex. But after quite some time, my sister finally was able to help me with a place to stay. I can only say that in my situation, I was able to leave when it was the right moment to do so. Do you not have any friends. What about going to the county to see what they can help with? I know that when I was in need, the social worker I saw got me some help right away with my own apartment and some support. You might think it degrating, but it's still help.
2007-07-11 10:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by Mastershake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am sorry that this is happening to. This is a growing problem in the U.S.. The best thing that I can suggest, is that you contact the local police dept and ask for the right connection. They will be able to help you out. Again, I feel so bad about your situation. Contact me at elisha.milby@yahoo.com if you need someone to talk to. Good luck...
2007-07-11 10:22:25 · answer #5 · answered by ELI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look he can't dictate weather you have a personal savings or checking acccount, nor can he make you delete you ebay account. if he is threatening you or hitting you then call the damn police. Take your child and leave, you are her mother and you have every right to her, I'd like to see anyone try to take my kids or tell me I can't have them...it wouldn't be pretty. Go to a women shelter if you don't have family that can help you, or go to a friends home until you can get some legal help and financial help.
2007-07-11 10:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and see an attorney to see what your rights are and what you would come out of the marriage with. It doesn't matter whether everything is in his name or not. That doesn't make it all his legally.
Quit working for him for free. Get a job that pays you.
2007-07-11 11:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by starrrrgazer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you should do is talk to a lawyer (there should also be a local LegalAid office). Advise them of your situation and they can refer you to a safehouse somewhere I'm sure. Don't make excuses. See a lawyer and GET OUT!
2007-07-11 10:24:56 · answer #8 · answered by GreekGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi brooke, sorry to hear about your sad situation. im sorry i cant offer you any advice as i live in ireland and don`t know how the social security works in america. all i can do is say a prayer for you and hope you get the courage to stand up to this bully.
2007-07-11 10:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by dreamgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave and take the child while he is gone at work one day, move to another state and worry about the money later!
2007-07-11 10:23:30 · answer #10 · answered by suzyalexisandgabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋