Marriage & Divorce - 29 June 2007

A lot of guys I know simply get turned off by their wife's ever growing body, they become disinterested in their marriage and often turn to late night drinking bars. And all the while their women all complain that their husband are not interested in them anymore and are poor lovers. Why can't women just get the simple idea that a big flabby body means a major turn off? And why can't they just take care their body like they used to? It is too much to ask.

2007-06-29 07:12:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I refuse to go but If my husband begs I must down a couple of beers in order to see her.. I just cannot do it!!! I wish I could make him happy and go and at least put up a front!! Help I almost divorced my husband because she was so controlling, hipocritical, and manipulative. I want to make him happy but I really can't stand his mother and her being all up in the businss....should I move out of town?

2007-06-29 07:07:05 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

“I have a friend” I know sounds like one of those things but really she needs the advice and I don’t want to tell her what I really feel because I hate her husband and that would not be fair. Ok here’s the situation she has been married for about 10 years but she is really unhappy he treats her like dirt. He disrespects her in front of people. She wants to leave but don’t know how. By the way the have 4 children so I think she is afraid to be on her own. What should I tell her?

2007-06-29 06:59:42 · 13 answers · asked by suidolem 1

i have a lets say family member in a abusive relationship. it has progressivly gotten worse. he has threatened to kill her and yet she still stays. i was told there was some sort of list of the different stages of abuse. i am just at my whits end with this whole thing im scared to death for her and her child. What as concerned family members can we do? i figure with a list she can see in black and white what he is doing to her. i dont know maybe thats silly but im desperate.

2007-06-29 06:59:14 · 10 answers · asked by tiffany w 3

My Christian friend tells me they have such a huge amount to learn that he's scared of marriage! Is it the same in other countries, esp in European countries? (I'm in SE Asia).

2007-06-29 06:52:35 · 21 answers · asked by Lunafan 1

If a man and a woman who have had a romantic past but consider themselves good friends too, can they really stay friends? What if there is still an attraction? Can they really avoid this attraction? Is there a way to avoid it? How do you avoid it and stay focused on the friendship?

2007-06-29 06:52:19 · 17 answers · asked by R 1

I think it's funny that women always go nuts when a man says anything about cheating but the only time I wear my wedding ring to a bar is when I want strange. Why do more women always hit on me with my ring on? I'm not talking about a small difference here, it's huge!!!

2007-06-29 06:49:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

and very very depressed. How can u cheer me up???

2007-06-29 06:42:45 · 14 answers · asked by BeLlYdAnCeR 4

He only wants to have sex twice a month. I would like to have it more often but have compromised and said 3 times a week would be fine. He thinks I have a problem (chemical imbalance) because I want it more. I think he has the problem. Twice a month is just unacceptable. He refuses to go to a doctor or ask the therapist about this(yes, we're in therapy). I feel rejected, unloved, un-cared for, unwanted, etc. This is killing our marriage. I can't go the next 30+ years without sex in our marriage. I am only 34 and want more in my life/our relationship. Why can't he see that this is important. He just wants to cuddle more. Give me a break. Please help!

2007-06-29 06:38:10 · 43 answers · asked by Robert S 1

my husband is a great person to talk to when I have a problem with anyone or anything other than him. He sits beside me listens, gives me great feed back and makes me feel great about the issue. But when I have an issue with him, it's horriable! He usually gets really mad, goes into defense mode, give me next to none for feedback, usually, yup,..so, or uh huh and ok. He also shows no emotion, I'm usually balling my eyes out by then, and he is stone cold just staring right through me, that's if he does look at me. Usually he will go to the other end of the room and show his back to me.If he gets really upset he just gets up and leaves. What do I do? I've read so many books on how to talk to someone about issues, like saying I feel, I need, being as straight to the point as possiable. But none of that seems to do anything. It's aweful because I can't even ask him to help out with the house with out him getting this way. What should I do next time I have an issue with him? Please help

2007-06-29 06:34:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

It's not a matter of if you choose one, you can never see the other one. It's the more complicated and subtle situations. Who should you have more deep conversations with? Who should you trust with all your confidential information with? Who should you go to first when you're having problems? I'm asking this because my husband's answer to all those questions above would be his mother. And everytime I try to talk to him about this, he excuses his behaviour by saying that he's been living with his mother his whole life and we've been married for only 2.5 years so obviously he's closer to his mother and needs time to adjust (huh?), or worse, accuses me of trying to come between him and his mother. The only thing I have that he can't do with his mother is sex.

2007-06-29 06:32:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok im a wife of eight yrs and i find myself torn my husband looks at himself as perfect as in he does no wrong and i always trying to change the person i am i feel like im not good enough for him any more. my confidence is gone. i feel like im to blame for what ever goes wrong and now i question if i should take the kids and leave ive given all i can i have no more to give im tired of feeling alone see i dont work ive been out of work for 3 yrs and its putting a strain on things and ive been looking for work but thats not good enogh im not trying hard enough to find a job im tired to being the one who needs to change what should i do im about ready to leave i just dont feel the conntection with him anymore

2007-06-29 06:22:47 · 4 answers · asked by cinerella19772 2

I've been married 14yrs and love my wife endlessly but I just learned she was cheating on me. I feel that I am partly to blame cause issues I have been dealing with. I pushed her away. She told it ended before I found out. I want to get over this hurdle and get back being a loving couple I forgave her and told her that we need to work on getting over it. Will I be able to trust her again. I want to. In fact I just sent her out to one of her friends so she could talk to her about it. I dont want her to be cooped up in the house. I want everything to stay as it was. We have always gave each other their space. Can it work.

2007-06-29 06:21:35 · 6 answers · asked by trout17366 1

I know if I didn't cheat I would have been divorsed a long time ago. I don't put it in her face and as far as I know she has no clue. To me it's better to get a little on the side when I get bored than to split my family up. I've been happily married for 10 years cause I cheat!!! I can see the ladies faces getting red now, sure glad no one has figured out how to slap through a computer yet.

2007-06-29 06:12:33 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

First I thought it was the pregnancy, she had a very hard one, then I thought it was post partum depression, now that my son is 5 months I think that she just has a horrible attitude period. It seems like I can't do anything right and I'm tired of being the one apologizing, I work full time 12 hour shifts and take of everything financially I don't see why she has any complaints, I always help around the house and with the kids when I'm off, its like there is no romance and every time i try to talk she either ignores me or gets an attitude, we have only had sex in 5 months since my son was born and i feel like theres nothing left for me to be here except pay the bills, am I tripping out or is this how its supposed to be when you are 22 with 2 young kids or should I leave now to prevent digging myself a deeper hole later somebody help me!

2007-06-29 06:07:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

why most woman check pockets of man ... before washing closes or at night.. when he is not there......

2007-06-29 05:59:19 · 42 answers · asked by tolanisri 1

Is anyone else in an unhappy relationship? if so what are some of your concerns/issues with that relationship and what are you doing to try to wotk it out...if anything?

2007-06-29 05:57:50 · 2 answers · asked by bad girl 2

i loved my husband we were married 32 years don't know if i am really ready to "get" back out there yet. What should i do? Please help me.

2007-06-29 05:51:20 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have paid my child support. the back support claimed is all interest charges! it's a huge amount over $11,000! I'll never be able to pay this off. I have custody of another son where I can't get the mother to pay any support! The courts seem to believe everything the woman cries about. what about the child I have custody of? this is a lot of BS! it never was for the "best interests of the child" if it was I should be getting support for my other son!

2007-06-29 05:50:45 · 6 answers · asked by fedupdad 1

2007-06-29 05:50:40 · 4 answers · asked by Nicolas R 1

The Colbert Report recently featured a guest that had written a book on happiness (not a self help book, but a book discussing what made most people happy and who the happiest people tended to be). Anyway, he said that people with children were less happy than those without. He said that when people THINK of their children, it makes them happy. But that we spend a lot more time actually dealing with the children than just thinking about them.

Thoughts?

*I'm putting this in marriage & divorce because you guys are more interesting than those in the other categories.

2007-06-29 05:29:49 · 34 answers · asked by Magaroni 5

Why are Indian parents so selfish?
Why are Indian parents so selfish? They worry too much about their sons giving them a good life ( better abroad ) and sort out their economical issues. They want to marry their daughters because they know that Indian girls will not have any future unless they get married to a rich boy ( again, better abroad ) who will give them everything because this girls will never be able to do anything by themselves, plus, their parents will be specting their sons to do the rest of the work. Is that love?

2007-06-29 05:28:34 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-29 04:59:27 · 44 answers · asked by Serengetti 3

Please help! My soon to be ex and I are trying to get divorced without lawyers (amicably). We have to children and I have the kids about 70% of the time. We make the same amount of money, married for 5+ years, live in California. He currently gives me $850 a month. I do not get anything more. He kept the house (I signed it off to him). He said I shouldn't claim BOTH children on taxes but my argument is that I raise the kids majority of the time plus he is a home owner and benefits from that. He also said that I shouldn't be asking for alimony or his retirement (which is fine because I have my own 401k) Question: I really don't want to use lawyers ($$$), can anyone clearly state what I AM eligible for? Am I ripping him off or visa versa? THANK YOU THANK YOU!

2007-06-29 04:37:15 · 7 answers · asked by Aunt Andy 2

My boyfriend and i just had a baby together and right now we're staying together. However, I've started developing a guilty conscience on how we're living in sin, so i started praying to God about the matter. I approached my boyfriend about it and we've previously talked about marriage even before the baby(unplanned pregnancy) and he's wanting to wait to get married. I told him that our lease is up in Nov. and before moving in together again I want us to do what's right in God's eyes and have his blessing w/ in the marriage arrangement. I expressed it to him just like this. So i told him that either we get married before moving in together again or we're going to have live separately and we can get married until he's ready. He's doesnt seem too fond of that idea because i sense that he has a bad attitude around me(making me feel very uncomfortable around him)and he's been kind of distant emotionally. I love him very much but i love God even more. What do you think?

2007-06-29 04:08:46 · 8 answers · asked by Rona 3

My wife is a person and a very banal woman. She has brought Jesus Christ into our lives, and for that I am moderately grateful.

I feel that Jesus has given me permission to see this Koren temptress, so that is why I have gone ahead with this relationship. I make her into a better woman, and it's something I'm proud of.

I know that I can't make my wife an Asian, or I can't make her lose 5 inches off of her height, but are there other things I can tell her to act more Korean? Without letting her in on my secret pact with Jesus Christ?

2007-06-29 04:08:01 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

i can't let go, and neither can my ex. we talk contstantly via email and txt.. and have for about the 4 years since he got married. we meet occassionally and things happen, my family hates him but i love him and can't live without him.. now what? my husband is the best, and he loves me..but i don't feel the passion for him that i feel for my ex.

2007-06-29 03:56:29 · 22 answers · asked by sumgirlIN 2

My wife told me that she lost her virginity to me on our wedding day. Seven months later I found out that I have an STD. Come to find out, she gave it up to a family friend after getting drunk at her Bachelorette party. Now I'm going to have lifelong problems and on top of that my trust in her isn't what it was before. What should I do?

2007-06-29 03:53:49 · 40 answers · asked by Johnny Boy 1

my best friend is married to a girl in boston and he is in the army in iraq, see he wants a divorce and to come back home but his wife wants to follow him where he goes because she doesnt want except that there over problem is she wants to stay with me when she come down. my best friend told me to tell her not come down and tell her she cant stay with me, she hasnt done anything to me and my wife so should i respect my best friend wishes and if i do how do i tell her he doesnt want her with us or should i just let her come and just stay distant?

2007-06-29 03:48:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband cheated on me. Left me in quite a financial mess. I am working my butt off. I am so frustrated. I want to get revenge for all the sh*t he has put me through emotionally and mentally. Any good suggestions? Something sophisticated that will really hurt.
I am not a bunny boiler but I would like him to just feel half as bad as I do.

2007-06-29 03:32:24 · 37 answers · asked by Laila 3