My husband cheated on me. Left me in quite a financial mess. I am working my butt off. I am so frustrated. I want to get revenge for all the sh*t he has put me through emotionally and mentally. Any good suggestions? Something sophisticated that will really hurt.
I am not a bunny boiler but I would like him to just feel half as bad as I do.
2007-06-29 03:32:24 · 37 answers · asked by Laila 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Obviously I am divorcing him. The problem is that he is dragging it out. He have been begging me to take me back. The other day I got a call from the woman he had an affair with. He has been living there since I kicked him out. Jerk. I told her that he has been begging me to take him back. He denied it but she believe me.
Also I moved country for this guy. Now I am a bit stuck.
2007-06-29 03:55:27 · update #1
Looking-2-talk.
unfortunately he does not have any fit friends lol
2007-06-29 03:57:42 · update #2
The best revange is that if he sees you happy and relaxed with somebody else. Work on this.
2007-06-29 03:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
I know your head goes all sorts of "bunny boiling" places. Try to look at this as a good thing and the growth you will get from the experience on the other side of it.
Don't act out because it will only cause you more grief and whatever you do will never be "satisfying" enough. Revenge is not worth it and the anger and resentment you have towards him is only killing you inside. Like you taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
It is proper to be angry and I suggest you get with a good counselor or divorce support group that will help you through these feelings....not one that will encourage you to wallow in them.
Being healthy and happy is the best revenge. Let him go, he did not deserve a woman like you and if you do something crazy, you will not have taken the high road.
Good luck and I'm so sorry.
2007-06-29 03:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by Patio 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, ever heard of Karma, what goes around comes around? Why get him back? why let him have that kind of hold on you? I found the worst thing you can do to anyone is walk away w/out so much as a care in the world. Drives them crazy...not to mention if you let it go it doesn't consume or control you anymore. You can concentrate on making your life better than it ever was when you were with them.
I'm in the same situation, and it still gets me that I was stuck with alto of debt...but you know what, I have integrity, I can live with a good conscience knowing I'm a better person than he'll ever be. And when all is said and done and all the debt is paid, hopefully by this August, I can feel good about my accomplishment. And that I don't have to be a snake in the grass or stoop low to get what I want. The good persevere and always come out on top in the end.
2007-06-29 03:49:44 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would take all the energy that you would use for revenge and put it towards getting your life together. Move on and forget about the jerk. Be the better one of the situation and put your head up high and succeed. Do not waste your time or energy on this jerk. He is not worth it!
He doesn't feel bad. If he did he would have thought about it before he decided to cheat on you. He is a selfish person and those people are not worth the time girl.
2007-06-29 03:43:56 · answer #4 · answered by aintlifegrand 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it might not feel like it yet but your revenge will come one day and you don't need to do anything.
My mum was in the same situation 20 odd years ago. My dad had an affair, left my mum with debt, a 2 year old and she was pregnant with me. She managed to change the locks and every time he pleaded to come home she said no.
Over the years he's had to watch another man love his ex wife and kids and see my mum grow into a confident women (as she was 21 at the time). Not only that, shes now financially secure and he hates it.
After my mum he went on to have another marriage, two more children, left them, met another women, had the snip (thank god!) had an affair, and now shes got no trust in him. It'll all work out one day, just sit back and watch the bast*rd stew!!!!! HAHAHAHAHA
Good luck Hun, Just concentrate on getting yourself a new man now. xx
2007-06-29 23:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge is living well.
It takes way too much energy to worry about revenge. It sounds like your plate is pretty full already. I've been there. Eventually, it will all come back and kick him in the butt. It may not be today, but it will happen. Don't lower yourself to his level. My attorney always tells me to take the high road, no matter what. Good Luck!.
2007-06-29 03:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by mkjhfiuy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Revenge isn't the proper way to solve issues. If you do something that's not the nicest, your just as bad as him. Yes he did you wrong by cheating and that must really hurt. "What goes around"will come around again to him later on. Meaning, the next someone he gets involved with may hurt him in some way. Your best to wipe the slate clean and find yourself good people that respect and love you for who you are. There is all kinds of "scum of the earth" out there. so don't be around this type. Socialize in a clean environment of people that have set healthy choices for themselves and are set on certain goals in life. Cocoa
2007-06-29 03:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by cocoa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly the best solution is to move on, get back in shape and let him see you with a younger, hotter guy. But if your just looking to do something evil and not worry about your own happines, arrange a threesome with people he is close to, like his brother, co worker, or best friend, and let him walk in on you guys. Just keep in mind, an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. All the little things wont be enough, you will want him to hurt just as much as you, and if you cant forgive him, your behavior will never end. Accept it and move on, or have some self respect and leave.
2016-04-01 10:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now this is a thought which just came to me. I have a memory of reading somewhere about agencies as in private detective type thing where a glamorous woman is a ploy used to set up a potentially cheating hub. So I see a senario whereby a glam woman makes a move on him in an unsuspect sortof a way he falls hook line and sinker.....as he did before.....and then the photographic evidence of himself with other woman presented to present live in lover!!!
Then he is the mug surely?
2007-06-29 23:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
crikey, no wonder he doesn't have any friends. I have been in similar situation and decided to just walk away gracefully. Looking back it was probably sensible but i wish i had got some sort of revenge. You could take him back and pretend to forgive him, in the meantime you could be recouping financially. maybe get a loan out in his name, make purchases on his credit cards, loads of stuff. You would have to be really hard and ruthless though. I know i would probably fall in love all over again and end up in even worse mess.
Or you could just do the usual, trash his car etc.
Good luck.
2007-06-29 04:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by sosueme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk away and move on with your life, that is the best revenge there is. Doing anything else will just make you look desperate and as though this has turned your world upside down-which it may very well have, but you dont want him knowing that! Yes, he was a complete arsehole for doing what he done to you, but its his loss, he had a good women and a stable situation and now he has blown it all. Acting with dignity and grace will kick that bastard where it hurts!
2007-06-29 03:37:58 · answer #11 · answered by peroxide.pixie 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋