I've been married 14yrs and love my wife endlessly but I just learned she was cheating on me. I feel that I am partly to blame cause issues I have been dealing with. I pushed her away. She told it ended before I found out. I want to get over this hurdle and get back being a loving couple I forgave her and told her that we need to work on getting over it. Will I be able to trust her again. I want to. In fact I just sent her out to one of her friends so she could talk to her about it. I dont want her to be cooped up in the house. I want everything to stay as it was. We have always gave each other their space. Can it work.
2007-06-29 06:21:35 · 6 answers · asked by trout17366 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a marriage counsellor to work out between both of you. It is more than what u can describe online.
2007-06-29 06:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by StarsYSL 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The reason she cheated on you is because ya'll probably give each other too much space. You can't just let her go out all the time with her friends. This was bound to happen ya'll need to go out together if anything, and if she does go out occasionally maybe once a week and not ALL night just after work drinks or something. I dont believe in things working after someone has cheated but if you're gonna try to work it out you are gonna HAVE TO trust her. If you can't trust her again then ya'll might as well divorce or seperate.
2007-06-29 13:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You might have "pushed her away", but she didn't leave. She cheated. People with high integrity don't cheat. Ever. Not once. Her integrity is low. You cannot ever trust her. You are in denial about who she really is, so you are not really in love with her.
Can it work? I doubt it. You are living in a fantasy world where people cheat because of something YOU did, and that's just not how life is.
2007-06-29 13:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You don't. My BF and I (we also plan on getting married), agreed and have already pledged to eachother that we can get through ANYTHING together, we already have. But the one thing we both agreed on was that if either was cheating, it's over. The relationship will NEVER be the same.
2007-06-29 13:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by Aquaria 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel as though what you are telling us is that the trust is broken and if that is true then you dont have anything left just get a divorce and be done with it . good luck .
2007-06-29 13:30:24 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
4 me cheating is a deal breaker....ive was married 8 yrs and he cheated on me and we tried but i could never trust him again...i tried
2007-06-29 13:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by machele 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋