What would make a married man leave his wife and kids for his mistress?

Question

P.S. I am the wife.

Answer 1

i don't think it's anything one thing in particular. i'd like to think that it's just the man realizing that he no longer loves his wife like he should and has found a new and different love with this other woman.
ideally, he would have come to this conclusion before cheating and he would not be "leaving" his kids, but simply changing his location and would still see them often and love and care for them as a father should.

i don't always think staying together is the best thing, but every situation is different.
we all deserve happiness in our lives, but once you have kids, you have to put some of that aside and sacrifice for them.
it's a tough line to follow.

anyway.....best of luck to you all, if you're involved in a situation like this.

take care.

Answer 2

Several things. But I'm guessing sex; something new and exciting and "forbidden." Could be that old saying, "my wife doesn't understand me!"

Who knows, it could be a nagging wife, kids out of control, unkept and unclean home; sloppy appearance and out of shape; a job that requires many hours of overtime work and a wife that's just not up to satisfying her husband's sexual needs. Then there's the dreaded money issue; not having enough to support your lifestyle and paying on bills. Could be the in-laws; nothing is a bad as a meddling mother-in-law!

Then again, it could be the man himself. Maybe he's going through an age crisis, or has "fallen out of love" with his wife. It's so very hard to guess these things. But the word "MISTRESS" here is the dead-give-away. And when a mistress is involved, well....hello, it's not the cooking or cleaning he's seeking!

So getting back to square one, SEX! He's developed a new taste in the dessert department, and she's the new chef of erotic pleasure.

Answer 3

Well sweetie look from a guys point of view I can say this which is actually pretty logical and that is that he might have left because of constant arguments, freedom to do what he wants when he wants without worries or consequences which means that's being irresponsible, not really ready for a marriage life, but the sad thing is that the kids suffer from that infidelity of his besides yourself for some sexual experiences that will actually fade away anyway and then he would to come back again because his so ca lled mistress will leave him for someone else too , but do not stress over it leave it in God's hands and let by gones be by gones, God will deal with him and the govern ment as well , ahahahah! and if his mistress is more important than his kids, than sweetie you don't need a 1/2 of man that's not willing to face the commitment as parent for those kids......fogetabouit!!! he's a looser hon may God bless and comfort you and your lil ones.

Answer 4

I think it would have to be a combination of great sex, a wife that's extremely hard to live with and a very immature, irresponsible man.

If you happen to be the wife in this case, I'm sorry you made the mistake of choosing him to be the father of your children, because this guy sounds like a total loser. His children will hate him for this when they get older, and blame him for all their problems.

And if you are the mistress, I really can't blame you for the man's unbelievably poor decision making and total lack of responsibility, but you are the accomplice, or enabler and you are doing it at the expense of his children. Also, if you are looking at this man as anything more than an occational sex partner and a cool guy to hang out with, you are definitely barking up the wrong tree. Don't think for one second that a guy that would leave his own offspring for a girl like you is any kind of marriage material, i.e. a good father to children.

Answer 5

You're the mistress? Or the wife? If you're the mistress, you won't get an answer from me because I think you should have more confidence in yourself to find a man that is all yours, and not someone else's. If you're a wife, it's because mistresses can be petulant, bratty, manipulative skanks. Find a man that adores you and only you (and accepts your kids as being part of you).

Answer 6

Since you are the wife that happens to alot of women. Most men leave thinking that their life they will have with the mistress will be better and most times it's not. Sometimes it's a worse life. The grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence. Most men don't appreciate what they have until they have lost it.

Answer 7

I think the correct term is "Boy". A true Man would never leave his wife and kids for a mistress.

Answer 8

Love is a strange thing. It takes on a life of its own. If you have attempted to save your marriage and he still leaves, then its time for you to stand up and move on. Take a course at a local college, join a help-based group, get involved with the kids at local functions. Above all, do something for yourself and let life take its course. To answer your question directly: They leave because of less pressure. You have needs and obligations and so do the children and he doesn't want the responsibility any longer. In short, he's a coward.

Answer 9

The man is blinded by Satan. It's Satan's desire to rip marriages and families apart. Your husband was led to believe that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. At first, his relationship will seem exciting and he will think that he made the best decision in the world for leaving you.

There may have been things that bother him about you and the kids, but it's still no excuse to be with another woman. The Bible says you reap what you sow. The OW will dump him eventually when she realizes he has baggage he can't dump.

Answer 10

He thinks his wife will always be there for him, and usually she is if she has his kids. He wants them both. He will probably get what he wants. His mistress is stupid with a capital S.