i have a lets say family member in a abusive relationship. it has progressivly gotten worse. he has threatened to kill her and yet she still stays. i was told there was some sort of list of the different stages of abuse. i am just at my whits end with this whole thing im scared to death for her and her child. What as concerned family members can we do? i figure with a list she can see in black and white what he is doing to her. i dont know maybe thats silly but im desperate.
2007-06-29 06:59:14 · 10 answers · asked by tiffany w 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no no trust me its not me. its actually my niece. and im scared to death for her.
2007-06-29 07:25:26 · update #1
and calling the police around here just really doesnt seem like its gonna help. seeing as how he is a ex cop in this town!
2007-06-29 07:26:10 · update #2
Here are some things that you can read . . .
http://www.crisisconnectioninc.org/domesticviolence/stages_of_leaving_an_abusive_rel.htm
http://www.mamashealth.com/abuse/cycle.asp
I hope these help!
2007-06-29 07:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The list of abuse is neverending.I lived that life for many years,and this guy physically hurt me,and emotionally drained me.I was so afraid of him,for my life and for my childrens lives.It is not a good scene when a child is involved because what they see growing up tends to follow them in adult life.Take it from someone who had the experience,get out now while the getting is good.It will be tough at first,but with the support of friends and family,it makes it a whole lot more tollerable.No one deserves to be treated like that.I have been abuse free for 10 years now
2007-06-29 07:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by luvmygt3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a list in the world that would make her see what he is doing to her, she is not going to see it until it could be to late....all you can do is be there for her and keep encouraging her to leave him, I have a friend I have know her 18yrs and she has been in a horrible relationship with her now husband of 3yrs but they have been together for 11yrs...I was blown away when she told me they were getting married, he is verbally and mentally abusive to her, I also have been afraid for her life,the scary thing is she can say to me that she knows what he does to her is wrong but she loves him...I don't get it AT ALL ...but that is what happens to abused woman...all I can say is be there for her and if you ever see him abuse her YOU call the cops on him cause she isn't going to..... Good Luck to you I will pray that she will come to her senses and get way form him...
2007-06-29 07:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.drirene.com/
Huge help to me, made me realize why I was feeling bad. And made me accept that I too, even though I was a strong woman, can become a victim of abuse. As well as gave me confidence to get away. I know the site looks cheesy, but there is some great information there. And they list out different types of abuse with descriptions as well as cross reference personality types that usually inflict certain types of abuse. Taught me that it wasn't my fault that it happened it was only my fault if I continued to let it go on.
Life is good again, its hard being alone, but so much happier. Me and my baby girl are fine, and sometimes I shudder at the years of hate, anger and sickness. But its a good reminder to stay strong and love life.
2007-06-29 07:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your answer is in 2 parts
A. www.crisisconnectioninc.org/
B. If there have been documented calls that weren't handled properly, 1. Call the district Atty. or go to see him. If that doesn't help
2. Contact your Highway Patrol, they can do an investigation
3. Contact the Atty. Generals office about police corruption
Hope this helps
2007-06-29 07:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be helpful if you or someone else would in a polite way ask her to see a counselor. She needs to have someone explain it to her. Also, offer to go with her- that way she can't back out. So many people say, "well what can I do". If the person trying to help her is someone she trust and loves then there is so much one can do.
2007-06-29 07:11:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this girl you are talking about "so called family member" is....YOU!
2007-06-29 07:15:54 · answer #7 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you go pick her up and take her to a domestic violence shelter in her area - show her first hand and have a counselor talk to her.
2007-06-29 07:07:10 · answer #8 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the man on him for her every time he hits her period and YOU NEED TO GET OUT FAMILY MEMBER
2007-06-29 07:20:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.ndvh.org/educate/abuse_quiz.html
2007-06-29 07:04:00 · answer #10 · answered by LB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋