Why don't women take care their body after marriage?

Question

A lot of guys I know simply get turned off by their wife's ever growing body, they become disinterested in their marriage and often turn to late night drinking bars. And all the while their women all complain that their husband are not interested in them anymore and are poor lovers. Why can't women just get the simple idea that a big flabby body means a major turn off? And why can't they just take care their body like they used to? It is too much to ask.

I put in about 50 miles of running on the road every week, so to answer your comment.

Answer 1

I should ask you the same thing... why don't men take care of their bodies after marriage?

It's all in the person... not everyone will let themselves go.

Answer 2

This is not all women. Also, woman have a harder time keeping the weight off because they are busy pushing babies out of their nether regions.

I have been married 10 years and have given birth to 3 children. I still manage to run in the mornings, but it is because I enjoy the fresh air. Honestly, I hate exercising. I am 5'8" and weigh 115 lbs (same as I was in high school). So you can't say all women don't take care of their bodies.

It is easy for me to keep the weight off, but it is not for all women. Outside appearances are not what matters the most. A lot of women struggle with diseases that make it hard to lose weight. Does this mean their husbands should find them any less attractive? No. As long as they take care of their body, eat healthy, and make an effort to look beautiful that is all that matters.

Answer 3

Why do so many husbands let their bodies go and think that their wives should find them attractive no matter what? Why do so many husbands insist that their wives getting bigger and them loosing all tone or care of how they look cant possibly have anything to do with them? Somethings do not go back to the way they were before kids either. Also, maybe so many wives dont care because they are busy raising kids, cleaning houses, and picking up after husbands that go to the bar and get drunk with freinds and dont pitch in one bit at home. Do you think we find beer bellies sexy? Do you think we find the aroma of a beer burp or fart sexy? I dont think so. It always seems to be put on the wife to keep herself up but no one ever mentions the husband. If I see a woman that has let herself go I have the common sense to know that there is a pretty good possibility that some idiot husband of her has hurt her and brought her self esteem to a low point and she doesnt feel like she has any reason to keep herself up. Also them drinking at night because of their wives is an excuse because they are to self absorbed to take credit for their own actions and face the fact that they drink because they want to. They are alcoholics more than likely.

Answer 4

Are the guys you know also taking care of themselves as they did before marriage? I know a number of couples where both parties get out of shape, but interestingly enough, it's the man who points out his wife's physique "issues" while ignoring his own.

If the women have kids, the body will never be quite the same. Things change after childbirth, even if you keep up with the workout.

And marriage is "for better or for worse". Apparently, when it gets worse for the guys you know, they feel that tuning out of their marriage by going out and drinking is the solution. A marriage takes both people's efforts to work. If these guys are unhappy, they need to express it to their wives, rather than staying away from the home.

Why can't men understand that there might be more to marriage than a perfect body, and talk to their women like they used to? (And maybe put down their beer while they are at it - beer is really fattening, you know). Is it too much to ask?

Answer 5

First off, not all women have the same problem, it depends on the issue as for me, I had my 1st child who is almost 2, trying to get into college to become a vet tech, keeping up houshold chores without getting yelled at are being called LAZY, running around after my child and working full-time at an animal hospital, so yes it is hard to maintain a decent body figure for the husband and yet he is actually trying to help me lose the baby weight I still have. So for I lost almost 13lbs and I have 15 more to go to get to the weight that I started to be before I was pregnant. It is hard expecially when you have way too much on your plate. Even doing all that physical work, it doesn't quite help losing the weight on top of bad eating habits that is taking awhile to eliminate due to how I was raised as a child, But it is hard and it takes time to look good not only for my husband but also for myself to look and feel good about myself. So my comment, YES IT IS HARD unless that woman is lazy and doesn't do ANYTHING but takes care of the kids and eats like a pig!

Answer 6

Not all women are like that I take care of my body I gain 15 pound after I go married but my husband said he didn't like how skinny i was I'm 5'5 and was 120 now I'm 130-135 he likes it a lot more but I'm still in good shape I still have a 6 pack thank you. so not all women let themselves go but yes a lot do

Answer 7

Not all women are this way.

I have had two kids, i weight 120lbs. i have a flat stomach and I look great.
And yet, my husband still cheated on me...wait it gets better the girl was flabby and fat.

You tell me why?

it has nothing to do with what your wife looks like. Men always think that the grass is greener on the other side.

Answer 8

Let's see....after birthing 2.5 kids, constantly running after them, trying to maintain a household and possibly even working full time, there is no time left to look after themselves. They do care, they are just too tired to do anything about it. So, if these husbands would get off their lazy butt and help out, then maybe just maybe the wives would have some energy to exercise and lose weight.

Answer 9

Look, if your wife is gaining too much weight & she's starting to look unattractive every day, then you need to LET HER KNOW! tell her straight up. Married women don't take care of themselves anymore, maybe b/c they are too busy working, running errands, taking care of things in the house & the children. Maybe b/c they think their husbands will love them anyway b/c they are "married", remember the vow "in sickness & in health", "through good times & bad times", etc.


I am a married woman & I work out 4 times a week, I eat healthy, get my hair done, go shopping for new clothes, etc. Plus, I do all the other things, such as running errands, cleaning the house, cooking every day, working, the only difference is that we don't have any kids yet.....but that's not going to change me when the time comes for children. I will still continue to take care of myself b/c I want to stay healthy FOR ME. never towards the benefit of my spouse since I already know he loves me for me. But for some other women, they believe they are being accepted regardless of the way they look, then it will stop them from taking steps to look decent & stay healthy. Some of them are just lazy. It depends on the woman's character, attitude & behavior. Usually, the negative ones are the over weight ones & they never care anymore & use the kids as an excuse for everything.

Answer 10

Dont assume that ALL women dont care for their bodies after marriage.

A big part of it is having children. I know tons of women who cant drop the last few pounds of baby weight for years.