If a man and a woman who have had a romantic past but consider themselves good friends too, can they really stay friends? What if there is still an attraction? Can they really avoid this attraction? Is there a way to avoid it? How do you avoid it and stay focused on the friendship?
2007-06-29 06:52:19 · 17 answers · asked by R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Absolutely, it is possible. You definitely have to consider the specific individuals in this situation. If the relationship ended on good (and equal) terms, neither person will likely harbor resentment towards the other. Maybe at whatever point they dated, both needed someone and needed to part of a relationship. What is better than a comfortable relationship with the added bonus of sexual release? The one thing I see causing a potential problem would be future lovers of both people. A jealous significant other ruins many a great friendships, regardless if they have a sexual history or not.
2007-06-29 07:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by lanay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't "avoid" it. The attraction is part of the friendship. If there was something that attracted you to this person in the first place, and this something is still there, it will be present in the friendship - and there's nothing wrong with it. Human relationships are not black-and-white. I think, by acknowledging your feelings for the person you can move past it and focus on the friendship; it seems that trying to deny and suppress what is clearly there can create more confusion and problems.
2007-06-29 07:01:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard and leads to the end of friendship. I was best friends with a woman for a long time, we grew together, then one day I told her I felt about her and we went out for 8 months. Then it came to an end, a good end. We tried to remain as friends, but it was hard because of the physical part of our romance. In the end we went our seprate ways. Like I said it really is hard to stay friends after you went through the romantic part. Plus if you still have attraction, what will happen when they start going out with someone else and your around them, you'll pull your hair out. Good luck G
2007-06-29 06:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you just have to talk them. Women and men could be best friends without having anything romantic happening between them. If you just like him as a friend and respect him as just a friend then keep it that way. If you feel like he's acting different during the weekend when you're hanging out just ask him, and let him know that you're only interested in a friendship. And no don't worry, you're not overthinking it.
2016-05-18 22:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the individuals. I've got tons of guy friends.
One in particular, we were friends for what 10, no 11 years before we had sex. And the only reason we did was because we became room mates and went out one night and got drunk. We did that a couple of times, but haven't been together sexually in a year, but we're still friends. I love him dearly, but I don't care to have sex with him anymore, not saying that it wouldn't happen again. And he seems cool with the way things were, have been and are, just like I am.
2007-06-29 07:01:30 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends...Some people can handle it; but IMO most can't.
Men and women view friendship and love differently. A woman might really want just a friendship with a man; but chances are the man will be willing to wait -and say it's OK to be friends- when he really wants more later on.
2007-06-29 09:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This works as long as neither of you are in a relationship with someone else because jealousy comes into it from the other people, and that isn't a great quality.
2007-06-29 07:07:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is still an attraction then no you can not be Friends.You can but something may a rise you are better off leaving one another alone or if you want another relationship go for it.
2007-06-29 06:57:27 · answer #8 · answered by gia00601 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
most definately they can stay friends.If there was a past and it was somewhat of a good one,there will always be an attracton.Know when to draw the line.Life is to short to hold a grudge.
2007-06-29 07:01:28 · answer #9 · answered by luvmygt3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its almost impossible, ESPECIALLY with someone you've had a romantic past with... A woman may be able to keep her intentions clean... well clean enough to stay honest. But men put female friends into two categories, "Woman I've Dated" and "Woman I Haven't Dated Yet." Be careful... seriously... This situation sounds accident prone...
2007-06-29 06:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by Amazon Woman 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋