what to do?

Question

ok im a wife of eight yrs and i find myself torn my husband looks at himself as perfect as in he does no wrong and i always trying to change the person i am i feel like im not good enough for him any more. my confidence is gone. i feel like im to blame for what ever goes wrong and now i question if i should take the kids and leave ive given all i can i have no more to give im tired of feeling alone see i dont work ive been out of work for 3 yrs and its putting a strain on things and ive been looking for work but thats not good enogh im not trying hard enough to find a job im tired to being the one who needs to change what should i do im about ready to leave i just dont feel the conntection with him anymore

Answer 1

U too can get a job...u don't have to have the best job in the work...any job brings in money...work at McDonalds, Taco Bell, etc...I am sure they would hire you

Answer 2

I do believe it is time for some counselling. If you have been married for eight years maybe you feel like the spark has gone from the marriage. I think it is time for you to consider a second honeymoon and get reconnected with your husband.

If your husband loves you then there is no reason to try to change yourself all the time. He married you for you nothing more. It appears to me that you have always had a problem with self-respect and confidence and that is why you feel like you are never going to be good enough for your husband.

I will tell you your not alone when it comes to this many men and women feel this way. You must look at it this way
your have great kids a good hardworking husband. That chose you as the one to marry not someone that needs to change everything about herself to fit in.

Your life is fine you just need to help strengthen your confidence level finding qa good job will do this and doing stuff for yourself and not for others around you.

Pamper yourself go to a spa and just have a ladies day.

Stop worrying about what your husband thinks of himself if anything tell him he is not perfect no one is. It may burst his bubble but really the whole world doesn't revolve around him.

God Bless and Best Wishes

Answer 3

well you can always go and join many of your sisters whom work in the oldest profession, pays good and you get to lay around alot :) You certainly need to change one thing thou you freakin whine way to much

Answer 4

if u can do and manage on your own then i would!!