“I have a friend” I know sounds like one of those things but really she needs the advice and I don’t want to tell her what I really feel because I hate her husband and that would not be fair. Ok here’s the situation she has been married for about 10 years but she is really unhappy he treats her like dirt. He disrespects her in front of people. She wants to leave but don’t know how. By the way the have 4 children so I think she is afraid to be on her own. What should I tell her?
2007-06-29 06:59:42 · 13 answers · asked by suidolem 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm glad you support your friend but this is one for the professionals.
Urge her to seek counseling for both herself and the children. An abusive husband/father can do more damage than one can ever imagine.
Be there for her - and encourage her to get counseling - but remember the old saying:
If you want to help your friend, do so in such a way as to not bring her problems onto yourself.
2007-06-29 07:04:28 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Offer her a place to stay for awhile so she can maybe figure out what she wants to do. The four kids are tricky in this situation but if this guy treats her like crap that is no marriage
that is slavery. Tell her honestly how you feel maybe if she heard from a friend that thinks that her husband is a total a ss.
This would give her strength to tell this guy to get the F out of her life for good.
Explain to her that she is too good of a person to let this guy disrespect her anymore and that you will be standing with her through everything. Be her rock she will need someone strong to help her!
God Bless and Best Wishes!
P.S. As the saying goes honesty is the best policy, tell what you think!
2007-06-29 14:11:02 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you're there for her if she needs anything. Tell her that she's worth more and deserves to be treated better than the way her husband is treating her. Why not just offer to give her kids and her a place to stay if she ever needs a break. Tell her to think about her kids and the example she's showing them. By staying with an emotionally abusive man, she's teaching her kids what a woman is. If she doesn't want to perpetuate the cycle of disrespect and abuse in her kids future relationships she'll show them a stronger woman by leaving. My heart goes out to her. All you can do is be there for her, but remember--you can't help someone who isn't willing to help themself.
2007-06-29 14:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by Judy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to do what her heart is telling her. Why stay in that situation when she is getting abused in a way? She also needs to talk to her kids about what is going on. I also have another solution, they need to get some serious help because divorce is gonna just rip the kids apart. I would most likely reccommend the 2nd solution.
2007-06-29 14:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do nothing in terms of speaking to either of them. You should do everything to cover them in prayer. It is not your place to try to fix the relationship. God put them together and praying for his guidance in their lives can turn things around for them.
If the couple is not saved they need to get saved. Even if they are not saved the best fit for them is Spiritual Counseling by a Minister.
They need a Pastoral Counseling. A professional person should sit down with them and address them problems that are confronting them as a couple.
2007-06-29 14:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by cuddlybear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know you are their for her. If he is that bad you should talk to him about it. If he gets violent you need to make a plan. Maybe you should let her crash with you for a little bit. Or even get marrage counciling. That happend to my parents. They are now divorced. It is better for me and my 3 siblings. The children will be happier when it is fixed also.
2007-06-29 14:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Provide her with information on her different options. Ensure her that you will be there for her despite her decision. And keep doing what you have been doing.
2007-06-29 14:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her to a support group and let her see how other women felt and did about their problems...she might feel a little more comfortable knowing that she is not the only one going through that problem
2007-06-29 14:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by kauaichic420 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it's a learning experience. Divorce the jerk and "get a life"! Maybe she'll be a bit more selective next time around! ;-)=
2007-06-29 14:04:19 · answer #9 · answered by Jcontrols 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her to be brave and leave the guy who doesnt respect her. after she has friends like u to help her when she is on her own.
2007-06-29 14:03:04 · answer #10 · answered by frescocomolluvias 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋