Marriage & Divorce - 28 May 2007

if you and your husband just got a new house to move into. That is the good thing. The one we got needed alot of work. Paint in every single room, all the trim needed painted, carpets needed cleaning. Husband spent the last month putting the tile in the kitchen and painting the cabinets, while you did everything else? Then, he gets mad at you for it, like you didnt do enough? I think i have a right to be pissed, he thinks he has the right. Oh, and when the time came to start moving things over you are the one packing the boxes, moving them to the new house and unpacking them. Does this seem fair? Dont get me wrong, i love him dearly but I am just overly annoyed tonight that he thinks he has the right to get mad at me and point out that I missed 3 nail holes in a peice of trim!!!!
Am I wrong for being upset?

2007-05-28 14:36:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

How long does it normally take, how much does it cost and what is involved? I live in Vermont if that happens to help out.

2007-05-28 14:31:34 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

I feel sad when I look at what has happened to my ex-husband, daughter and myself.

My ex-husband is not doing well at his job. He lived in another state and moved due to job reasons. He left our daughter in his mother's care.

My daughter is not doing well in school and is lonely at times.

I feel lost in life and am not able to settle down at a permanent job. I live in another state.

I don't know how things will ever get resolved and become okay.

My ex-husband has been given 30 to 60 days to improve his job performance or he will be out of a job.

I have repeatedly asked him to send my daughter to me. He says no and has sole physical and legal custody.

I don't see any hope in the situation.

2007-05-28 14:27:34 · 3 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

My ex-husband constantly focused on money. I worked all throughout our marriage. Yet, I could not spend money freely.

He controlled how and where we shopped. I had to hide and do things for myself.

He also had standards in terms of how much various grocery items had to cost.

As I am meeting more men, I see that they also think in terms of money.

Do most men think in terms of money? I am not an extravagant spender. I do think twice before I spend money.

2007-05-28 14:20:21 · 16 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

I have been married for 2 yrs this July. In 2005 my husband proceeded to break my 42 inch tv by kicking a hole through it when I came home at 1:30 in the afternoon after a teacher luncheon. During a screaming match I had with him he pushed me. I responded by calling the police. He was arrested and served with paperwork for a protective order. Two days later I found I was pregnant, I allowed the protective order to be dropped and allowed him to move back home. Two months later I lost the baby and went out with a girlfriend I came home and he verbally abused me severely and I threw a pillow at him. In retaliation he called the police and I was arrested and served with assult and served with emergency protective order paperwork.
Everything in my house was fine until last week. I had another miscarrage and went to a cook out at girlfriends house. He was irrate and would not let me leave the house when he became verbally abusive. He broke the tv again. Help any hope.

2007-05-28 14:14:07 · 25 answers · asked by tracyeefoster 1

Other than the obvious .Staying because of the kids.What could be some factors why my husband hasn't divorced me when he's been wanting one for 3 years now.And it's defiantly not because he still loves me.Is it common for people to stay together because because they don't want to spit their asset.

2007-05-28 14:09:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've cheated on my husband a few times because I don't feel like he is giving me enough atttention and when it comes down to hanging out with me or his friends he chooses them. I have to throw a fit in order for him to stay home sometimes. We just barely got in a fight today because he found a number on my phone and asked me who's it was, I confessed that it was some guy that I kissed last weekend because he got mad at me, told me it was over and took off. Now I told him what happened and he doesn't want to leave me or anything but said he is going to cheat because he's fed up and told me he hopes someday things can be the same between us and spills out his heart about how much he is hurt and then goes to his friends house. So I call him and he ignores my calls. I text him telling him I want to change and he just ignores me. Finally I get pissed off because he ignores me so much I tell him if he ignores me and takes off it's only gonna make things worse. Is he really hurt or fake?

2007-05-28 13:59:54 · 16 answers · asked by wifey 2

My fiance, with whom I built a house 2 years ago, has moved out of the house. We had lived together for 4 years and I came home to an empty house. The house is in her name, for interest rate reasons, but she has not been back nor will she contact me, answer emails, phone calls-no contact for 8 weeks now. Would this appear to be an abandonment of property? There are utility bills in my name. My license states this address AND there is mail that comes here with her first name and MY last name, as if we are married. Do I have rights to take over the house? I have not made payment due to she has all of the information. But I am sure that can be determined by a lawyer. Can someone shed some light on this very complicated situation that I find myself in? Do I have a case or will it be a waste of time and money?

2007-05-28 13:55:51 · 12 answers · asked by jbradspinks s 1

I was going out wit this girl about six months ago and we went different ways and now it's hard to talk to her. I went back to my ex and well I'm sure that she went back to her ex and we see eachother but we don't talk any advice

2007-05-28 13:37:01 · 8 answers · asked by Gilly 2

You run into Angelina Jolie by accident and she falls madly in love with you and wants to marry you. Will you still be happily married? Truthfully?

2007-05-28 13:35:55 · 27 answers · asked by trying to do good 2

2007-05-28 13:23:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

ME AND MY BOYFRIEND HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 6 YRS. AND LAST YR WHILE I WAS PREGNANT WITH HIS CHILD HE CHEATED ON ME WITH A PUERTO RICAN GIRL FOR ABOUT A MONTH, I WAS STUPID FOR TAKING HIM BACK.BUT I LOVE HIM AND I KNOW HE LOVES ME. WELL THIS GIRL LIVES IN NEW YORK AND SHE CAME BACK HERE ABOUT A MONTH AGO, AND I KEEP THINKING THAT MAYBE HE'S STILL SEEING HER WHICH I DON'T KNOW IF HE EVEN KNOWS SHE'S BACK. HE HASN'T GIVIN ME A REASON.BUT I FEEL LIKE I SHOULD JUST TELL HIM TO BE WITH HER SAYING THAT HE DESERVES TO BE WITH SOMEONE LIKE HER INSTEAD OF ME, SEE WHEN HE'S DRUNK HE SAYS HE DOESN'T EVEN WANT TO BE WITH ME SO I DON'T KNOW IF I SHOULD STAY WITH HIM OR JUST LET HIM GO, EITHER WAY I'M THE ONE THAT'S GOING TO BE GETTING HURT.

2007-05-28 13:07:56 · 9 answers · asked by CASPER 2

Me- Bored (That's what got me to type this in the first place. XD)

2007-05-28 12:59:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-28 12:58:02 · 9 answers · asked by Steve T 2

Do you agree that when you are raising you children, you are not raising children, but instead you are actually raising men and women?
Obviously, they aren't adults when they are children, but we aren't raising kids, we're raising men and women. We teach our children to behave as men and women in healthy relationships. How do we teach them that if we don't show them by example? Do we raise our children only to teach them that their children come first ahead of their spouse instead of showing them what a healthy relationship between husband and wife looks like? Only to see when they get older they don't know how to treat their spouse as it relates to their children...In the meantime, the relationship with your husband goes to sh*t....He finds a girlfriend and you no longer want to have sex with him because there is no passion in your relationship. Years later your children grow up and leave home and you're waking up to someone you don't even know anymore...Does this change your mind?

2007-05-28 12:53:42 · 18 answers · asked by YBMEUBU 3

I try to be nice to my husband's ex and she just flat out refuses anything to do with me. I stay out of the child support/visitation arrangements between she and my husband because that part isn't any of my business. It's between the two of them to work out just like it would have been if he and I never married. I try to include her daughter in things, and she gets angry about that. I mailed my step-daughter a birthday card in August and signed it from her sisters (my husband and my children) and the witch called me a week later to say that she would prefer I said "Half-sisters." I don't ask my husband to say anything to her because there should not be extra strain on their relationship for my step-daughter's sake. Earlier tonight, I called the woman to ask her to do a favor for me so I could do something from the girls to my husband for Father's Day and she got crabby again. I don't want to say anything that will add more stress to the situation..

2007-05-28 12:51:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok,if your husband/boyfriend choked you once that all most made u pass out,(he was mad at you)what would you do?

2007-05-28 12:48:18 · 20 answers · asked by valasyk 1

My ex and his wife wants to throw my son a birthday party and would like to do with me, my boyfriend, and my daughter. It doesn't bother me to do this but my boyfriend of 4 years kinda feels uncomfortable. What should I do?

2007-05-28 12:45:56 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband sometimes says hurtful things after he's had way too much to drink. I usually only reply with a short answer like,ok. Then try to stay busy and ignore him.We've been married for 23 years,and at times he'll let things from the past bother him when he's been drinking.I try hard to not let him hurt my feelings,or dwell on what he's saying at the moment.
I used to be told by someone else years ago that the truth comes out when someone is drinking,but I really don't believe that after my experiences.
Leaving him is not an option for me,because I know the kind of man he is when he isn't drinking,and hope that one day he will again quit.He had quit for almost 12 years,and started again last year. He is not abusive to me physically.

2007-05-28 12:36:53 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous

How am I suppose to react to him telling me he loves me but doesnt want to be with me. We have 3 kids and he loves them i know but he just doesnt want to be a husband or a dad. How do i keep my cool for the kids sake I love my kids anfd i know this is breaking their hearts. How do i let them know their dad loves them and so do I.

2007-05-28 12:34:22 · 8 answers · asked by Kimberly M 1

So....if you don't have something nice to say then don't say anything at all.


I've been married for four years and my husband and I got married pretty young, 17 & 18. Well to make a long story short...I've cheated on him a few times, not slept with anyone else but I have made out with other guys. Now I know I need to change or my whole life is likely to fall apart and soon! My husband said he is not going to leave me because he loves me but he is finally to the point where he cant take it anymore and said he is going to cheat on me now. Now I know I probably deserve it but does this make things right?? I don't know what to do and it sucks because I know it's my own damn fault. Any suggestions??

2007-05-28 12:34:10 · 12 answers · asked by wifey 2

I am 22 and have been in a relationship for a long time (6 years). I love her so much. I can sit here and promis her that i will never ever cheat on her. I can't explain it, i just wont let it happen, that is the bottom line. She says honey i love you and i know i love you but i can't promis you that. I know i will never try hurt you and i don't wont to cheat on you but it is the future and i just don't know. But i can say i love you.

2007-05-28 12:32:22 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am always getting blamed for flirting from my wife, which she doesn't care about. But she says when I hug a female friend, My hugs are to tight and/or to long. I don't mean anything, or at least I don't think I do. ?????

2007-05-28 12:11:52 · 23 answers · asked by Ducci 3

I am a little older than my wife, and my concept of money is a bit better than hers. I am a saver, and she is a spender. I make more money than her, but she spends more than me. I tried setting up budgets for the week, and at the end of the week, I may have 100-150 dollars left, and she has none and is always asking for some of my budget money because she is out. What should I do?

2007-05-28 12:09:26 · 37 answers · asked by Ducci 3

Regardless...even if he is shy, been hurt before, or scared of rejection. What do you think and why?

2007-05-28 11:43:57 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Does he need to know? Is he doing something similar?

2007-05-28 11:25:23 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

I saw a question with this term in it and I was just wondering what it was.

2007-05-28 11:12:53 · 19 answers · asked by Jessi 2

This may or may not happen often, but here's my story... To begin, I'll start by saying that I'm in the military. I met a girl at a club on base that I've been seeing for a couple days now. By "seeing", I mean we've been dancing and having a good time together, keeping it clean. The problem is, she's married. Despite the ring on her finger, we flirt back and forth like shes single. At the end of the night though, I respect that ring and it goes no farther than a hug. It's the morally right thing to do, but its obviously hard to deal with. I'm not in love with her, but every time she mentions her husband in a story where he neglected her or took her for granted, my heart just sinks. Of course, right now is the time that need to make a decision on whether to see her anymore. I'm sure the answer to this is buried somewhere in a romance novel.. What should I do, and how would I go about doing it? I'm open to emails, please contact me if you feel you can help me out here. Thanks

2007-05-28 11:11:28 · 7 answers · asked by anasasisxenophontis 2

I am not sure what to say anymore? He is going out to the bars 6 nights a week until late, says things like" I want to be alone, I want to have things the way they were before i got married and had a kid, I can do what I want to" and so on...None of his old friends are married or have kids. These men are almost 40 by the way if that gives you any idea on how immature THEY are too. No one will marry them to be frank!! He won't take me anywhere cuz he wants to portray being single and not wanting to watch our son. He thinks it is "boring" to take our son to the park and have meals together. He'd rather go out to bars all night and then eat junk at 2am. I can't take it anymore. He has people over here at night when I am trying to sleep for work and get our baby to sleep. What do I say or do about this? How can you get an almost 40 yo man to give up his past stuff and be a hubby/dad????

2007-05-28 11:08:19 · 28 answers · asked by Samantha 3

I am looking for honest and inexpensive lawyer for my divorce.

2007-05-28 10:58:34 · 8 answers · asked by jessi 1