So....if you don't have something nice to say then don't say anything at all.
I've been married for four years and my husband and I got married pretty young, 17 & 18. Well to make a long story short...I've cheated on him a few times, not slept with anyone else but I have made out with other guys. Now I know I need to change or my whole life is likely to fall apart and soon! My husband said he is not going to leave me because he loves me but he is finally to the point where he cant take it anymore and said he is going to cheat on me now. Now I know I probably deserve it but does this make things right?? I don't know what to do and it sucks because I know it's my own damn fault. Any suggestions??
2007-05-28 12:34:10 · 12 answers · asked by wifey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It doesn't make things right, it just makes things even.
I would suggest marriage counselling to find the root of why you the feel the need to kiss other guys. You have some work ahead of you to regain your husband's trust, but if your dedicated to this marriage...you can do it.
Good Luck.
2007-05-28 12:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That definitely doesn't make things right. "An eye for an eye will make the whole world blind." Usually cheating is a sign that you're lacking something in the relationship and that is what needs to be addressed to stop the behavior. Your husband cheating on you doesn't do anything but make the situation worse. I'm sure he's hurt and thinks that maybe hurting you will show you what it's like so that you'll stop, but that's definitely not the answer. I'd suggest couples counseling to help heal the hurts and solve whatever issue led you to cheat in the first place.
2007-05-28 12:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by bluehonu13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat as your husband. I've been cheated on and I soooo much want to even the score. I feel and I'm sure your husband feels it's not fair that you can have your cake and eat it too while he's on his best behavior. I think there comes a point where the receiving end decides F it. I'm going to play to. I'm at that point myself. I'm not sure I'm going to be as disciplined now if someone hits on me like I was before. I'm not trying to sound revengeful. But I want to eat some of that cake too.
2007-05-28 12:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the question u need to ask urself is.... do u want to stay with ur husband... it sounds like u dont really want to... and that does not make u a bad person... the fact u cheated on him does not make u a bad person..... but u have to ask urself "do i think that my marriage is able to be saved" and if the answer is yes... then dont cheat on him anymore.... stay on the straight and narrow... and be true to him... if the answer is no.... then leave him.... it will be easier the sooner u do it.... good luck to u♥
2007-05-28 12:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by want a princess baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need serious professional marriage counseling, and you need it now. If you don't, you are already headed into a painful downward spiral. If you act fast you might be able to avoid it now before the two of you do more stupid stuff.
Kent in SD
2007-05-28 13:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by duckgrabber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definatly not right for him to go and cheat on you, after he found out that u cheated on him. it doesn't make things right between you two, if he got mad at you, then he should expect that your going to get mad at him. and if he gets mad at u because ur mad at him, then its all just a bunch of bull, and juse leave him before everything gets worse. and if he really loves you, then he wouldn't turn around and do the same thing to you.
2007-05-28 13:19:07 · answer #6 · answered by Janha S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not make things right for him to cheat on you. If he does, you both will grow to resent one another. The best advice I can give is to get some marital counseling.
2007-05-28 12:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up. This is not high school, this is marriage and I assume that since you married so young that there is an innocent child involved.
Get counseling and grow up.
2007-05-28 12:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by Schwinn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are lucky that he is going to stay with you, but you are right, two wrongs don't make it right. It's a reaction to what you have done, but it's unusually cruel.
2007-05-28 12:41:24 · answer #9 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i cant say anything nice, i wont say anything except KARMA ha ha!! gotta love karma at its finest. hope all these military wives that are cheating see this...love it
2007-05-28 13:02:28 · answer #10 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋