Marriage & Divorce - 28 May 2007

I was answering Falco's question on cheating when I found myself putting 'just' physical and as I typed it it occured to me that I had no idea how that would work (which I put in brackets) and then thought to myself, well, let's find out then....

Basically when someone says they're not emotionally involved, it's just a physical thing how is that possible???

I can't get my head around it, how can you be physically intimate but not emotionally involved on some level?

I'm not asking because someone's done something by the way, just because I'm genuinely befuddled by it as a concept....

2007-05-28 03:47:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Been married for 5 years and my marriage is as dull as dishwater despite trying to spice it up many times. My husband is a couch potato and doesn't even want to try to work things out. Our daughter is 3 and recently I've started going out every couple of weeks drinking with single friends. I've been snogging a couple of blokes. I wouldn't sleep with them but does this count as being unfaithful or is it just a laugh?

2007-05-28 03:43:42 · 61 answers · asked by Abbey H 1

we've been together for 2.5 years, things are good.

However I have to leave this country to get back to the west, as I need to progress in my career and staying here any longer will be detrimental to this.

However, she cant leave as we dont have the funds/property to get the visa - and we both dont want to marry yet.

Also long distance isn't an option.

Do I stay here with the woman I love and never be able to advance in my career, or leave and be heartbroken?.

2007-05-28 03:34:14 · 16 answers · asked by jimmypayneman 1

My ex is not paying her half of auto insurance($475), her $250 of health and since our son moved in with me while going to college she isn't paying her 1/3 of room and board. How is the best way to handle this? Do I need to get a lawyer?

2007-05-28 03:32:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

This was the 1st time I caught him after married 8 years. I was shocked and felt very hurt and upset. I ask him why but he cannot answer and refuse to answer. He ask me never to ever mention or talk about it. I ask him whether he always does it all these while but he denies t. He says it was because I was pregnant and did not want to ask me to have sex with him because he feels that I might have difficulty to do it. Why men still masturbate even though he have good sex wih wive?

2007-05-28 03:32:16 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous

my mom is divorcing my dad and its really shaking me up emotionally. I dont wanna go to therapy or anything.....but theres still some romance. any date ideas for an 11 year old? [to do for her parents]

2007-05-28 03:25:10 · 6 answers · asked by mary 1

my fiancee that i live with already his trying to make up his mind....he is the mamas boy of his family and he is trying to make his mom happy before me...im so confused because i know thing might get worse once we get married...

2007-05-28 03:23:06 · 16 answers · asked by bbmonkey23 2

2007-05-28 03:18:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-28 03:14:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

She eats twice as much as me on every meal and snacks all day. I feel repulsed when she kisses me.

2007-05-28 03:01:15 · 24 answers · asked by hae 1

What can I do, I am filled with rage and sadness.

2007-05-28 02:49:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am in love with someone i have been talking to for a long time and i want it to be legal we consider ourselves already married but we want to do it legally so it anyone knows the answer and how to do it please let me know

2007-05-28 02:39:31 · 6 answers · asked by denise s 1

i just want to know if it is required or not for a married couple to renew their vows. i mean it sounds romantic, but y? it's like going thru the whole wedding process again....

2007-05-28 02:35:52 · 16 answers · asked by amy2188us 1

About 50% of marriages end in divorce (highest estimate I've read). Then 50% of them end un-amicably.

Why should gays get special rights to avoid divorce court?

2007-05-28 02:23:50 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

this may take a minute...

man was married(wife cheated) and began seeing a woman, me...

on again off again, talked for hours, tried to even help with the marriage to work if that was what he wanted...

i was getting tired of the "i'm going back to my wife" and was going to end it...but got pregnant

skip ahead, we are now married with the baby and now another...

i stay at home with kids, i love him, he is a great guy, loves the kids and me but i feel like i am going crazy. i don't leave the house except for dr. appt. or to go to my moms with kids to spend the night maybe 2 times a month. his life seems to be going on as usual, i know its changed but mine has done a 180 turn. i was working, very independant with no responsibilities but to myself. i feel very trapped at times and am afraid i'm beginning to resent my kids, kinda feel like i wouldn't be here if not for the oldest (my fault i know for unprotected sex) but like i said i love him and want out children to have

2007-05-28 02:17:53 · 14 answers · asked by SweetieGoat 4

basically the girl who helped sort things out between me and my guy - stole him!! They were the best of friends, and since he trusted her, I did to. We got into a fight she called me a 2am , telling me he loves me and I told her I love him to and did not mean for the fight to happen...

Invariably me and him parted ways - cause he decided its over, I did love him truly... 1 month later he told me he never did said he loves someone else... 5 months later we spoken again, and got back, and broke up just as easily - I can say I trusted him way to much - He broke my heart...
Spoke 2 months later as friends, he was awefully rude, and said he didn't ever want to walk to me again, and I should just to to hell!!

Today, I saw him and that girl, walking out of the guy I used to go to, and apparently he's joined the gym too, they were walking like I used to with him, and I knew it was her that he's now in love with. I don't know what to do, feel like I'm on the verge of a breakdown. heLP

2007-05-28 02:11:45 · 7 answers · asked by Franky 1

Do you really want an honest answer?? Also, are you trully willing to look at yourself and THINK??
Most of relationship problems stem from simple "Selfishness", think about it now!! Don't fly off the handle, really THINK it through and you will see that "Selfishness" on your part or your partners part, is the "Root" of your relationship problems.
After accepting that selfishness does exist here, the next thought will be to "Rationalize" that selfishness. "Well....he or she, did this or that" and with that you declare your "Right" in the matter.
"Well...I'm horny!!" "I want this or that" "He never does this or that for me!!" And if he or she did that in truth, check the "Selfishness Factor"!! It pops up everytime.
How about this, before you get in trouble. "Could WE possibly do this??" Or "Can WE make this happen about such and such"?? You have to sit together and agree to THINK and FEEL and BE as a single mind. Not two people struggling! Especially not AT each other

2007-05-28 01:53:55 · 11 answers · asked by dontwobears@sbcglobal.net 4

When my wife and I have sex, I cannot have an orgasm. I am attracted to her, it just takes me so long. I always have to finish myself off, and she gets upset. It used to not be so hard, but here lately its almost impossible. She gets so upset, and I dont have any explantions for her.

2007-05-28 01:19:51 · 18 answers · asked by Chet the Body 2

2007-05-28 00:53:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Back in December, my wife and I decided to start looking for a piece of property to build a non-profit school on and I contacted this agent online.
As it turns out, the agent is a young woman, not ugly, but not a real beauty either.
How can I end this nightmare?
My wife was snooping in my unread e-mails and asked why this lady wanted to e-mail me.
I told her to read the e-mail after I took a look, it was only a listing for a condo, which we weren't interested in.
She refused to look.
She constantly brings the woman's name up, as the woman is a persistant saleslady and calls, e-mails and texts me every week to look at one property or other, (which I don't go to see).
I told the woman that my wife was jealous of her, but the woman tells me that my wife is the one who contacted her to tell me about the properties.
We are together pretty every minute and I couldn't cheat even if I wanted to.
Also, I am a white American and my wife is a Filipina, we live in the Philippines.

2007-05-28 00:10:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

and forgive & forget the harsh words, or do you think it does damage u can't repair?

2007-05-28 00:07:06 · 18 answers · asked by SweetieGoat 4