my fiancee that i live with already his trying to make up his mind....he is the mamas boy of his family and he is trying to make his mom happy before me...im so confused because i know thing might get worse once we get married...
2007-05-28 03:23:06 · 16 answers · asked by bbmonkey23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
things will get worse. it's not too late to run. trust me you are fighting a losing battle. good luck. here's a star to remind you you should be treated like one.
2007-05-28 03:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by Luch d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people believe that "Mamas Boys" are not good. As long as his mother is not conducting your relationship then it should not be a problem.
The way a person treats you in a relationship all begins begins from his enviroment, and his family. If he is attentive, family oriented and respectful and loving to his family. Believe, that you will get that same kind of behavior from him to you and he will be there for you.
In your case do not fight him on it, because family will come first. The more pester him about the more you will push him away from you. He will feel that you are being overbearing and possessive and you want to seperate him from his mom.
You can always at a calm, neutral discussion mention it to him and discuss with him that you do not mind him being and wanting to do things for his family, but the two of you are about to begin a family, and ask if he can curb giving the excessive amount of attention to his mother.
2007-05-28 10:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out and see if it makes a difference. You're acting like wifey without being wifey. You're playing house without being married. So what exactly is the reason you would expect this guy to marry you?
He's sampled the goods, the goods moved in with him for even more convenient sampling. Now he still can't make up his mind. Picky just a little bit?
Tell him that you can do better than just being his live-in. Tell him ultimately you want marriage and a family and if not that, then it would be more fun and you'd have more serious prospects if you were dating.
Then do it. Move out. You've explained yourself. If he runs to Mom who says, 'See, what did I tell you?' then count yourself lucky that you didn't stay and see and hear variations on that for years.
2007-05-28 11:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you are correct... that lady will run your life. Mama's boys need to grow balls, hon, and he won't do that until he realizes how controlling she is, and he won't ever get that, until he gets some counseling.
Funny thing about mama's boys,is that they have no understanding how it hinders their relationships with women, but the women do!!!!big time. Until he realizes that his allegiances belong with his wife and not mama, you will always be number two, and in your shoes, unless he is in counseling on how to train her before you you marry him, don't marry him.... If you marry this guy, you are in for some really big disappointments.......if you do marry this guy.... he'll dump plans he had for you to be with her in a minute, particularly if she has no gentleman in her life.... And she will repeatedly make up excuses to have him with her knowing full well you and he had plans.... happens every goddamn time....
My sympathies to you for what you may be taking on, and my sorrows for your future disappointments.
2007-05-28 11:00:45 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you something, i know what you mean!!! I dated one once before and I would never do it again (obviously because im married) but anyhow i would seriously really really evaluate the situation before you decide to get married, and whatever you do, DONT LIVE WITH YOUR INLAWS, no matter what the circumstance is, its like asking for a death sentence. I would make sure that maybe you arent jealous btwn the closeness with his mother and him before you decide to end it (if u do).... Don't worry about it too much, because if it doesnt work out with him there is somebody thats out there for you.
2007-05-28 10:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by Kablina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right, things might get worse or at least remain the same. Are you sure you want to tolerate this? You need to sit down with your thoughts and think this through carefully. Remember, you have the right to be happy. Good luck.
2007-05-28 10:35:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Momma boys aren't the way to go. He is going to always compare you to his mother and that mean my mommy don't do it this way. Then when his mother calls he is going to drop you like a hotcake and go running to mommy.
You need to talk to him about the way you feel. Put the wedding off a little longer to see if he will change. When you an him get married he need to know that you and him become one and that mommy isn't first anymore. It's in the Bible and his mother knows better to.
2007-05-28 10:28:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea..If he's a mamas boy now...you just wait! Some men are just like that..not all though!
2007-05-28 10:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by justwonderingwhatever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "it might get worse"?
Tell him to cut the apron strings or marry his Mommie.
2007-05-28 10:27:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better think twice. Momma can cause a lot of trouble if baby boy let's her.
2007-05-28 10:26:32 · answer #10 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋